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Main / AVFM Radio Promo poster
Feb 24, 2011, 12:52 AM

There's two sizes, hover over the top of the image to get the menu.  1200X1500 max res.  Download 'em and put 'em up everywhere.

Main / MenZ Issue 5 is out.
Feb 01, 2011, 09:03 PM
"Oh Yeah? How come I haven't heard anything about that?"

That seems to be a constant question asked whenever Mens Issues crop up. There is no evidence, there are no studies.

No one REALLY knows how big these issues are, or how much they are affecting society. It's not politically expedient to find out either, with so many interest groups arrayed against allowing the truth to come out.

Much hay has been made over the expression "Feminazi", and much scorn and ridicule is heaped on those who point to the similar tactics employed by both political groups. There is such a thing as "Godwin's Law", which posits that the veracity and effectiveness of an argument, is inversely proportional to the amount one compares one's opponent to NAZIs.

The argument is based on the idea that Holocaust type activities are too barbaric for our "civilized" society, that we have outgrown such impulses, and modern social mores would not allow such depravity to take hold. Those people I would direct to Adam Jones' excellent piece, "Effacing the Male" in which he details not only that such atrocities happened barely 15 years ago in Europe, but that our own Western "modern" media covered the worst of the atrocities up.

Because the facts didn't agree with Political Correctness.

The same can be said of the Media's treatment of men accused of Rape, with a lynch mob mentality, they mercilessly smear innocent men, causing pain, loss, and even death...all for a few more ratings points.

Because that's what the people want.

Because "everybody knows" men are all pigs, subhumans not deserving of care and attention on their own merits.

In the Apex Fallacy, Zed hints at the possible reasons why women seem genetically unable to perceive the massive injustice done to men daily. And why the newsmedia seems determined to paint all men as perpetrators, and all women as victims.

In Gynocentrism Theory, Adam Kostasis begins down the path of exploring how we came to hate our men and boys so much.

And in A Modest Proposal, Robert O'Hara points to the ease with which men could have some semblance of balance restored to their lives. All that seems to be missing, is legislative will.

The Mens Movement is growing stronger everyday. These injustices, so easily uncovered by amateur writers, so easily analyzed by amateur scientists, cannot POSSIBLY be escaping the attention of the Powers That Be. They know full well what is happening, and why.

The question we must all ask ourselves is: "Are we going to let them keep getting away with it?"
Main / MenZ Issue 4 is out...
Nov 15, 2010, 02:44 PM
oops...not yet...
Main / MenZ issue 2 is out:
Sep 15, 2010, 04:21 PM
Main / The Kafkatrap
Jul 22, 2010, 10:43 AM

One very notable pathology is a form of argument that, reduced to essence, runs like this: "Your refusal to acknowledge that you are guilty of {sin,racism,sexism, homophobia,oppression...} confirms that you are guilty of {sin,racism,sexism, homophobia,oppression...}." I've been presented with enough instances of this recently that I've decided that it needs a name. I call this general style of argument "kafkatrapping", and the above the Model A kafkatrap. In this essay, I will show that the kafkatrap is a form of argument that is so fallacious and manipulative that those subjected to it are entitled to reject it based entirely on the form of the argument, without reference to whatever particular sin or thoughtcrime is being alleged. I will also attempt to show that kafkatrapping is so self-destructive to the causes that employ it that change activists should root it out of their own speech and thoughts.
This was sent to me by a Canadian MP who introduced Shared Parenting legislation.  Typical "women should have special the name of the children, of course...." type article.

The following article appeared in today's National Post. Responses to the letter are greatly encouraged. You can submit letters online on the NP website here: or send them to [email protected].


National Post - June 15, 2010
Sometimes unequal works
By Tasha Kheiriddin

Tomorrow, June 16, is a day that has come far too quickly: my daughter Zara's first birthday. It is a time to pause and reflect on the joys and craziness of parenting, and on the realization that Zara will never again repeat her first steps and first words (no, not Mama or Dada, but "car". Oh well, at least the kid knows what she likes). Her birthday also falls less than a week before Father's Day, and thus also brought to mind a piece of legislation before Parliament which would radically change child custody and access laws in Canada: Bill C-422. This private member's bill, introduced by Conservative MP Maurice Vellacott, would amend the Divorce Act to mandate "equal shared parenting" when parents split up. Courts would start from the presumption that parents share time with the kids and decision making on a 50-50 basis, and put the legal onus on parents to show that such an arrangement would not be in the child's best interest.

Before I had a baby, I would probably have supported this legislation. Who would deny a child the right to the equal love and care of both parents? Why do mothers get custody so much more often than fathers? Raising an infant as a single parent for the past year, however, has changed my opinion. Not because I think that children don't need fathers, but because I realize that they need each parent in different ways at different stages of development. And unfortunately, Bill C-422 presumes that equal parenting is best regardless of circumstance, including the age of the child.

Children are constantly changing, and what may work for a 12-year-old may hurt a two-year-old. Case in point: shared physical custody. A pre-teen can fully understand that when he stays with mom one week and dad the next, he will be seeing mom again soon. But an infant cannot grasp this fact. Even a toddler is unable to fully verbalize desires and feelings, while teenagers, if I recall the drama I put my own parents through, are only too able to express themselves. When it comes to very young children, the presumption of the bill contradicts the first law of every parenting book on Earth: Disrupt a baby's routine as little as possible. Expert after expert advises parents to establish one sleep routine, nap routine and meal routine, and to ease young children slowly into transitions, such as moving house or mommy going back to work. They further warn that vacations - or any time away overnight from home - will prove disruptive. Indeed, what parents haven't returned from a trip with their tots only to find that they suddenly won't sleep through the night, or cling to your leg like Saran Wrap? Add to that the advice of the medical community that breastfeeding is best for infants under one year. As a mother who nursed for that time, I can testify only too well that breastfeeding is about much more than food. It is about comfort - when baby cannot sleep or is sick, teething or cranky. No offence, dads, but there are some things men just cannot do. Separating a breastfeeding infant from its mother is just plain cruel, never mind impossible if the child refuses to drink from a bottle.

Which brings us back to Bill C-422. Equal shared parenting would mean that very young children could be constantly shuttled back and forth between their parents' homes. Breast here, bottle there, stay-at-home parent here, daycare there. This type of endless transitioning will do them no favours - in fact, it can do a lot of damage. Courts can already order these kinds of arrangements, even without shared parenting rules, and there is mounting evidence that the stress hurts a young child's ability to attach to either parent, and to other people in general. Bill C-422 would make this type of arrangement even more common at a time when other jurisdictions are questioning this model. Case in point: The Australian government, which four years ago introduced mandatory equal parenting legislation, is currently under pressure to revise its laws in the wake of several damning reports. Researchers found that not only were some children at risk of being placed in violent situations, but even children who were physically safe felt depressed, stressed and confused, and suffered adjustment problems. They also found that some fathers' motivation in seeking shared custody was not to bond with their children, but to reduce the amount of child support they had to pay.

A consistent theme in child psychological literature is that children under the age of three need stability to grow up to be well-adjusted and confident adults. In Zara's case, she is fortunate to have a father who gets that, and puts her needs ahead of his "right" to take her overnight alone, even under current laws. Until she is ready for overnights, Zara visits with him regularly at her home in the GTA and at his home in Montreal, with both parents present. Now one year old, Zara recognizes her father, greets him with her sunny smile, calls him Dada and is happy in his presence and his arms - all without suffering the anxiety of being torn from one parent to another at a young age.

Granted, this type of arrangement takes compromise by both mom and dad, and would not work for everyone, but isn't that the point? Imposing a universal shared parenting presumption, with equal time regardless of age or situation, is not in the best interests of children. Respecting their stages of development is, and so is allowing parents to come up with their own solutions. I hope our lawmakers will allow other fractured families the same latitude, and defeat Bill C-422 or amend it to respect the needs of very young children, and other special circumstances. Until then, happy birthday Zara, and happy Father's Day, Ian. You both deserve the best celebrations a daughter and dad can have.

[email protected]
Main / Issue 6 teaser
Jun 14, 2010, 11:35 AM

Author list:

Paul Elam
Robert O'Hara
Mark Richardson
John Hembling
Bernard Chapin

If the others are pistols, this thing is a double barreled shotgun.
Main / New logo and banner ad.
Jun 10, 2010, 03:05 PM
So I've been poking around for new ideas to take the design language of MRm! forward a bit.  Hopefully, it will look more and more refined as time goes on.  In fact, if you notice it start to get stale and wish I would do a certain thing, that's your cue to poke your head above the crowd and say 'hey, I can help with that!'

So far, I've got what i think is going to be the new logo for the magazine, although a bit more refinement is needed if it's going to go on every cover.

Here's the designs, I want YOUR input. 

Squareish advert showing new logo and thumnail of cover.  This ad will change with each new issue.

General MRm! logo, and possibly business card:

So, what do you guys think?  I want as many responses as views...dammit!

Main / MRm! Issue 5 ready for download.
May 27, 2010, 12:26 AM
I'm pleased to announce the release of Issue 5 of MRm! magazine, a magazine for, and about, todays man.

With time, we hope to leave virtually no stone unturned in exposing the misinformation, bias, and sometimes outright stupidity that has led to our current state.

This issues line up tackles such things as why women may be getting bad info on what attracts men; commentary on current female sexual mores, and the double bind this puts men into, by Snark and Elusive Wapiti; Paul Elam and Jack Donovan wrestle with the issue of justification for anger; and Obsidian and Hestia round out the issue with commentary on the politics surrounding sexual relations.

The purpose of this magazine is to collect outstanding examples of writing, that encapsulate men's issues in a highly readable, interesting format, and present them to the general public.  I hope you agree that these articles, as well as in past issues, are fine examples of penmanship in their own right - the authors involved deserve as much exposure as possible, and I hope to do my little part.

Anyway, here it is.  I hope you enjoy it.

If you want to make sure you are informed when each new issue arrives on the scene, follow this link and sign up for the mailing list:

Don't forget to send it to all your friends...
Main / Issue 5... a teaser.
May 25, 2010, 06:40 PM
Main / MRm! Magazine - A call for Content
May 15, 2010, 01:57 PM

I've been getting a few requests for info regarding contributions to MRm! There's actually a lot more I want to do with this magazine, and frankly it's hard to get noticed these days as an artist of any flavour...

So, here's what I would have at my disposal in an ideal world:

Article Subjects:
Custody/Parental Issues
Crime/Prison Issues (incarceration rates, sentencing disparity, etc)
Journalism/Media Bias
Political Issues/ Politicians selling out men for profit / naming and shaming
Health Issues
Sexuality / Dating / Demonization

Outside of those, anything that's interesting is, er, of interest.

I have to say, looking around for this stuff on the blogosphere has opened my eyes as to how many great writers there are out there.

As to other stuff...

I also want to have a regular one page feature called "Activist Corner", where a worthy project gets a full page article to explain their thing. Issue 5's is already set (FRTF), but I need some in the hopper as I'm already halfway done Issue 6, and I need to keep the monster fed.

If you are a Cartoonist, I REALLY want to speak to you. I hope to have at least one strip in the mag, plus I would love to have one or two people good at one panel cartoons. There have GOT to be a few of you who either do this, or did at one contact me. It could be fun, and more importantly any success MRm! has will be yours as well.

I also want to find a designer or two, AND photographers would be most welcome. I know these careers are Image-conscious, so alias' are fine...of course.

If you've got one of these skills, and you've been sitting around thinking "You know, I should really figure something out to help this cause out"...well, here's a chance.

And the more popular this mag is, the more likely it is that people will follow the links to your website...

The contact email is: [email protected]

You don't need to be the best at what you do, and while I will try to make the standards of the magazine as high as I can get them, keep in mind many people are their own worst critic.  Give it a try, if it turns out it's not for you...well, no harm no foul.

I just think if some of us work together, this thing could be ridiculous good - and VERY popular.
...for all the writers in MRm!  I think I have everyone right except a couple.  I have to say, we MRAs sure are a shy lot!

Anyway, here's where I fall down:

I have no idea where Obsidian is from, neither do I know where Jack Donovan lives...

Fidelbogen, if I'm not mistaken, lives in Tasmania..

Anyone know the truth of things here?
Main / As promised. Issue 4.
Apr 29, 2010, 09:42 AM
Hello all:

This is a semi-formal launch of the permanent home of MRm! magazine.  Paul over at A Voice For Men has kindly offered to host the PDF (and the bandwidth it will suck up), and has also provided a means to subscribe to the mag, thereby ensuring you don't miss a single word of the riveting, and culturally signifigant, articles contained within.

Here is the link:

There are quite a few benefits to taking this approach.  For one thing, it provided an easier to remember URL (which can be put on the magazine itself).  Secondly, it provides "circulation" information (which will likely be wildly inaccurate, but it's all I got).  Thirdly, it provides a means to notify those who are interested when the next issue comes out.

But most importantly, it's a quick link on any site that leads to many articles outlining most of the issues we are concerned about, without requiring much effort on the part of the "clicker".

So, have a look (it's a simple, text based interface at least for the time being), download the latest issue and enjoy. 
Main / Coming soon...
Apr 23, 2010, 12:00 PM

Main / Anthology of the Mens Movement?
Apr 16, 2010, 05:03 PM
I just had a weird idea that I'm not sure has been floated before, so here goes...

In furtherance of the "nascent" Mens Movement, I think it behooves us to educate both the media and the public.  To this end I propose the following:

Those who have maintained longstanding blogs, message boards, or article repositories in regards to Mens Issues and the MRM in general hold an extremely valuable resource. 

I suggest that those who have the ability, go back one, two, five, ten,fifteen, twenty- years (as far back as they can) in their archives, and pluck an article that they feel best represents the state, and mood, of the MRM at that specific time.  I figure one article from each time period (I picked 1, 2, 5, 10, 15, 20, 25 because...well, just cause it seemed appropriate..)

Articles on the victories, the frustrations, the outrages, etc... whatever they feel best represents what was going on at the time.

Then, the selection of an Editorial board (people who want to try and wrestle the articles into "standalone" versions) and the collection of these articles can begin.

Once they are collected and formatted, I believe this thing can be put up on something like LuLu or Amazon as a Kindle book...PLUS it would serve as a historical reference for Male Studies type curricula...look at that, a double whammy of goodness, with the added benefit of more publicity for you, the writer!!

What a bargain!

I also think that the revenues generated from the sales should be donated in their entirety to NCFM or some other registered charitable foundation dedicated to mens/fathers rights...

So, if this is an idea you can get behind, post a link to this poll, cut and paste the topic as a question on your own blog, whatever...get this question out there to all who can hear it....let's see if we can make things like this happen!
Main / Anti Male conservative quotes....
Apr 16, 2010, 01:46 PM
I'm looking for some, White Knightery, Mangina, Patriarchal Oppressor, etc...

Anyone know where I can find some?