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Hi guys,

Long time since I've been here. I'm an organiser of conference in the UK in a week and a half's time. Anyone in the UK want to come? Here's the announcement -

Wendy Turner (EPA), Lisa Cohen (JUMP), Neil Lyndon, Barry Worrall, John Holden, EPA and more to speak at the United Equal Parenting Conference 2007  - The Best Interests of the Child. The conference, at The Warehouse, 1a Cumberland Road, Reading, RG1 3LB will be on the weekend, 16th and 17th June. The conference will discuss the best interested of the child and will include the following speakers -

Wendy and Paul Turner
"A Child's Right Not To Choose"
Wendy Turner, a tireless campaigner for equal parenting and recently appointed Chair of the Equal Parenting Alliance, will talk about the child's right not to choose; that the child should not be forced to favour or select one parent only

JUMP
Lisa Cohen will be speaking for JUMP, Jewish Unity for Multiple Parenting, a support and lobby group. She will be talking about "My fight for my children" and the living bereavement it creates and how parental alienation affects the relationship with the parent. She is including a short film on the subject of PAS.

Neil Lyndon is the author of "No More Sex War: The Failures of Feminism" and will argue that the best interest of the child are the best interests of the state.
To quote Daniel Patrick Moynahan, "Family and Nation", 1965 - "There is one unmistakable lesson in American history: A community that allows a large number of young men to grow up in broken families, dominated by women, never acquiring any stable relationship to male authority, never acquiring any set of rational expectations about the future -- that community asks for and gets chaos... And it is richly deserved."

Barry Worrall is a men's campaigner and author of "Without Authority". He will talk about the 'best interests of the child' - a revolutionary & personal view by Barry Worrall and argue that best interests of child and of society is to be raised into good citizens, who can contribute to our society. How is this done? To be raised by people who brought them into the world & care most about them - their father & mother.

The Equal Parenting Alliance
The EPA will talk about the recent election and their part in it and about plans to have more candidates in future elections.

John Holden
A Father's Report At The Childcatcher's Conference"
John Holden, an equal parenting campaigner for some years, will talk about the latest professional initiatives in family courts and for children after separation, having attended a recent conference by people who think they know better than parents.

Others
A number of others will be speaking, but topic details are not yet finalised.  Amongst others this will include a Sikh and a humanist on their position on equal parenting and the best interests of the child.



Booking is now being accepted for the conference online or by cheque.

For details see the website http://www.unitedconference.com
Or to join the mailing list send a blank email to [email protected]

We would like to hear from other organisations and also individuals who would like to put their views to the conference. Suggestions for speakers to [email protected]

There are social events on Friday and Saturday evenings.

There will also be a separate half day conference on men's rights in general and is called ""Men's Hour Conference - The Men's Movement - Where is It?". Including Raymond Cuttill on "Why have 2 sexes anyway?" and Barry Worrall on "How to go forward from here".
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Want to help plan the way forward?

Come and help plan the way forward at the United Equal Parenting Conference - The Way Forward, this Saturday 17th 10am at the Central Hall Westminster, London (opposite Westminster Abbey and close to Parliament Square). You can hear about from authors like Barry Worrall ("Without Authority") and Neil Lyndon ("No More Sex War"), hear from Philip A. Else of the Equal Parenting Alliance and from Mike Kelly of Real Fathers For Justice (who may bring a video of the Blair residence protest on Friday) and others. Hear about what they suggest and what others have to say and have your say, what you want and what you'd like to happen. Entrance is free but a donation of whatever you can afford commensurate with a full day's event would be appreciated. Check out the website www.unitedconference.com for more information. Come and have your say on equal parenting.

Agenda

Time has been allocated for maximum discourse and exchange of views and information

10 am Introduction

10:10 Barry Worrall - Family Law - A personal review

11:00 PACT - Victims of Another War

11:45 Discussion and questions

12 pm Lunch

12:30pm John Campion - Divorce Law Practice - The Matrilineal Society

12:45pm Neil Lyndon - It's time for men to get political

1:30 pm Philip A. Else - Equal Parenting Alliance

2:00 pm Discussion and questions

2:30pm Wendy - A Woman's Story

2:45 pm Mike Kelly - Real Fathers For Justice

3:15 pm Final Discussion and Panel

4:45 pm Close
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I'll be back or at least my friend will be back - Matt O'Connor hands Fathers 4 Justice over

From Men's Hour F4J News
Re-Born Fathers 4 Justice Launch 'Child Focused' Campaign


PRESS RELEASE 27/3/06


Re-Born Fathers 4 Justice Launch 'Child Focused' Campaign

Fathers 4 Justice (F4J) announced yesterday on Radio 5 Live's 'Forgotten Fathers' programme that it's high profile campaign IS to continue despite the group formally disbanding in January following the alleged Leo Blair plot.

The announcement follows a series of behind the scenes talks and a high level meeting on Saturday where F4J management considered how best to secure and continue the progress already made.

The group has been inundated with requests from both supporters and the public to continue it's campaign.

Senior management reported increasing public concern about the absence of any credible alternative to F4J, and that the progress made over the last three years threatened to unravel and take the issue of children's rights back to pre F4J days.

F4J Founder Matt O'Connor formally handed over the reigns to the new team including Andrew Work, Guy Harrison and Brian Ross at a formal meeting in central London on Saturday.

O'Connor, who is working on the launch of his new political pressure group later this year, will continue to advise the group on PR and Media relations alongside Glen Poole.

Said O'Connor "I am delighted that there not only exists such commitment to carry our work forward, but that people better than me can take what I started and bring F4J to the next stage."

The organisation publicly known for its the Superhero stunts is now making the transition to a respectable voice for change, despite the group being the subject of a dirty tricks campaign designed to silence it.

A new parliamentary team headed by barrister Michael Cox will be meeting with government, church and family law institutions and is ready to work with them to achieve concrete reform in family law. Whilst F4J will retain the ability to carry out non-violent direct action, this is expected to be required only for exceptional circumstances as the group enters the next phase of the campaign.

"There is no place for extremists or extremism in F4J, we must lead by example and rise above the inherent injustice practised against our children behind the closed doors of the family courts", said Andrew Work today.

"The first phase of the campaign required Direct Action for the issue to be heard. The next phase requires concrete change, and that needs serious engagement and demonstrable results. Hundreds of thousands of children are denied the right to half of their family as a direct result of a failed family legal system, and the public clearly want it corrected as a matter of urgency. And most importantly our children deserve nothing less", he added.

F4J also announced on Saturday that it will soon be launching a charitable foundation to support children who were suffering from the loss of family as a consequence of family law injustice.
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Men's Hour United Conference - The Way Forward -

http://www.unitedconference.com

Following the disbanding of Fathers 4 Justice, it was unclear which way to go and how to get there. A conference was conceived by Thames Valley Equal Parenting and the Men's Hour.  The "Men's Hour United Conference - The Way Forward" is in London on June 17th, 2006, the day before Father's Day.

It is to discuss the way forward for children's rights, equal parenting, men's and fathers issues, including mutual support, media campaigning, political lobbying, protest, marches and non-violent direct action.

Activists, campaigners, authors and well-known figures have been invited to speak. Suggestions for additional speakers are welcome. All views are welcome on how to progress the rights of fathers and men in general.  The conference is to encourage the exchange of ideas and contacts and will end with an open discussion of strategy and plans.

Because men and fathers can be poor, especially if they are fighting a long court case, we have decided there is no fixed admission to the conference. Instead please make a donation. This can be paid at the door or via the website. Please give what you can afford. 10 or more if you can.

Please join the Yahoo group to discuss it and hear news and/or register if you wish to attend.
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I posted this on my Men's Hour blog
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For an exciting morning on Saturday 24th Sept. come to Slough.  (Slough is 20 miles west of London) Close to the station and with good parking, you can enjoy the delights of Slough shopping centre and regale shoppers outside Boots with why you think you should see your children. We'll be manning (or personning) a stand with badges and petitions and marching a big banner up and down the pedestrian precinct.  You might even meet people who think your message should have a prominent place ... on the dark side of the moon or others who think that the entire democratic structure of the United Kingdom will fall apart if you didn't get permission in triplicate to be there, but mostly you'll meet others who know someone in the same boat and are sympathetic.  If you'd like to join us
           Time: 10am to 2pm
           Place outside Boots (184 HIGH STREET, SLOUGH SL1 1JR)
           Map: http://www.streetmap.co.uk/newmap.srf?x=497852&y=179724&z=0&sv=SL1+1JR&st=2&pc=SL1+1JR&mapp=newmap.srf&searchp=newsearch.srf
If lost etc. call me from about 9am on 0790 552 0513
Raymond Cuttill

And got this comment from someone named adfst
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This activity is a waste of time if it doesnt lead to the following
jailed fathers being freed
misandrys advocates being jailed
child support pigs and parrasites loosing their free meal ticket etc

Adfst gave standyourground.com for the URL so I thought I'd post my answer here too.
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I'm doing something Saturday even if it is an ant fighting an elephant. What are you doing?

And I'm going to have a moan (which is unusual for me). (Note. I'm not having a go at anyone here, apart from adfst) Essentially it's this. If anyone has any critical comments about someone else's activism but they are not doing anything themselves could they please pull their pants down, bend over and insert their comments in some convenient place they may find.  :lol:
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Main / Michael Buerk on What Are Men For
Aug 21, 2005, 11:04 AM
This Tuesday on UK Channel 5
What Are Men For

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DOCUMENTARY:  Don't Get Me Started!
Channel: five
Tuesday 23rd August 2005
Time: 19:15 to 20:00 (starting in 2 days)
Duration: 45 minutes.
Michael Buerk on What Are Men For.
This provocative series gives some of Britain's leading thinkers a chance to sound off on the issues they feel most strongly about. In this first programme Michael Buerk examines man's role in today's femocracy and asks whether there will come a time when men aren't needed at all.


I sincerely hope that's not what he's asking.  It could be a serious oppurtunity to get some home truths out there.  Then again maybe not  :(
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Main / The week the women went - Men 1 BBC 0
Aug 17, 2005, 05:24 AM
I've just added this to my Men's Hour Blog

The BBC has just aired a reality show where 70 women leave a small village and the men had to cope with the children for a week on their own. The BBC describes it in The Week The Women Went
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The quiet Nottinghamshire village of Harby looks like any other rural idyll at first glance. But look closer and it soon becomes apparent that something's up - there isn't one woman to be seen. For one week in April the 70 women who usually reside in Harby disappeared, leaving the men all on their own. BBC Three discovers what happened The Week the Women Went.

Research suggests that while women have taken more and more of a place in the world of work, men are still on the back foot as far as domestic life is concerned. Most mothers in Britain today feel part of a community but it is not uncommon for men to have no connection with their neighbours at all. Whilst many females have learnt to become a dab hand at juggling work, home, and the kids, many males have never spent 24 hours with the children, let alone seven whole days.


However in iafrica.com reports a different aspect in The Week women went
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Such is the worry that the village -- and especially its men -- might be portrayed in a bad light, the entire population is to hold an emergency meeting, the Times said.

"The village is certainly divided over this, and there has definitely been some bad feeling that was not here before the BBC came along," parish council chairman Richard Croft told the paper.

The Daily Telegraph 'We didn't look like fools after all' finds the men didn't cope.
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Kelly Lamb-Webb, the series producer, who chose Harby because of its isolated location, hit back. "The programme is about showing what happens when the women go away and the men are thrust into the domestic and community sphere. Of course, there are some households where the men are very involved, but I think there are others where domestic chaos will ensue."
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So did Lamb-Webb's hoped-for dystopia occur? Did the men discover that they couldn't cope without their other halves? In the first episode, which will be shown on Monday, it would seem so. The men all look hopeless and frightened, and it's only the first day. One attempts to make spaghetti bolognese with rice. Another's daughter, who can be no more than five, asks her father what they will be doing that day. A look of panic crosses his face. "What are we doing? I don't know. You're the boss, the only woman in the house."


Anyone who thinks the men all looked hopeless and frightened must have been watching a different programme to me.  There were unmade beds, childhood tantrums and cooking disasters, but considering there were 70 women missing they were stretching it to fill 30 minutes with the men's disasters and only showed about half a dozen men. Generally the children were fed and clothed and housework and washing was done.  The men also have to make a communal playing field, a serious construction project in itself. The men were left alone without any support or guidance and mostly coped. One man started a communal childcare scheme in the village hall and cooking classes were organised.

There were also some positive points came out. From the Telegraph again.

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Many of the men claim they coped very well. Some say they positively enjoyed the experience. Sam Aldridge, a 31-year-old mechanic, even wants his wife, Caroline, to get a job so that he can give up work and look after their two children -- Nikita,1, and Tamzin, 3 -- full time. "Nikita wouldn't let me hold her before the film crews came, but by the end of it, she wouldn't leave my side and clung on to me, screaming when Caroline tried to hold her," he says. "The housework was fine, too."

   Caroline corroborates his story. "Yes, it's true. He puts the kids to bed now. And before, if there was something on the floor, he'd just step over it. Now, he steps over it a few times and then eventually picks it up.'

 For Andrew Argyle, a solicitor, the week became a chance for him to bond with his two stepsons, Guy, 13, and Louis, 11.

   "I wouldn't say that we were distant before, but we are very close now," he says. "Previously, if they had problems, they'd obviously go straight to their mother, but without her, they had to come to me, and we had a lot of deep discussions. They're not so much stepsons as sons now."

   His wife, Kim, points out some imperfections in Mr. Argyle's first attempts at child care. "When I watched the program afterward, I noticed that the boys wore the same clothes every day. When I put this to Andrew, he said: 'But they were wearing clean pants and socks.' And he let them wear the clothes they wear when they ride our horses inside the house. All over my beautiful furniture. I couldn't believe it."



Of course, in the above quote we see how the women has to give her comment on what the men said and it has to end on some negative point.  I doubt Caroline will go out to work anytime soon so Sam can look after the children and Andrew's increased closeness to his children is simply ignored as he didn't change his children's outer clothes every day (surely an individual judgement call?).  

The real news is this hasn't been the disaster the BBC was hoping for. Getting rice and spaghetti confused is not a major disaster. I wonder if the women would have done so well if they had to build the communal playing field. The BBC has shown that that for the most part that men can cope.  They have a learning curve but they just get on with it. Men coping is not good TV.  The disaster they wanted hasn't happened.  The BBC shows this by putting the series on BBC3.  BBC3 is a digital channel available on cable and other places, unlike BBC1 an analogue channel that everyone gets. If it had been the disaster they wanted it would be on BBC1 with an air of "look at these stupid men".
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Main / Real Fathers For Justice blog
Jul 14, 2005, 03:49 AM
For those who want to know what's happening with F4J
Have just added a Real Fathers For Justice blog
at men.typepad.com/rffj

See also Men's Hour blog and F4J News
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Today is self-injury awareness day, but it seems no-one gets cut up about it

Today is self-injury awareness day, but it seems no-one gets cut up about it

I've just added this to the Men's Hour Blog

Apparently today, March 1st, is Self-Injury Awareness Day 2005, but no government seems interested.

Self-Injury Awareness Day: March 1, 2005

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Self-Injury Awareness Day (SIAD) is a global day for the recognition of Self Injury.  So far it hasn't been recognized officially by any nation and only 1 state in the United States recognizes the day.  This is a grassroots campaign.  In order to get recognition you can write to  political figures telling them about the day and asking them to do something to get recognition for the day.   You could also write to the papers telling them about the day.  Also an orange ribbon has become the universal ribbon color to represent Self-Injury.


American Self-Harm Information Clearinghouse

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Approximately 1% of the population has, at one time or another, used self-inflicted physical injury as a means of coping with an overwhelming situation or feeling. ASHIC - the American Self-Harm Information Clearinghouse - strives to increase public awareness of the phenomenon of self-inflicted violence and the unique challenges faced by self-injurers and the people who care about them.



LifeSIGNS (Self Injury Guidance & Network Support)

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Self injury is any deliberate, non suicidal behaviour that inflicts physical harm on your body and is aimed at relieving emotional distress. Physical pain is often easier to deal with than emotional pain, because it causes 'real' feelings. Injuries can prove to an individual that their emotional pain is real and valid. Self injurious behaviour may calm or awaken a person. Yet self injury only provides temporary relief, it does not deal with the underlying issues. Self injury can become a natural response to the stresses of day to day life and can escalate in frequency and severity.


Children it seems are particularly vulnerable to this. Whilst reading Should girls wrestle boys? on the Stand Your Ground forum came across this.

America's children search for meaning

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Could it be that our kids are searching for meaning? Could it be that they are so numbed by the anything-goes society that they are pushing the envelope just to feel alive? Take cutting. It's a phenomenon now prevalent in even the best schools, and it's exactly what you're hoping it isn't: self-mutilation. Kids casually cut themselves with knives, safety pins and razor blades - just because. In Michelle Malkin's column of Feb. 23, she refers to a school counselor telling the parent of a middle-school student, "70 percent of the kids here cut or know someone who does. It's cool, a trend, and acceptable."



The new youth craze: self mutilation

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Have you heard of "cutting"? If you're a parent, you'd better read up. "Cutting" refers to self-mutilation - using knives, razor blades or even safety pins to deliberately harm one's own body - and it's spreading to a school near you.

Actresses Angelina Jolie and Christina Ricci did it. So did Courtney Love and the late Princess Diana. On the Internet, there are scores of websites (with titles such as "Blood Red," "Razor Blade Kisses" and "The Cutting World") featuring "famous self-injurers," photos of teenagers' self-inflicted wounds and descriptions of their techniques. The destructive practice has been depicted in films targeting young girls and teens (such as "Thirteen"). There is even a new genre of music - "emo" - associated with promoting the cutting culture.

In Britain, health-care researchers estimate that one in 10 teenagers engages in addictive self injury.


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I just found out this week that my 14-year-old daughter is a "cutter." She has a 4.0 average, 8th grade, goes to a good school, and is well-liked by all who know her. She is popular, has two homes (mine and her dad's) with supportive, loving families in each. Her own friends cut, too: four of them that I know of now between the ages of 11 and 14 ... [a]s do her two cousins, ages 11 and 15.


She has two homes? One with each parent. I'm sure two parents is better than one, but two homes is surely not ideal.  I expect a lot of men's/father's groups might draw some conclusion about the rise in divorces and the rise in self-harm. In any case, regardless of cause, it seems a problem that ought to be of more concern to governments.  [/quote]
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If you do nothing else this year,
If you love nobody more than your children,
If you want to rid this country of Family Law Injustice,
This is YOUR right, YOUR struggle, YOUR day.

ONE LOVE, ONE FIGHT , ONE DAY.

All are welcome at the next Fathers 4 Justice protest, London, Friday 18th June. Not only fathers, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, brothers and sisters but all relatives and friends and supporters. Children too. Fire eaters and stilt walkers are expected and a fun time can be had whilst protesting the treatment of fathers and other relatives. Friday 18th June daytime with a benefit gig in the evening. For full details go to http://homepage.ntlworld.com/f4jswansea  and scroll down to "FORTHCOMING PROTESTS", and click on the poster.
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Hope this post is OK, including the images.  Great news for crane protesters in the UK!!

From the Men's Hour Blog at http://men.typepad.com/

"Spiderman NOT GUILTY - Fathers 4 Justice applaud Tower Bridge crane protester - Police used road closures as a bargaining tool - WATCH THIS SPACE!!!




"Common sense verdict" - Dave Chick

From the BBC "'Spiderman' cleared over protest"
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/england/london/3715273.stm

And from the Times "Spiderman protester cleared of causing public nuisance"
http://www.timesonline.co.uk/article/0,,1-1110071,00.html

A man dressed as Spiderman whose vigil for fathers' rights atop a 150ft crane triggered traffic chaos was today cleared of causing a public nuisance.

David Chick, who blamed the police for the "unnecessary" disruption that cost businesses an estimated 50m, staged his stunt on a building site near London's Tower Bridge. He was protesting being refused access to his four-year-old daughter.

Police officers, who claimed that he could have fallen fall on pedestrians or cars, promptly halted work on a 45 million office block development and sealed off the surrounding streets.

That rapidly brought gridlock to swathes of the City and east London, with frequent ten-mile traffic jams.

The former window cleaner, who is said to hate heights, refused repeated requests to come down as drivers fumed, workers rang in late and police costs spiralled by 10,000 a day.

Prosecutor Anthony Wilkin had branded the defendant a "maverick" who presented an "unacceptable risk, a danger to the public, an unknown threat" that could not be ignored.

But Mr Chick, a veteran of three similar crane-top protests, insisted that the police had been responsible for the disruption during his latest stunt.

During his trial Mr Chick accused the police of playing a "psychological game" in a bid to make him look like a "reckless idiot" and "turn the public against me".

"The police and the authorities chose to disrupt so many people's lives, which was totally unnecessary," he added.

The jury of five men and seven women at Southwark Crown Court also heard excerpts from police logs making it clear that senior officers not only treated the road closures as a "bargaining tool" to get him to come down, but also worried that the court case against him could be "weakened" if they were lifted.

As the not guilty verdict was announced, Mr Chick grinned broadly while around 20 supporters - mostly men wearing Fathers4Justice t-shirts - cheered and applauded.

Outside court the clearly delighted 37-year-old, who lives with his mother in Burgess Hill, west Sussex, pulled on a Spiderman mask and indulged in several changes of t-shirt. One read: "Police spin version exposed", while another declared: "Family law fails children and dads."

Asked for his reaction he said: "Common-sense verdict."

When someone asked whether he intended to stage another protest his response was equally brief: "Watch this space."

The nine-day trial heard that the father of one and his former partner - who cannot be named for legal reasons - set up a cleaning business and had a daughter during their three-year relationship. But ten months after she was born they separated.

Mr Chick told the jury that despite a subsequent court order allowing him to visit his daughter for two hours every week, the child's mother was less than willing to allow him access and eventually refused altogether.

Increasingly unimpressed by the legal system, he decided to take matters into his own hands and felt that crane-top protests offered the best prospect of drawing attention to his difficulties.

Mr Chick staged 48-hour protests on top of cranes in Victoria in London, Guildford, Surrey and St Katherine's Way near Tower Bridge, but was never charged.

Then, Mr Chick was given a three-month home curfew order after being convicted for harassing his former partner. Just hours after the curfew expired, he returned to St Katherine's Way and climbed a different crane.

Once at the top with eight litres of water, some food, a blanket, toothbrush and "my old granddad's pocket knife," he donned his Spiderman outfit - his daughter's favourite superhero.
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Introductions / Hello from the United Kingdom
May 14, 2004, 03:57 PM
Hello, I'm Raymond Cuttill.  I live in Bracknell, England; about 30 miles west of London.  I became interested in men's rights around '97 partly from when I was unemployed and began watching a lot of daytime TV talk shows which I liked but then I began noticing the anti-male bias often coming to the fore.  I looked around for the men's movement which I'd heard of.  Finding James Bond is easier.  I started the Men's Hour (menshour.com and the blog at men.typepad.com) in 2001 as an online men's media to counteract the women's media everywhere.  It is named after the BBC's woman's hour that has been broadcast weekdays for 58 years, but the BBC does not feel a men's hour is needed.  I started cyberManbooks.com in 2002, originally with Trudy Schuett, to create a pro-men publisher.  As a supporter of non-violent direct action, such as Fathers 4 Justice type protests I am hoping for great things in the near future.