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Oct 05, 2011, 05:38 PM

Woman who dismembered husband denied parole

CHOWCHILLA - The former Egyptian nanny convicted in 1993 of murdering her husband and dismembering his body in their Costa Mesa apartment sat silently Wednesday when she was rejected in her second application for parole.

Omaima Aree Nelson, now 43, has never been remorseful, has not taken the necessary steps towards rehabilitation and remains a danger to others, a two-person panel of the state's Board of Parole Hearings found after a hearing that lasted more than four hours at the Central California Women's Facility here. The commissioners also cited the heinous, atrocious and cruel manner in which she killed her husband.
Article Tab: Copy photograph of William and Omaima Nelson on their honeymoon in Laredo, Texas - Shot originally by William's attorney
Copy photograph of William and Omaima Nelson on their honeymoon in Laredo, Texas - Shot originally by William's attorney

They denied her parole for 15 years, the maximum allowable under law. She will next be eligible for parole in 2026.

Nelson, now 43, is serving a 27-year-to-life term in state prison for the second-degree murder of her husband, and the assault, false imprisonment and robbery of a former boyfriend.

Nelson represented herself at the hearing and claimed that she was sorry for killing her husband. She asked his family for forgiveness, but she continued to insist that she acted in self defense on Thanksgiving weekend 1991.

"My life was in danger," she said. "If I didn't defend my life, I would have been dead. I'm sorry it happened but I'm glad I lived."

"I'm sorry I dismembered his body," she added. "I crossed the reality line... I saw the blood and I freaked out. I'm not here to justify what I did... I was temporarily insane."

Witnesses testified in Orange County Superior Court that sometime during Thanksgiving weekend 1991, when she was 24, Omaima bludgeoned William Nelson, her much-older newlywed husband, with an iron and stabbed him with scissors. Among other things, she then dissected his body, decapitated his head and placed his body parts in trash bags.

Her headline-making case was named one of Orange County's most notorious crimes by the Orange County Register in a 2009 series.

The parole board denied Nelson's parole bid Wednesday after listening to a poignant victim-impact statement from Margaret Nelson, the daughter of murder victim Bill Nelson, who traveled from the bay area to oppose Omaima Nelson's parole.

"I'm 35, and I haven't had a hug from my father in 20 years," Margaret Nelson said. "I don't have the language to explain the pain of my father being brutally murdered and torn from us (in such a horrific manner)."

Orange County Deputy District Attorney Randy Pawloski, who prosecuted Omaima Nelson in 1993, attended the parole hearing and argued that she had a long history of violence and tumultuous relationships with men, did not have a viable plan for parole and did not take advantage of self-help opportunities in peiaon. Pawloski also insisted that Nelson has never shown any remorse and continues to pose a high risk of danger to others if released.

"This was one of the most gruesome and notorious crimes ever committed in Orange County," Pawloski told the parole board in a letter last month.

The board also considered a letter from Superior Court Judge Robert Fitzgerald, the trial judge, who wrote that he was shocked at Nelson's statement to a psychiatrist that she cooked her husband's ribs, donned a red dress, hat and gloves and tasted the ribs.

"This scary woman should never be released,' Fitzgerald wrote.

Omaima and Bill Nelson met at a bar sometime in September or October 1981, according to court records. She was a former nanny who was born in Egypt. Pretty and petite, she was also a former model and a bartender.

At 56, Bill was more than twice her age and twice her size. They dated, became engaged and got married within days -- and even went on a honeymoon to Texas and Arkansas to visit his relatives.

They were married for three weeks in 1991 when Thanksgiving rolled around.

"The honeymoon ended as dramatically as any in American legal history," wrote Appellate Court Justice William Bedsworth in a 2000 opinion upholding her murder conviction.

Sometime during that Thanksgiving weekend, Omaima Nelson bludgeoned and slashed her husband to death, perhaps during a sadistic sex act, according to testimony at her headline-making trial.

That was sensational enough, but it was what she did next that made her case one of Orange County's Most Notorious crimes, as selected by The Register in 2009.

Omaima skinned her husband's torso, cooked his decapitated head and placed it in the freezer, fried his severed hands in vegetable oil and placed his body parts in trash bags, according to testimony introduced during her jury trial. Bedsworth wrote in his opinion that Bill Nelson's severed head was found in a blue plastic container in the freezer wrapped in tinfoil and surrounded by orange juice, hot dogs and ground beef.

Neighbors later said they heard her garbage disposal running almost constantly for two days, and when the coroner's office weighed the accumulated body parts during the autopsy, 80 pounds of Bill Nelson was missing, including his genitalia.

She was arrested by Costa Mesa police as she was looking for help in disposing trash bags full of body parts while driving Bill Nelson's red Corvette.

Deputy Public Defender Thomas Mooney claimed in her defense that she was the victim of horrific child abuse while growing up in Egypt, including molestations, beatings and a female circumcision, which is a mutilation of the female genitalia. She admitted she engaged in dysfunctional and often sadistic affairs with other men in the United States before she met Bill Nelson.

She testified during her high profile trial Bill Nelson was a brutal abuser who raped and beat her repeatedly. She claimed that on Thanksgiving weekend in 1991 during one particularly nasty sexual assault she fought back and killed him with a pair of scissors and an iron as he lay on his back in their bed.

But Pawloski argued during the trial that it was Omaima who was the brutal abuser in the relationship. Pawloski contended that Omaima seduced her older husband for the money she thought he had, and then killed him after luring him into a sexual act where he was tied up and defenseless. She then spent the next two days dissecting his body and trying to get rid of the parts.

I am glad to see the "she was abused" and the "she's been punished enough" arguments failed in this instance.

Proof that a lot of these vigilante "pedophile hunters" are nothing more than bullies. Most of the people at PJ hate men, and the founder is a total mangina.

In the 1970s the biologist Ronald Ericsson came up with a way to separate sperm carrying the male-producing Y chromosome from those carrying the X. He sent the two kinds of sperm swimming down a glass tube through ever-thicker albumin barriers. The sperm with the X chromosome had a larger head and a longer tail, and so, he figured, they would get bogged down in the viscous liquid. The sperm with the Y chromosome were leaner and faster and could swim down to the bottom of the tube more efficiently. Ericsson had grown up on a ranch in South Dakota, where he'd developed an Old West, cowboy swagger. The process, he said, was like "cutting out cattle at the gate." The cattle left flailing behind the gate were of course the X's, which seemed to please him. He would sometimes demonstrate the process using cartilage from a bull's penis as a pointer.

In the late 1970s, Ericsson leased the method to clinics around the U.S., calling it the first scientifically proven method for choosing the sex of a child. Instead of a lab coat, he wore cowboy boots and a cowboy hat, and doled out his version of cowboy poetry. (People magazine once suggested a TV miniseries based on his life called Cowboy in the Lab.) The right prescription for life, he would say, was "breakfast at five-thirty, on the saddle by six, no room for Mr. Limp Wrist." In 1979, he loaned out his ranch as the backdrop for the iconic "Marlboro Country" ads because he believed in the campaign's central image--"a guy riding on his horse along the river, no bureaucrats, no lawyers," he recalled when I spoke to him this spring. "He's the boss." (The photographers took some 6,500 pictures, a pictorial record of the frontier that Ericsson still takes great pride in.)

Feminists of the era did not take kindly to Ericsson and his Marlboro Man veneer. To them, the lab cowboy and his sperminator portended a dystopia of mass-produced boys. "You have to be concerned about the future of all women," Roberta Steinbacher, a nun-turned-social-psychologist, said in a 1984 People profile of Ericsson. "There's no question that there exists a universal preference for sons." Steinbacher went on to complain about women becoming locked in as "second-class citizens" while men continued to dominate positions of control and influence. "I think women have to ask themselves, 'Where does this stop?'" she said. "A lot of us wouldn't be here right now if these practices had been in effect years ago."
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Ericsson, now 74, laughed when I read him these quotes from his old antagonist. Seldom has it been so easy to prove a dire prediction wrong. In the '90s, when Ericsson looked into the numbers for the two dozen or so clinics that use his process, he discovered, to his surprise, that couples were requesting more girls than boys, a gap that has persisted, even though Ericsson advertises the method as more effective for producing boys. In some clinics, Ericsson has said, the ratio is now as high as 2 to 1. Polling data on American sex preference is sparse, and does not show a clear preference for girls. But the picture from the doctor's office unambiguously does. A newer method for sperm selection, called MicroSort, is currently completing Food and Drug Administration clinical trials. The girl requests for that method run at about 75 percent.

Even more unsettling for Ericsson, it has become clear that in choosing the sex of the next generation, he is no longer the boss. "It's the women who are driving all the decisions," he says--a change the MicroSort spokespeople I met with also mentioned. At first, Ericsson says, women who called his clinics would apologize and shyly explain that they already had two boys. "Now they just call and [say] outright, 'I want a girl.' These mothers look at their lives and think their daughters will have a bright future their mother and grandmother didn't have, brighter than their sons, even, so why wouldn't you choose a girl?"

Why wouldn't you choose a girl? That such a statement should be so casually uttered by an old cowboy like Ericsson--or by anyone, for that matter--is monumental. For nearly as long as civilization has existed, patriarchy--enforced through the rights of the firstborn son--has been the organizing principle, with few exceptions. Men in ancient Greece tied off their left testicle in an effort to produce male heirs; women have killed themselves (or been killed) for failing to bear sons. In her iconic 1949 book, TheSecond Sex, the French feminist Simone de Beauvoir suggested that women so detested their own "feminine condition" that they regarded their newborn daughters with irritation and disgust. Now the centuries-old preference for sons is eroding--or even reversing. "Women of our generation want daughters precisely because we like who we are," breezes one woman in Cookie magazine. Even Ericsson, the stubborn old goat, can sigh and mark the passing of an era. "Did male dominance exist? Of course it existed. But it seems to be gone now. And the era of the firstborn son is totally gone."

Ericsson's extended family is as good an illustration of the rapidly shifting landscape as any other. His 26-year-old granddaughter--"tall, slender, brighter than hell, with a take-no-prisoners personality"--is a biochemist and works on genetic sequencing. His niece studied civil engineering at the University of Southern California. His grandsons, he says, are bright and handsome, but in school "their eyes glaze over. I have to tell 'em: 'Just don't screw up and crash your pickup truck and get some girl pregnant and ruin your life.'" Recently Ericsson joked with the old boys at his elementary-school reunion that he was going to have a sex-change operation. "Women live longer than men. They do better in this economy. More of 'em graduate from college. They go into space and do everything men do, and sometimes they do it a whole lot better. I mean, hell, get out of the way--these females are going to leave us males in the dust."

Man has been the dominant sex since, well, the dawn of mankind. But for the first time in human history, that is changing--and with shocking speed. Cultural and economic changes always reinforce each other. And the global economy is evolving in a way that is eroding the historical preference for male children, worldwide. Over several centuries, South Korea, for instance, constructed one of the most rigid patriarchal societies in the world. Many wives who failed to produce male heirs were abused and treated as domestic servants; some families prayed to spirits to kill off girl children. Then, in the 1970s and '80s, the government embraced an industrial revolution and encouraged women to enter the labor force. Women moved to the city and went to college. They advanced rapidly, from industrial jobs to clerical jobs to professional work. The traditional order began to crumble soon after. In 1990, the country's laws were revised so that women could keep custody of their children after a divorce and inherit property. In 2005, the court ruled that women could register children under their own names. As recently as 1985, about half of all women in a national survey said they "must have a son." That percentage fell slowly until 1991 and then plummeted to just over 15 percent by 2003. Male preference in South Korea "is over," says Monica Das Gupta, a demographer and Asia expert at the World Bank. "It happened so fast. It's hard to believe it, but it is." The same shift is now beginning in other rapidly industrializing countries such as India and China.

Up to a point, the reasons behind this shift are obvious. As thinking and communicating have come to eclipse physical strength and stamina as the keys to economic success, those societies that take advantage of the talents of all their adults, not just half of them, have pulled away from the rest. And because geopolitics and global culture are, ultimately, Darwinian, other societies either follow suit or end up marginalized. In 2006, the Organization for Economic Cooperation and Development devised the Gender, Institutions and Development Database, which measures the economic and political power of women in 162 countries. With few exceptions, the greater the power of women, the greater the country's economic success. Aid agencies have started to recognize this relationship and have pushed to institute political quotas in about 100 countries, essentially forcing women into power in an effort to improve those countries' fortunes. In some war-torn states, women are stepping in as a sort of maternal rescue team. Liberia's president, Ellen Johnson Sirleaf, portrayed her country as a sick child in need of her care during her campaign five years ago. Postgenocide Rwanda elected to heal itself by becoming the first country with a majority of women in parliament.

In feminist circles, these social, political, and economic changes are always cast as a slow, arduous form of catch-up in a continuing struggle for female equality. But in the U.S., the world's most advanced economy, something much more remarkable seems to be happening. American parents are beginning to choose to have girls over boys. As they imagine the pride of watching a child grow and develop and succeed as an adult, it is more often a girl that they see in their mind's eye.

What if the modern, postindustrial economy is simply more congenial to women than to men? For a long time, evolutionary psychologists have claimed that we are all imprinted with adaptive imperatives from a distant past: men are faster and stronger and hardwired to fight for scarce resources, and that shows up now as a drive to win on Wall Street; women are programmed to find good providers and to care for their offspring, and that is manifested in more- nurturing and more-flexible behavior, ordaining them to domesticity. This kind of thinking frames our sense of the natural order. But what if men and women were fulfilling not biological imperatives but social roles, based on what was more efficient throughout a long era of human history? What if that era has now come to an end? More to the point, what if the economics of the new era are better suited to women?

Once you open your eyes to this possibility, the evidence is all around you. It can be found, most immediately, in the wreckage of the Great Recession, in which three-quarters of the 8 million jobs lost were lost by men. The worst-hit industries were overwhelmingly male and deeply identified with macho: construction, manufacturing, high finance. Some of these jobs will come back, but the overall pattern of dislocation is neither temporary nor random. The recession merely revealed--and accelerated--a profound economic shift that has been going on for at least 30 years, and in some respects even longer.

Earlier this year, for the first time in American history, the balance of the workforce tipped toward women, who now hold a majority of the nation's jobs. The working class, which has long defined our notions of masculinity, is slowly turning into a matriarchy, with men increasingly absent from the home and women making all the decisions. Women dominate today's colleges and professional schools--for every two men who will receive a B.A. this year, three women will do the same. Of the 15 job categories projected to grow the most in the next decade in the U.S., all but two are occupied primarily by women. Indeed, the U.S. economy is in some ways becoming a kind of traveling sisterhood: upper-class women leave home and enter the workforce, creating domestic jobs for other women to fill.

The postindustrial economy is indifferent to men's size and strength. The attributes that are most valuable today--social intelligence, open communication, the ability to sit still and focus--are, at a minimum, not predominantly male. In fact, the opposite may be true. Women in poor parts of India are learning English faster than men to meet the demands of new global call centers. Women own more than 40 percent of private businesses in China, where a red Ferrari is the new status symbol for female entrepreneurs. Last year, Iceland elected Prime Minister Johanna Sigurdardottir, the world's first openly lesbian head of state, who campaigned explicitly against the male elite she claimed had destroyed the nation's banking system, and who vowed to end the "age of testosterone."

Yes, the U.S. still has a wage gap, one that can be convincingly explained--at least in part--by discrimination. Yes, women still do most of the child care. And yes, the upper reaches of society are still dominated by men. But given the power of the forces pushing at the economy, this setup feels like the last gasp of a dying age rather than the permanent establishment. Dozens of college women I interviewed for this story assumed that they very well might be the ones working while their husbands stayed at home, either looking for work or minding the children. Guys, one senior remarked to me, "are the new ball and chain." It may be happening slowly and unevenly, but it's unmistakably happening: in the long view, the modern economy is becoming a place where women hold the cards.

In his final book, The Bachelors' Ball, published in 2007, the sociologist Pierre Bourdieu describes the changing gender dynamics of Béarn, the region in southwestern France where he grew up. The eldest sons once held the privileges of patrimonial loyalty and filial inheritance in Béarn. But over the decades, changing economic forces turned those privileges into curses. Although the land no longer produced the impressive income it once had, the men felt obligated to tend it. Meanwhile, modern women shunned farm life, lured away by jobs and adventure in the city. They occasionally returned for the traditional balls, but the men who awaited them had lost their prestige and become unmarriageable. This is the image that keeps recurring to me, one that Bourdieu describes in his book: at the bachelors' ball, the men, self-conscious about their diminished status, stand stiffly, their hands by their sides, as the women twirl away.

The role reversal that's under way between American men and women shows up most obviously and painfully in the working class. In recent years, male support groups have sprung up throughout the Rust Belt and in other places where the postindustrial economy has turned traditional family roles upside down. Some groups help men cope with unemployment, and others help them reconnect with their alienated families. Mustafaa El-Scari, a teacher and social worker, leads some of these groups in Kansas City. El-Scari has studied the sociology of men and boys set adrift, and he considers it his special gift to get them to open up and reflect on their new condition. The day I visited one of his classes, earlier this year, he was facing a particularly resistant crowd.

None of the 30 or so men sitting in a classroom at a downtown Kansas City school have come for voluntary adult enrichment. Having failed to pay their child support, they were given the choice by a judge to go to jail or attend a weekly class on fathering, which to them seemed the better deal. This week's lesson, from a workbook called Quenching the Father Thirst, was supposed to involve writing a letter to a hypothetical estranged 14-year-old daughter named Crystal, whose father left her when she was a baby. But El-Scari has his own idea about how to get through to this barely awake, skeptical crew, and letters to Crystal have nothing to do with it.

Like them, he explains, he grew up watching Bill Cosby living behind his metaphorical "white picket fence"--one man, one woman, and a bunch of happy kids. "Well, that check bounced a long time ago," he says. "Let's see," he continues, reading from a worksheet. What are the four kinds of paternal authority? Moral, emotional, social, and physical. "But you ain't none of those in that house. All you are is a paycheck, and now you ain't even that. And if you try to exercise your authority, she'll call 911. How does that make you feel? You're supposed to be the authority, and she says, 'Get out of the house, bitch.' She's calling you 'bitch'!"

The men are black and white, their ages ranging from about 20 to 40. A couple look like they might have spent a night or two on the streets, but the rest look like they work, or used to. Now they have put down their sodas, and El-Scari has their attention, so he gets a little more philosophical. "Who's doing what?" he asks them. "What is our role? Everyone's telling us we're supposed to be the head of a nuclear family, so you feel like you got robbed. It's toxic, and poisonous, and it's setting us up for failure." He writes on the board: $85,000. "This is her salary." Then: $12,000. "This is your salary. Who's the damn man? Who's the man now?" A murmur rises. "That's right. She's the man."

Judging by the men I spoke with afterward, El-Scari seemed to have pegged his audience perfectly. Darren Henderson was making $33 an hour laying sheet metal, until the real-estate crisis hit and he lost his job. Then he lost his duplex--"there's my little piece of the American dream"--then his car. And then he fell behind on his child-support payments. "They make it like I'm just sitting around," he said, "but I'm not." As proof of his efforts, he took out a new commercial driver's permit and a bartending license, and then threw them down on the ground like jokers, for all the use they'd been. His daughter's mother had a $50,000-a-year job and was getting her master's degree in social work. He'd just signed up for food stamps, which is just about the only social-welfare program a man can easily access. Recently she'd seen him waiting at the bus stop. "Looked me in the eye," he recalled, "and just drove on by."

The men in that room, almost without exception, were casualties of the end of the manufacturing era. Most of them had continued to work with their hands even as demand for manual labor was declining. Since 2000, manufacturing has lost almost 6 million jobs, more than a third of its total workforce, and has taken in few young workers. The housing bubble masked this new reality for a while, creating work in construction and related industries. Many of the men I spoke with had worked as electricians or builders; one had been a successful real-estate agent. Now those jobs are gone too. Henderson spent his days shuttling between unemployment offices and job interviews, wondering what his daughter might be doing at any given moment. In 1950, roughly one in 20 men of prime working age, like Henderson, was not working; today that ratio is about one in five, the highest ever recorded.

Men dominate just two of the 15 job categories projected to grow the most over the next decade: janitor and computer engineer. Women have everything else--nursing, home health assistance, child care, food preparation. Many of the new jobs, says Heather Boushey of the Center for American Progress, "replace the things that women used to do in the home for free." None is especially high-paying. But the steady accumulation of these jobs adds up to an economy that, for the working class, has become more amenable to women than to men.

The list of growing jobs is heavy on nurturing professions, in which women, ironically, seem to benefit from old stereotypes and habits. Theoretically, there is no reason men should not be qualified. But they have proved remarkably unable to adapt. Over the course of the past century, feminism has pushed women to do things once considered against their nature--first enter the workforce as singles, then continue to work while married, then work even with small children at home. Many professions that started out as the province of men are now filled mostly with women--secretary and teacher come to mind. Yet I'm not aware of any that have gone the opposite way. Nursing schools have tried hard to recruit men in the past few years, with minimal success. Teaching schools, eager to recruit male role models, are having a similarly hard time. The range of acceptable masculine roles has changed comparatively little, and has perhaps even narrowed as men have shied away from some careers women have entered. As Jessica Grose wrote in Slate, men seem "fixed in cultural aspic." And with each passing day, they lag further behind.

As we recover from the Great Recession, some traditionally male jobs will return--men are almost always harder-hit than women in economic downturns because construction and manufacturing are more cyclical than service industries--but that won't change the long-term trend. When we look back on this period, argues Jamie Ladge, a business professor at Northeastern University, we will see it as a "turning point for women in the workforce."

The economic and cultural power shift from men to women would be hugely significant even if it never extended beyond working-class America. But women are also starting to dominate middle management, and a surprising number of professional careers as well. According to the Bureau of Labor Statistics, women now hold 51.4 percent of managerial and professional jobs--up from 26.1 percent in 1980. They make up 54 percent of all accountants and hold about half of all banking and insurance jobs. About a third of America's physicians are now women, as are 45 percent of associates in law firms--and both those percentages are rising fast. A white-collar economy values raw intellectual horsepower, which men and women have in equal amounts. It also requires communication skills and social intelligence, areas in which women, according to many studies, have a slight edge. Perhaps most important--for better or worse--it increasingly requires formal education credentials, which women are more prone to acquire, particularly early in adulthood. Just about the only professions in which women still make up a relatively small minority of newly minted workers are engineering and those calling on a hard-science background, and even in those areas, women have made strong gains since the 1970s.

Office work has been steadily adapting to women--and in turn being reshaped by them--for 30 years or more. Joel Garreau picks up on this phenomenon in his 1991 book, Edge City, which explores the rise of suburbs that are home to giant swaths of office space along with the usual houses and malls. Companies began moving out of the city in search not only of lower rent but also of the "best educated, most conscientious, most stable workers." They found their brightest prospects among "underemployed females living in middle-class communities on the fringe of the old urban areas." As Garreau chronicles the rise of suburban office parks, he places special emphasis on 1978, the peak year for women entering the workforce. When brawn was off the list of job requirements, women often measured up better than men. They were smart, dutiful, and, as long as employers could make the jobs more convenient for them, more reliable. The 1999 movie Office Space was maybe the first to capture how alien and dispiriting the office park can be for men. Disgusted by their jobs and their boss, Peter and his two friends embezzle money and start sleeping through their alarm clocks. At the movie's end, a male co-worker burns down the office park, and Peter abandons desk work for a job in construction.

Near the top of the jobs pyramid, of course, the upward march of women stalls. Prominent female CEOs, past and present, are so rare that they count as minor celebrities, and most of us can tick off their names just from occasionally reading the business pages: Meg Whitman at eBay, Carly Fiorina at Hewlett-Packard, Anne Mulcahy and Ursula Burns at Xerox, Indra Nooyi at PepsiCo; the accomplishment is considered so extraordinary that Whitman and Fiorina are using it as the basis for political campaigns. Only 3 percent of Fortune 500 CEOs are women, and the number has never risen much above that.

But even the way this issue is now framed reveals that men's hold on power in elite circles may be loosening. In business circles, the lack of women at the top is described as a "brain drain" and a crisis of "talent retention." And while female CEOs may be rare in America's largest companies, they are highly prized: last year, they outearned their male counterparts by 43 percent, on average, and received bigger raises.

Even around the delicate question of working mothers, the terms of the conversation are shifting. Last year, in a story about breast-feeding, I complained about how the early years of child rearing keep women out of power positions. But the term mommy track is slowly morphing into the gender-neutral flex time, reflecting changes in the workforce. For recent college graduates of both sexes, flexible arrangements are at the top of the list of workplace demands, according to a study published last year in the Harvard Business Review. And companies eager to attract and retain talented workers and managers are responding. The consulting firm Deloitte, for instance, started what's now considered the model program, called Mass Career Customization, which allows employees to adjust their hours depending on their life stage. The program, Deloitte's Web site explains, solves "a complex issue--one that can no longer be classified as a woman's issue."

"Women are knocking on the door of leadership at the very moment when their talents are especially well matched with the requirements of the day," writes David Gergen in the introduction to Enlightened Power: How Women Are Transforming the Practice of Leadership. What are these talents? Once it was thought that leaders should be aggressive and competitive, and that men are naturally more of both. But psychological research has complicated this picture. In lab studies that simulate negotiations, men and women are just about equally assertive and competitive, with slight variations. Men tend to assert themselves in a controlling manner, while women tend to take into account the rights of others, but both styles are equally effective, write the psychologists Alice Eagly and Linda Carli, in their 2007 book, Through the Labyrinth.

Over the years, researchers have sometimes exaggerated these differences and described the particular talents of women in crude gender stereotypes: women as more empathetic, as better consensus-seekers and better lateral thinkers; women as bringing a superior moral sensibility to bear on a cutthroat business world. In the '90s, this field of feminist business theory seemed to be forcing the point. But after the latest financial crisis, these ideas have more resonance. Researchers have started looking into the relationship between testosterone and excessive risk, and wondering if groups of men, in some basic hormonal way, spur each other to make reckless decisions. The picture emerging is a mirror image of the traditional gender map: men and markets on the side of the irrational and overemotional, and women on the side of the cool and levelheaded.

We don't yet know with certainty whether testosterone strongly influences business decision-making. But the perception of the ideal business leader is starting to shift. The old model of command and control, with one leader holding all the decision-making power, is considered hidebound. The new model is sometimes called "post-heroic," or "transformational" in the words of the historian and leadership expert James MacGregor Burns. The aim is to behave like a good coach, and channel your charisma to motivate others to be hardworking and creative. The model is not explicitly defined as feminist, but it echoes literature about male-female differences. A program at Columbia Business School, for example, teaches sensitive leadership and social intelligence, including better reading of facial expressions and body language. "We never explicitly say, 'Develop your feminine side,' but it's clear that's what we're advocating," says Jamie Ladge.

A 2008 study attempted to quantify the effect of this more-feminine management style. Researchers at Columbia Business School and the University of Maryland analyzed data on the top 1,500 U.S. companies from 1992 to 2006 to determine the relationship between firm performance and female participation in senior management. Firms that had women in top positions performed better, and this was especially true if the firm pursued what the researchers called an "innovation intensive strategy," in which, they argued, "creativity and collaboration may be especially important"--an apt description of the future economy.

It could be that women boost corporate performance, or it could be that better-performing firms have the luxury of recruiting and keeping high-potential women. But the association is clear: innovative, successful firms are the ones that promote women. The same Columbia-Maryland study ranked America's industries by the proportion of firms that employed female executives, and the bottom of the list reads like the ghosts of the economy past: shipbuilding, real estate, coal, steelworks, machinery.
Main / Steve Wilkos Show - January 7, 2009
Jan 06, 2009, 10:17 AM
Apparently, tomorrow there will be a show about how a 28 year old woman who slept with and had kids with a 15 year old boy. I don't put much stock into daytime TV, but it should be interesting to see how the show turns out. From what I've seen of it, it doesn't seem like a typical talk show like Dr. Phil, which mollycoddles women.

If I catch it tomorrow, I'll let everyone know how it turns out.
Up until about 1:21, you would think that what this woman is trying to do, is a great thing. Then she starts in by saying how most men who were abused turn out to be abusers themselves etc.
This guy is pretty popular on youtube, and he shares his story about how his son was kidnapped from him, back in 1999. Just wondering if anyone else here seen this:
Add DirecTV to the list of misandrist companies, brothers. They have been running a misandrist advertisement, give these guys a piece of your mind here, like I did.
Main / T-Mobile runs anti-male television ad
Oct 11, 2006, 12:44 PM

Looks like we can add T-Mobile to the boycott list.
Notice how she only gets 2 to 6, but the father gets 3 to 15.


GRAFTON, W.Va. - A woman who forced her two stepchildren to gorge themselves on food and drink, then wallow in and eat their own vomit was sentenced Wednesday to two to six years in prison.

Venus Critchfield, 35, also was accused of beating the children's feet with boards, and using ropes and hooks to force them to stand for long periods, said Taylor County Prosecutor John Bord. The abuse involved her two stepchildren and four natural children, but only some were willing to testify.

Critchfield pleaded guilty to two counts of felony child neglect with injury. The charges stemmed from abuse that occurred between January 2001 and February 2002, but prosecutors said she began abusing the children in 1997.

The children's father, Jennings Brian Critchfield, is serving a three- to 15-year prison sentence for abuse.
Main / mistake
May 24, 2006, 01:01 PM
say for example Hitlery does become President. Now, she does support the war in Iraq, do you think she'll re-institute the draft to get American men out of this country once and for all?
Main / Really disturbed by this..........
May 12, 2006, 02:54 PM
I work at a library/town hall, and was going through a big load of donations the other day, when I came across a teenager/young adult book called "50 reasons why its good to be a girl", and it was the most misandrist piece of trash I have ever read in my entire life - Men have "womb envy", men commit crimes, men don't live as long, etc. Fortunately, I was alone, so I ripped the book up to shreds and tossed it in the garbage can. Is this what we, as a country market towards teenage girls? No wonder why women have the attitudes they have.

NOTE: The book itself was written in 1993 (13 years ago).
Anyone else find this sexist? What about abused men?

Reaching out to their sisters
Westfield woman's brainchild lets American teens advocate for girls worldwide
Wednesday, January 11, 2006
Star-Ledger Staff
MIDDLE and high school girls in the United States worry about their grades, their sports, their friends. Halfway across the world, and arguably a universe away, Afghan schoolgirls worry whether Taliban insurgents will assassinate their teachers in a campaign to stamp out girls' education.

Those universes, however, are coming together through a program called Girls Learn International Inc., in which American girls, and boys, are learning how to advocate for girls' education around the globe. They are also teaming with schools in Afghanistan, Pakistan, Colombia and Kenya, and getting to know girls there.

The 3-year-old organization is the brainchild of Lisa Alter of Westfield, a copyright attorney and mother of teenagers Arielle and Jordana Alter Confino.


"I was taking the train and reading the paper every day when the Taliban was in power (in Afghanistan), about the role of women and girls. I'd read about female genital mutilation, baby girls in China being abandoned, and it struck me how we are so removed from them," she said. "I would talk to my daughters about it, and one day Jordana said, 'Mom, why don't you stop talking about it and do something?'"

So Alter, now 48, took classes on gender and human rights and did a lot of research, deciding to focus on education. "It's hard to stop the human rights abuses against women if they're illiterate," she said.

The idea for a student organization gelled when she realized she could help empower American girls, too, by teaching them to be advocates for their sisters across the world.

"There's a perception that teenagers can't make a difference on a global level," she said of American youth. "This is really an ideal issue as it relates to them. Feminism has taken on the meaning of a dirty word, but on the other hand, these girls are living it."

She assembled a board of female executives, sought out human rights leaders to join her advisory group and hired an executive director, Alexandra C. Budabin, who is working toward her doctorate in political science.

The first chapters were started in 2003 by her daughters when they were in middle and high school. So far, 30 schools in New Jersey, New York, Connecticut, Massachusetts, and New Hampshire have chapters. The New Jersey schools include Millburn High School, Newark Academy in Livingston, the Pingry School in Martinsville, and Summit High School.

Alter aspires to have chapters in all 50 states in the future. Arielle, 18, a freshman at Washington University in St. Louis, hopes to start the first Girls International Inc. college chapter there.
In meetings, girls learn about the obstacles facing girls in the Third World and related issues. At a summit in May, chapter members presented papers on child marriage, treatment of women and girls in war, and the spread of HIV-AIDS among Third World women.

They become advocates by spreading awareness, writing letters to Congress and the United Nations, signing petitions, and raising money for their sister schools in Afghanistan, Pakistan, India, Kenya, Uganda and Colombia, to name a few.

In the process, they are learning valuable leadership skills that will prepare them for adult life, said Alter, who credits her parents for inspiring her social activism.


"There are two halves to it. There's tremendous value in terms of the impact on students here in this country, and turning them into the kinds of citizens we want. On the other hand, it has an impact on schools in other countries," said Jessica Neuwirth, president of Equality Now, a women's human rights group. Neuwirth serves on the advisory board of Girls Learn International Inc.

A lot of the education is directed at their peers, said Jordana, 15, a sophomore at Westfield High School.

"We wrote letters to individual girls in our partner school in Afghanistan. People were shocked that we were helping them. The girls in my club spread awareness by talking to others in school, that it wasn't the girls who were attacking us."

Among the group's school partners is the Badakhshi School for Girls in Afghanistan's Kapisa province, where only 12 percent of all students are female. While new schools are opening, Taliban terrorists are targeting teachers with female students. Last week, a headmaster in Zabul province was beheaded in front of his wife and eight children because he taught girls.

The cause is personal to Khalida Sharafi, an obstetrician and gynecologist in Morristown, and a member of the group's board of directors. She had just graduated from high school in Kabul when the Soviet Union invaded Afghanistan. After her father was killed, the family fled and gained political asylum in the United States.

Sharafi resumed her education at the County College of Morris, working in a clothing factory to support her family. She went on to Rutgers University and graduated from the University of Medicine and Dentistry of New Jersey-Robert Wood Johnson Medical School in 1995.

"As a female and an Afghani it's important. Eventually, we're going to have an impact," Sharafi said. "Women need to learn not only how to read and write, but to open your minds and get out of the blindfolded thinking that a woman's job is in the house and bringing kids into the world."

Despite the demands on her time, Alter, who is married to ophthalmologist Joel Confino, said she's committed to expanding the group and seeking corporate sponsorships.

"There's a business to running a nonprofit, but if you hear one story, hear a speech by Mukhtaran Mai, how can you stop doing this?" asked Alter.

(Mukhtaran Mai won international acclaim since her story became public. The elders in her Pakistani village ordered she be gang-raped to avenge her brother's involvement with a woman of a different caste. She broke the culture of silence, reported the crime, and used money she received to open a school for women and girls.)

Alter is also inspired by the young members of Girls Learn International Inc., including her daughters. "If you give kids a chance, they are capable of doing very great things at a surprisingly young age," she said.

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U.S. teacher sexpidemic spreading across planet
Long list of American rapists
joined by female Australians

Posted: December 14, 2005
1:00 a.m. Eastern

By Joe Kovacs
© 2005

Bridget Nolan (courtesy Australian Broadcasting Corp.)

The seeming U.S. epidemic of cases involving female teachers raping or molesting their students has been "sexported" Down Under, as Australia is experiencing a similar rash of cases.

Bridget Mary Nolan, 24, of Adelaide, Australia, is facing a possible seven-year prison term after admitting to three counts of sexual intercourse with a 15-year-old student in late July.

"The victim ... and his family are the subject of a lot of scrutiny by members of the school community and (the) town community in which they live," prosecutor Elizabeth Griffith told a court hearing. "The victim has ... been teased and bullied and pointed out within the school community as somebody who might have been involved with the teacher."

Meanwhile, another woman teacher is facing charges for allegedly seducing one of her own 15-year-old students.

Natalina D'Addario (courtesy: The Australian)

Natalina D'Addario, a 36-year-old languages instructor from the Melbourne area is accused of beginning a sexual relationship with the teen in May.

Police say they engaged in oral sex on six occasions through July off school grounds. The affair reportedly came to a close in September when the boy notified his assistant principal of the liaisons.

These two cases are the latest in a series of Australian women having illicit relations with their male students.

According to the Australian, Cindy Leanne Howell, a female teacher's aide, was sentenced last month to at least two and a half years for preying on a 15-year-old boy; Sarah Jayne Vercoe was sentenced to four years for a series of sex offenses against five boys in Tasmania; and Karen Ellis of Victoria was jailed in May after pleading guilty to six charges of sexual penetration of a child under 16.

The Australian incidents are hauntingly reminiscent of the flood of cases reported in the United States and elsewhere.

Debra Lafave

Among the most well-known is the case of Debra Lafave, a 26-year-old reading teacher in Florida accused of having sex with a 14-year-old boy in her classroom, car and at home. Her plea deal sparing her jail time and giving her just house arrest was thrown out last week and her trial is now slated for April 10.

Other cases collected from news reports by WND and iGossip include:

Adrianne Hockett: Accused of having sex with a 16-year-old special-needs student in a Houston apartment she rented for the get-togethers. The boy has testified the pair would "have sex, drink beer and smoke weed."

Amber Jennings, 31: Initially charged with having sex with a 16-year-old, the counts against the Sturbridge, Mass., woman were reduced to a single charge of disseminating harmful materials to a minor. She reportedly admitted e-mailing naked photos of herself to a former student.

Amber Marshall, 23: Northwest Indiana woman allegedly had sexual contact, including intercourse, with several students, and turned herself into authorities, telling police she knew what she did was illegal.

Amira Sa'Si, 30: Clayton County, Ga., woman remarked she didn't think her relationship was inappropriate based on her Internet research, learning the Peach State's age of consent is 16.

Amy Gail Lilley, 36: Inverness, Fla., woman charged with an alleged relationship with a 15-year-old girl.

Angela Stellwag, 24: Delran, N.J., woman accused of having sex in her apartment with a 14-year-old boy she met in school.

Beth Raymond, 31: Private-school employee from Pownal, Maine, charged with risk of injury to a minor and second-degree sexual assault of a juvenile male.

Bethany Sherrill, 24: Daughter-in-law of school-board president is charged with molesting a middle school student when he was 14.

Carol Flannigan

Carol Flannigan, 50: Boca Raton, Fla., music teacher reportedly slept with 11-year-old former student, and also had a simultaneous sexual relationship with the boy's father.

Celeste Emerick, 32: Police in Huber Heights, Ohio, say she hosted a party where students were shown porn.

Christina Gallagher, 26: Jersey City, N.J., woman ordered to pay more than $1,000 in fines, sentenced to a lifetime registration as a convicted sex offender and ordered to attend therapy for having sex with a 17-year-old student.

Deanna Bobo

Deanna Bobo, 37: Arkansas teacher allegedly had sex twice with a 14-year-old boy in his own bed while his parents were not home.

Donna Carr Galloway, 33: Married mother of two found naked in a car with a 17-year-old student.

Elisa Kawasaki, 25: Officials say ex-biology teacher had sexual relations with a 16-year-old student on up to 20 different occasions.

Elizabeth Miklosovic, 36: Grand Rapids, Mich., woman pleaded no contest to sexually assaulting a 14-year-old female student she "married" in a pagan ritual.

Elizabeth Stow, 26: Woman from Fresno, Calif., area convicted of having sex with three of her students was sentenced to nine years, but the judge suspended that sentence and gave her one year, possibly on house arrest, as well as faces five years probation.

Ellen Garfield, 43: Former student says teacher took him into an empty classroom where she worked, partially disrobed, and coaxed him into having sex with her in 1998. Garfield was acquitted of all charges in September of this year.

Emily Morris, 28: Alabama woman faced a possible 20-year sentence, but received one year in jail for having consensual sex with a 15-year-old student.

Erica Rutters, 29: York, Pa., woman allegedly wrote erotic messages to a 17-year-old student and had sexual intercourse with him four times in her apartment.

Georgianne Harrell, 24: Sylvester, Ga., woman charged with performing oral sex on a 9-year-old boy, allowing students to gaze down her blouse and slashing her wrists with glass in front of her students. She pleaded not guilty.

Gwen Ann Cardozo, 33: Colorado woman charged with having sex with a 17-year-old male student.

Heather Ingram, 30: Mathematics, science and business teacher in British Columbia had sex with a 17-year-old student.

Janelle Marie Bird, 24: Accused of having a two-year affair with a 15-year-old student from East Hill Christian School, in Pensacola, Fla.

Jaymee Wallace

Jaymee Wallace, 28: Basketball coach in Tampa, Fla., charged with having an 18-month lesbian relationship with a student.

Joan Marie Sladky, 28: Redwood City, Calif., woman sentenced to six months in county jail for having sex with a 16-year-old student after pleading no contest to four counts of unlawful sexual intercourse, oral copulation and penetration with a foreign object.

Katherine Tew, 30: Married English teacher from Greenville, N.C., arrested for having sex with a 17-year-old student.

Kathy White, 39: Charged with having sex with a 17-year-old student in Lumberton, Texas. Victim alleges: "She just started grabbing me and hormones were on and it just happened."

Kelly Lynn Dalecki, 28: Woman from St. Augustine, Fla., pleaded no contest to charges she had sex with a 13-year-old boy.

Kristen Margrif, 27: Michigan woman accused of having sex with a 16-year-old male student in her car or at his summer workplace.

Kristi Oakes

Kristi Dance Oakes, 32: Former Tennessee high-school teacher allegedly had sex with a 16-year-old boy who was in her biology class the previous year.

Lakina Stutts, 40: School-bus driver admitted to cops she had sex with a 14-year-old student in her home and in a car outside the boy's home.

Laura-Anne Brownlee, 26: Former music mistress at a top private school in Belfast, Ireland, was sentenced on six charges of indecently assaulting a 15-year-old boy.

Laura Lynn Findlay, 30: Middle-school band teacher in Buena Vista Township, Mich., charged with having sex with at least 5 students, one as young as 14.

Margaret De Barraicua

Margaret De Barraicua, 30: Sacramento, Calif., area woman arrested after police found her with a 16-year-old male student in her car while the woman's toddler was strapped into a car seat in the back.

Maria Saco, 28: Passaic, N.J., woman sentenced to a year in jail for an intimate relationship with a teen student who was 14 when they first met.

Mary Kay Letourneau, 34: Des Moines, Wash., woman did prison time after having an affair with a sixth-grade student, and had two children by him. The couple recently married.

Melissa Michelle Deel, 32: Bristol, Tenn., woman pleaded guilty to crossing the state line into Virginia to have oral sex with a 13-year-old male student.

Michelle Kush, 29: Ohio woman allegedly had sex with a 15-year-old boy several times during summer break.

Nicola Prentice, 22: British woman from Sheffield, England, given a 12-month suspended jail sentence after she seduced a 16-year-old student and began a 19-month affair.

Nicole Andrea Barnhart, 35: Reportedly told police she loves the 16-year-old boy with whom she was allegedly having sex.

Nicole Pomerleau, 31: High-school English teacher in Charlotte, N.C., accused of having a sexual relationship with her 16-year-old student.

Pamela Smart, 22: Media-services director at Winnacunnet High School in Hampton, N.Y., had convinced her 15-year-old lover to murder her husband. The Nicole Kidman film "To Die For" is based on her story.

Pamela Turner, 27: Former model and beauty-pageant contestant accused of having a three-month sexual relationship with a 13-year-old boy.

Rachelle Vantucci, 32: Ex-substitute teacher in western New York admitted having sex with a 16-year-old boy.

Rebecca Boicelli, 33: Redwood City, Calif., woman gave birth to a baby last year and DNA test results gave prosecutors enough evidence to prove the father is Boicelli's former student, who was 16 at the time of conception.

Rhianna Ellis, 24: New York City teacher who allegedly had a 10-month affair with an 18-year-old, and allgedly gave birth to his baby.

Robin Gialanella, 26: Elementary teacher in Toms River, N.J., engaged in kissing, and inappropriate conduct and conversations with two sixth-grade boys, ages 11 and 12. She was sentenced to 364 days in jail.

Robin Winkis, 29: York, Pa., woman allegedly had sex with a 17-year-old boy after giving him alcohol.

Samantha Solomon, 29: Fired after school bosses learned she was having sex with a teenage boy. She denies the charges.

Sandra "Beth" Geisel, 42: Albany, N.Y., woman was fired from her job at an private all-boys school after police in found her in a parked car with a 17-year-old. She pleaded guilty to a single count of rape and was sentenced to six months in jail.

Shelley Allen, 35: East Texas teacher's aide accused of sexual assault and faces a possible 20 years behind bars.

Shelley White, 24: Geography teacher in Britain had been engaged to be married before she kissed a 15-year-old student on at least three occasions. She avoided jail, but received 12 months community service.

Stephanie Burleson: Volleyball coach and teacher at Floresville High School in Texas six years ago, pleaded guilty to all charges for molesting a 16-year-old female student. She was sentenced to 10 years probation, and required to register as a sex offender.

Susan Eble, 35: Former teacher's aide is accused of having a sexual relationship with a 14-year-old boy.

Tara Lynn Crisp, 29: Police allege she had sex with a student at least three times beginning when he was 14.

Toni Lynn Woods, 37: The Braxton County, W.Va., woman confessed to having sexual intercourse with three juveniles a total of four times and oral sex with one of those juveniles and another juvenile a total of four times. She resigned.
Main / What do you think is worse?
Oct 12, 2005, 06:11 AM
I have a question, what do you think is worse? Feminism, or the men that support it?

Introductions / hey
Oct 10, 2005, 10:22 AM
My name's Richard and I participate in anti feminism forums in Yahoo groups. Just found out about this site and I descided to say hi.