http://query.nytimes.com/gst/fullpage.html?res=9C0CEED71F3EF937A35755C0A966958260&sec=&spon=&pagewanted=1Since most women raising children without the father in the home receive no child support payments, having an absent father can spell both emotional and economic problems for children.
'I'm More Than Mad'
Misty and Joey Milot of Dallas have not seen their father for six years. Their parents divorced in 1981 when the children were still small. For a while, their father visited occasionally and paid child support regularly. But in 1984 he stopped coming, and in 1988, the payments trickled to a halt. And now, 12-year-old Misty says what she feels toward her father is simply rage.
''When I see him, if I ever see him again, all I want to do is beat him and spit on him and then laugh when I'm done,'' she said. ''I'm more than mad that he abandoned us, I'm disgusted.''
Mr. Milot, who now lives in Arizona, blames his former wife for the estrangement. ''We had a very bitter divorce and I moved away, but whenever I came back to Dallas to see the kids, their mother would always get in the way,'' he said.
''Once I got there,'' he said, ''the kids were crying and cowering by the wall, because she's been priming them against me, so they were petrified. After that, I sat down and said to myself, 'Norman, what's happening to those kids isn't worth it; let them get on with their lives.' '' I'm convinced I've done the right thing.''
His former wife, Lynda Milot Benson, who heads the Texas chapter of ACES, the Association for Children for Enforcement of Support, a Toledo, Ohio-based organization concerned with child support, said she never interfered with her former husband's visits.
''I can't think of anything that in any way resembled that,'' Ms. Benson said. ''It's the typical thing you hear from abandoning fathers, that the moms are psychotic, and it's all their fault.''
About the only thing they both agree on is that the divorce has been very hard on their children. ''The sad part is that kids need two parents,'' Ms. Benson said. And Mr. Milot said, ''Kids don't deserve to be torn up like that.''
Now we're all deadbeats! Opps, wrong just "most" of us!
Also Parental Allenation is now just a excuse for us to abandon our children after years of fighting.
''It's the typical thing you hear from abandoning fathers, that the moms are psychotic, and it's all their fault.''
I just wanted to point out the only quote that resembles truth in any way of the entire three page article.
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