Show Posts

This section allows you to view all posts made by this member. Note that you can only see posts made in areas you currently have access to.

Topics - Buddy-Rey

Main / Mom gets 10 years for drowning kids
Feb 01, 2007, 03:07 PM
Hey, gang.  I know I've been away a while, but when I saw this story, I knew I had to let everyone here know about it.  This is, by far, the most infuriating thing I've read all week.
Main / A Fine Piece of Work...
Mar 04, 2006, 10:03 AM
Just wanted to remind you all of the attitudes and prejudices we're up against. - This woman not only wonders why her husband cannot forgive her for assaulting him, since men are not supposed to have feelings, but then tries to pull a 180 and make it about HER emotional grievances.  Do you guys think she's serious, or just a message board troll trying to gauge our reactions?
Main / Wow...Did I Just Have an Epiphany?!
Jan 17, 2006, 04:43 AM
I just realized that how I, and most people view the idea of trust in a relationship is completely, utterly backward.  Let me explain...

    Now, trust is crucially important to me, not just for trust itself, but for what it entails, and the feelings that it comes with.  When I feel like I have someone's complete trust, I feel like a king.  That trust becomes a treasure more precious than gold, worth the world to me, and I'll do everything in my power to live up to it and protect it.  But if I DON'T feel like I have someone's trust, then there's nothing to betray, and though I wouldn't maliciously betray someone's trust, if there's no trust to begin with, then there's really no reason or incentive to be the best man I can be.  Some people seem to think that works in the complete opposite, with trust giving someone the idea they can go around breaking hearts, but it doesn't.  Trust begets a feeling of worth and a sense of duty/loyalty, while absence of trust begets the feeling of carte-blanche detachment that only comes when you know that somebody has no expectations of you, whatsoever.

    Furthermore, I just realized that, with the exception of my mother and sister, all the best women in my life have been animals.  Is that pathetic or what?!  But think about it.  Cats & dogs, if they grow up happily and safely, have an abundance of trust to give, among other traits like reciprocation of affection that are becoming harder and harder to find in people.  So, is it any wonder that people love pets so much?  They give us that feeling of being trusted that we need like oxygen!
I love this site, and I'm a total believer in the mens' rights movement, but I can't help but see that some of us here seem to be promoting irrelevant gender roles, and things that really haven't much to do with male liberation.  I've held my tongue (or at least tried to) for a long time, but some of this foolishness is really starting to get to me.

First of all, who cares if a woman wants to join the army?  I sure as Heck am not enlisting, so why should we forbid women who are actually willing to go overseas from participating, just because they may not meet physical standards?  There's more to war than pure brawn anyway.  I'm not saying that I dislike or negate the opinion of those who might disagree, but why do MRA's even care about this issue?  What should be our main focus is liberating men, not putting more walls up for women.

Also, why do terms like "liberal", "socialist" and "communist" get tossed around so frequently with "feminist"?  They're not the same thing.  I'm neither liberal or conservative, as I think that they're both wrong, but I guess I'm left-leaning.  Still, I'm definitely not a feminist.  Why do we use labels so quickly to dismiss peoples' political beliefs or ideas, when what we should try to be doing in the MRA movement is uniting ideas under common ground?

I care that thousands of worthy fathers are having their children taken from them everyday.  I care that men are having false accusations of rape hurled at them, that teenagers are being made to pay child support, and that our masculinity is being derided as primitive and unecessary by social engineers.  But I couldn't care less that a woman wants to fight for our country, or that a woman wants to clean up the streets as a police officer.  To them, I say "go for it!"

I don't mean to sound anti-MRA in any way, but I've been thinking about this for a long time, and I just needed to get this off my chest.  Debate is welcome if you disagree, but mostly, I just wanted to bring this up as food for thought.  I hope I didn't ruffle too many feathers here.
Main / Need Some Stats
Aug 09, 2005, 06:15 AM
Hey, guys.  I'm into it with the folks at the PE board again, and was just wondering, where did the stat that rape is committed every 30 seconds come from?  I know it's B.S., but why is it so widely quoted?!?!  Anyway, thanks for your help, and here's the discussion...
Main / Check it Out!!!
Jun 10, 2005, 08:47 PM
If anybody here is familiar with Beliefnet, it's a fantastic site where religions, belief systems, and political philosophies meet to discuss important issues of the day.  Look at this latest thread on the "Mens' Spirituality" board!  Someone is finally bringing up concerns about fatherhood, to a mostly receptive audience!
Main / Is Anybody Else Having Trouble???
May 18, 2005, 05:12 PM
For some reason, I'm not able to listen to Glenn Sacks' audio archive at, which really bites because I'm dying to get the scoop on his Air America appearance, and why it resulted in some indignant feminist trying to get the host fired.  Is anybody else having problems?
Main / I Feel Betrayed by Bill Maher
May 08, 2005, 11:06 PM
I watch Bill's show all of the time, and I've always counted him as one of the few political and social humorists (or philosophers in general) worth listening to.  But on this week's show, he went into a Feminist tirade on the Iraqi prison abuse scandal, and how the anger was misdirected at that one female prison guard, saying that abuse is never womens' fault, and that there was probably some evil male behind the deed.  

    Then later, he APPLAUDED Jennifer Willbanks for abandoning her husband-to-be, and not settling for a dreary domestic homelife with a Baptist Sunday School teacher.  What the Heck happened, Bill?!  You used to be on our side, and I figured that, if anything, your palimony ordeal a few months ago would have opened your eyes even further to how men are being screwed over in the media and in general.  I feel so betrayed.
Main / Thoughts and Ruminations on Turning 21
Apr 22, 2005, 05:57 AM
Today (at 6:26 p.m. to be exact), I'm going to cross the threshhold from teenage to adulthood...and I couldn't be more terrified.  Don't get me wrong, because the teenage years REALLY weren't that great, and in a way, I'm almost looking forward to putting them behind me.  Still, this milestone brings on a whole new set of challenges.  I'm not a kid anymore, and I have to seriously start thinking about what kind of man I want to be for the rest of my life.  It's quite a scare to tell the truth, because I still look like, feel like, and act like a boy.  I hope I can adjust.

    Since I'm becoming an adult, I've got to get organized, I've got to get serious, especially about MRA stuff, and I've got to keep my dreams and ambitions always moving forward because there's no time to put them on the back-burner anymore.  Above all, I have to start doing more, getting involved, and getting my message out there.  I'm looking forward to these new resolutions, but I'm also scared.  It's going to be a lot of responsibility, much more than I have ever had at any time in my life.  Can anybody relate to this, or am I juat being weird?
Main / I Finally Did It!
Apr 18, 2005, 06:54 AM
I've created "The Angry 'Y' Chromosome", a brand-new MRA blog.  Many thanks to everybody here, especially Angry Harry, for the encouragement.  It's nothing yet; just one rushed, though sincere manifesto, but I hope to build on it soon.  Keep your eyes peeled!

    P.S.  Let me know if you'd like to see any changes, like template or font color.  I went with a dark template and light font so that it would be easy on the eyes (like Maddox's site) but I'm still not sure about the colors, and would welcome any suggestions.

    Edit:  I just realized that the title "The Angry 'Y' Chromosome" is a bit too similar to "Angry Harry", so I'll have to change that ASAP!   :oops:
Main / Another Argument on the PE Boards
Apr 10, 2005, 02:03 AM
I've kind of moved past feeling resentment for people who feel this way.  I think they're just severely misguided and brainwashed, and need some people to correct their false information and help them see the light.  I don't think I did too great a job here, especially since I didn't have any numbers.  But I tried...
...And is punished with a mere wrist-slap.


    Teacher forces preschooler to relieve herself in front of other students
Jennifer Geiger, Producer
Last Updated: 4/7/2005 9:15:11 AM

A Knox County teacher is back on the job after making a pre-school student relieve herself in a bucket in front of other students.

It happened in early March to a little girl at the Sam E. Hill Family Community Center.

Sheila Knight was put on leave while the school system looked into the allegations.

DCS also investigated and found no evidence of abuse.

Knight later admitted to the accusations, called it "a severe lapse in judgment," and got a strong written reprimand. School officials say that was the strongest punishment allowed at the time.

Knight, who has worked for Knox County Schools for almost 20 years, is back on the job.

The student is in another classroom.


Knox teacher back on administrative leave after humiliating pre-schooler
Mark Schnyder, Reporter
Last Updated: 4/7/2005 7:16:06 PM

A Knox County school teacher is back on administrative leave Thursday after humiliating a student in class several weeks ago.

Sheila Knight teaches pre-schoolers at the Sam Hill Family Community Center.

She admits to making a four-year old girl "go to the bathroom" in a bucket in front of other students.

The teacher also says she knows she made a mistake. On Thursday, Sheila Knight did not return phone calls from 10 News. Neither did the principal.

According to a Knoxville psychologist, the incident could have a potential psychological impact on the child.

"This clearly crosses the line," says psychologist Renee Repka, who adds that what the teacher did was cruel, but shouldn't be harmful to the pre-schooler's long term mental health.

"For a child to have a trauma like that one time is not going to mark the child for the rest of her life," says Repka.

The four-year old girl has a different teacher now. Repka says that's good, and that she hopes the child's teacher, Sheila Knight, apologized to her, as well as the other kids who saw their classmate go to the bathroom in a bucket.

"At the same time we're teaching kids about good and bad touches, they're making them go to the bathroom in front of their peers," says Repka. "It's really inappropriate behavior."

According to Knox County Schools, Sheila Knight previously had a clean record during her 20-year career here until now.


    Mother of Pearl!!!  Did this woman actually say that this WOULDN'T be harmful to the child's mental development?!?!  I still remember and regret my first day of pre-school, when I was sent to time out for drawing on a table.  And this lady actually believes that having to pee in a bucket in front of her WHOLE CLASS won't have an effect on her?!?!
Main / Growing Impatient with F4J...
Apr 08, 2005, 12:30 AM
I heard that these guys were setting up a center of operation in the U.S. MONTHS ago, but still nothing!  Is everything going OK?  I've already donated my year's membership, and I haven't heard a word.  No newsletters, e-mails or anything.  Did the leaders change their mind in some way?  I sure hope not, because the U.S. needs this group desperately.  Does anyone know what's up???
Main / Oprah Said It, So It MUST Be True!
Mar 17, 2005, 01:37 AM
Hey, gang!  Did you know that 33% of married women are verbally abused on a regular basis?!  I had no idea, but I always learn something new when I watch Oprah!   :lol:

    Actually, I never watch her.  I don't have the patience or the threshold for agony needed to sit through her B.S.  But my dad saw the show recently, and told me all about how they paraded male perps across the stage, who were all crying, begging for forgiveness, to the absolute joy of the audience.  By the way, they said NOTHING about male victims of verbal abuse.  They didn't even acknowledge that such people existed.
Because I don't have one!  I'm not supposed to.  I'm a man.  What people are really referring to when they make reference to a "feminine side" actually has nothing to do with gender whatsoever.  It's your human side.  I get in touch with my human side all of the time.  I read books, listen to music, sometimes even tear up at the end of a great movie.  But there's nothing feminine about that, and the term "feminine side" really ticks me off!  You never hear people telling women to get in touch with their "masculine side", do you?  Right, it's because it doesn't exist.  If a woman likes to play pool, shoot darts, and chug Guiness straight from the bottle, that's just her personality, it doesn't mean that she isn't "all woman."

    Who first coined this ridiculous phrase anyway?!  Was it a feminist psychologist, or just some author with a severe case of WHLG ("White Male Liberal Guilt")??
GRRRR!!!  I love the hip-hop group Public Enemy, but their fan board is teeming with racist idiots.  Here, they start off on a kick about Ladies' Night being made illegal at a club, and then end up whining about white people.  Do they think that being an MRA is strictly a white thing???  They're DEAD WRONG!!!  We have several wronged and persecuted black men on this forum who would have a lot to say to these people.  But if anybody decides to post a response (even though it's a dusty old thread) please don't tell 'em Buddy-Rey sent you (I'll definitely back you up if you decide to call them on this BS though).  These guys already hate me, because I don't agree with their radical NBPP ideas about Louis Farrakhan or Malik Shabazz, even though I try to stay neutral in front of them.  Still, I can only hold in so much steam.  Oh man, this stuff really gets to me!!!
Cops: Boy Dies Tied To Stroller, Mouth Duct-Taped

UPDATED: 7:07 pm EST March 8, 2005

NEW YORK -- A Brooklyn toddler was allegedly smothered by his baby sitter, who is accused of putting duct tape over the boy's mouth.

Police said 19-month-old Jaylen Robinson (pictured, left) was with the baby sitter, Tammie Williams, 40, on Sunday. Police said the boy had an ear infection and wouldn't stop crying, which prompted the baby sitter to tie him into his stroller and duct tape his mouth shut.

The boy was congested and couldn't breathe through his nose.

When the toddler began gagging, the baby sitter called 911. Police arrived at the apartment in Brooklyn, and found the boy unconscious. He was pronounced dead at the Brookdale University Hospital and Medical Center.

Police have charged Williams with second-degree murder.

Distributed by Internet Broadcasting Systems, Inc. The Associated Press contributed to this report.
Main / Progressive Back to their Old Tricks
Feb 22, 2005, 12:54 PM
I say we flood those miserable cretins with e-mails and calls this time.  They've gone too far.  I just saw a brand-new commercial that made my blood boil.  A wife is asking her husband if she remembered to get them car insurance.  As usual, the guy is a lackwitted couch potato with a football T-shirt and a blank stare.  He nods his head in response.  When she asks if the company compared rates to find the lowest possible, he shakes his head.  She then slaps the phone into his hand and walks out, and the husband starts weeping (no kidding) like a child.

    This has got to be at least the fifth misandrist commercial from Progressive, and we obviously aren't bearing down on them hard enough.  Don't they understand that men, both single and married, buy car insuranc too?  Well, I guess we need to MAKE them understand, because they aren't getting the picture by themselves, and the hurtful stereotypes are continuing unabated.
Main / "Guy Movies" and "Chick Flicks"
Feb 15, 2005, 11:38 AM
I have to admit that, even though I know there are much more serious issues affecting gender relations in the 21st century, this is the one which perhaps interests and intrigues me the most, and I thought that it was about time a thread was devoted to it.  When we hear the phrase "guy movie", it's our socially-engineered response to perhaps think of a shoot-em-up action film, starring someone like Bruce Willis or Sly Stallone, right?  Well, the funny thing is, in a technical sense, "The Shawshank Redemption" is one of the biggest "guy movies" ever made.  In fact, the entire cast, with the exception of some extras in the outside-of-prison sequences, is male.  

    A lot of times, a "guy movie" can be a warm, intelligent film about the human condition, but isn't as readily associated with the male gender.  On the other side of the same coin, there are some films out there that could reasonably be labelled as "chick flicks" that I've actually thoroughly enjoyed.  Granted, most of them are more than fifty years old, but they ARE chick flicks.  My favorites are "Hush...Hush, Sweet Charlotte", "Now, Voyager", "Gone With the Wind" etc. (pretty much anything starring Bette Davis or Olivia DeHavilland).  

    Now, back to the shoot-em-up action films that I was talking about.  Very rarely do we associate them with women, probably because the box office numbers for such films are mostly male, but consider film noir for a moment.  For the uninitiated, "film noir" literally means "black film."  These are the hard-bitten, gritty crime films from the Post-WWII years and into the mid-50's that usually (but not always) involve gangsters, murder, and intrigue, and usually starred actors like Humphrey Bogart, James Cagney, E. G. Robinson, and Robert Mitchum.  One of the trademarks of these fatalistic crime films, in which evil often prevailed over good, was a female antagonist, or femme-fatale.  In fact, one of film-noir's most celebrated and recognizable traits is that more often than not, the villain of the film is a manipulative woman or a double-crossing dame.

    This image isn't flattering to women, but it's interesting to note that women had such a major role in action films of those days, as much more than just eye-candy or a damsel in distress.  In fact, in this regard, those 40's crime films are startlingly progressive.  It makes you wonder, exactly what qualifies a film as a "guy movie" or a "chick flick?"  Is the line drawn as clearly in the sand as many people think, or is there some kind of a middle-ground somewhere.  What are your definitions of the above terms, and which "guy movies" or "chick flicks" can you enjoy and relate to, even if they may be targeted at a different gender?

The mothers who fight 4 justice
By Anna Browning
BBC News  

The Fathers 4 Justice campaign has hit the headlines over the last year - but what about the mothers who are forced out of their children's lives?

For women the issues are largely the same as for fathers - maybe it is difficulties with an estranged partner, perhaps court orders are continually ignored.

But for a mother the social stigma of losing her children runs deep and the label of "bad mother" is a bitter pill to swallow.

As a form of defence some simply keep quiet, and as Marian Jayawardene of Mothers Apart from their Children (Match) says, it has become a "much hidden" problem.

'Judged by society'

"Many of our members don't actually admit to people they meet that they have children," she said.

"It is different for mothers. They do share a lot of the problems fathers have, but it's a kind of double whammy. Not only are they separated from their family but they also face the judgement of society."

There are many reasons a mother loses "residency" of a child, says Ms Jayawardene.

I can remember meeting my children by chance in a local shopping centre and they completely ignored me and looked at me as if I was a complete stranger

"Sometimes what happens is that after a divorce or separation the mother starts off as the resident parent and then the children go off to dad on a contact visit and they are not returned.

"Also, now that there are more women in jobs, there are more dual career families it is more likely that the father will end up as the main carer.

"And sometimes it is down to illness, such as post-natal depression.

"Or it can simply be that the mother is in an impossible situation, in a relationship that is clearly coming to an end - often domestic violence is involved - and the father won't leave so she feels she has no choice but to leave, and it is not always possible to take the children with them."

What is recognised in some quarters, but not in law, is parental alienation syndrome - when one parent, usually the parent with residency, turns children against the other parent.

This, for both mothers and fathers, can lead to estrangement from their children which can run into years.

'Briefing tactics'

Mandy walked out, leaving her son and a daughter behind, more than seven years ago.

She said her husband had alienated the children from her "as punishment" in the months before she left.

Knowing the relationship was breaking down and she wanted to leave, she said he used the children to make her stay - getting them to chant at her "please stay".

I have been completely excluded from their every day life and I am powerless to do anything about it

"He worked from home and I was working outside the home, so he had the time to do that," she said. "He told them things like 'she's not your real mother', 'she doesn't love you'.

"It got to the point that if I went into a room he would take them out.

"I thought naively the only thing to do was to leave them and I would be able to sort it out through the courts."

But by the time the case came before a judge, it was considered too much of an upheaval to remove the children from their father, she said.

"I felt very cut off. I can remember meeting my children by chance in a local shopping centre and they completely ignored me and looked at me as if I was a complete stranger - and that is unbelievably painful."

'Left powerless'

Alison, 40, a mother of two sons aged 10 and eight, has appeared in court 29 times and spent 60,000 trying to see her children.

"I am a professionally-trained woman, and I have suffered as a consequence of that," she said. "If I had been a stay-at-home mother I wouldn't have faced this battle.

"My husband ran his own business so had the flexibility to have a family and career.

"At the time it was agreed that I would work part-time.

"But he then started citing this to the court as a reason why I didn't have the time or interest to look after the children.

"Now I have been completely eliminated from their life. I have been completely excluded from their every day life and I am powerless to do anything about it.

"I have also experienced abuse allegations, like many fathers, which was fundamentally untrue. Since then I have been trying to get them dismissed, which is nigh on impossible.

"As a woman I'm made to feel like a leper. You can see people wondering just what did this mother do to lose her children?"

Story from BBC NEWS:

Published: 2005/02/14 12:32:21 GMT



    Funny how even when the story is clearly about Fathers 4 Justice, the author managed to completely ignore her original topic.  And I thought that MY writing was riddled with wild tangents!