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Major U.S. Newsweekly Offers Sanitized Version of Racist Margaret Sanger
Entirely omits racist motivation behind vehement commitment to birth control, abortion, sterilization

By Elizabeth O'Brien

WASHINGTON, DC, August 7, 2007 (LifeSiteNews.com) - The third largest U.S. newsweekly published a highly skewed historical account of Margaret Sanger, entirely omitting the racist motivation behind her vehement commitment to birth control, abortion and sterilization.

U.S.News & World Report, a rival of Time magazine and Newsweek, published an article on Sunday entitled, "The Passions Behind the Pill, helping women in poverty is what drove the development of the oral contraceptive." The story makes no hint of the fact that Margaret Sanger was a rabid racist who wanted the complete eradication of the black population. Rather it portrays the heroic struggle of a woman seeking to empower female victims of social circumstance.

The article begins by referring to the fact that Sanger was born into a penniless family of 11 children, and as a result, she felt a special calling "to help poor women have fewer children to be brought up." It speaks of the resistance she received during the early 1900's when she was accused of "obscenity" for mailing pamphlets on birth control. It also sardonically notes that she was "rewarded" for her efforts by 30 days in jail for spreading information about contraceptives.

The article also fails to mention the fact that this warrior for women's so-called rights was also connected with the Nazi fascist regime with which she shared her ideas on eugenics in the 1930's. In fact, she changed her organization's original name from the Birth Control League to Planned Parenthood in order to better maintain the illusion that her goals were much more family "friendly" than the publicly condemned Nazi policies.

Rooted in the philosophy of sexual liberation and Social Darwinism, Sanger viewed the physically and mentally handicapped, illiterates and poor people as hereditarily "tainted" people who must be removed from society. In addition, referring to the black communities in the Southern United States as a "dysgenic horror", she also believed that black people were subhuman and must be eradicated.

In the "Negro Project" of 1939, for example, Sanger encouraged black ministers to propagate birth control in their own communities-in essence, to unknowingly wipe out their own people. She is quoted as saying, "The most successful educational approach to the Negro is through a religious appeal. We do not want word to go out that we want to exterminate the Negro population and the Minister is the man who can straighten out the idea if it ever occurs to any of their rebellious members."

Through this movement of massive deceit and manipulation, clinics that provided the pill and offered family "planning" information spread rapidly throughout the American black communities. 

The U.S.News story describes some of the social and political hurdles that Sanger overcame, including the Pope's condemnation of contraception in the 1960's. The article further states, "Because the pill's popularity coincided with the beginnings of the feminist movement, it became a symbol of the sexual revolution."

Quoting historian Elizabeth Watkins, the articles continues, the "pill alone didn't cause the sexual revolution, but...it did cause a contraception revolution." It then goes on to describe the pill's great impact that "forever changed the lives of American women."

Finally, the article concludes without any mention of the fact that as foundress of the world's largest eugenics movement, Sanger advocated not only the widespread use of contraception, but also the legalization of abortion and sterilization in order to wipe out those who were considered "unfit" for normal human society. In this way, by participating in the deception that has surrounded Sanger and her movement for decades, the article omits any reference to the main ideology that fueled her life's career.


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It would appear that congress will pass the expansion of its CHIPs program to include children up to age 25, and for families earning up to $82,000.
Any thoughts on how this might effect non custiodial fathers that are orderd to maintain health insurance for their children? Also any thoughts on the usage of the declaration that  a person 25 years old is a child? Knowing a little bit about how our government works, the 25 year old child concerns me.
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Study: Child Abuse by Moms in Army Families Rises When Fathers Deployed
Tuesday , July 31, 2007



ADVERTISEMENT
Children in some Army families are vulnerable to abuse and neglect by their mothers when their fathers are away at war in Iraq and Afghanistan, a large Pentagon-funded study finds.

Mothers were three times more likely to have a substantiated report of child mistreatment when their soldier husbands were deployed than when the fathers were home, according to the research. Mothers at home were nearly four times as likely to neglect their children and nearly twice as likely to physically abuse them during deployment periods.

"She leaves the young child alone in the apartment, doesn't get the child off to school in the morning, doesn't keep the house in a livable condition," said lead author Deborah Gibbs of the nonprofit RTI International in Research Triangle Park, N.C., describing typical scenarios.

Army officials said the study confirms what they've seen at large military bases for nearly two years, overwhelmed and depressed mothers neglecting their children.

"This is another recognition of the stress that families are experiencing with multiple deployments, and that shouldn't be a surprise to anyone," said Rene Robichaux, social work programs manager for the U.S. Army Medical Command.

The Army recently announced it will hire more than 1,000 additional "family readiness support assistants" to help families of deployed active-duty, Army Reserve and National Guard units. The Army also recently added $8 million to its respite child care program and increased home visits to parents of young children at 13 bases with the highest rates of neglect, said Delores Johnson, the Army's director of family programs.

The study appears in Wednesday's Journal of the American Medical Association. Army staff reviewed the manuscript before its submission to the medical journal.

The researchers analyzed information from two large Army databases from 2001 through 2004. Since then, the pace of deployments has increased, making the findings even more important, Gibbs said.

Only families with at least one report of child mistreatment were part of the analysis, so the findings apply only to families with some underlying risk.

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Canada signed the United Nations CEDAW in 1980. Because of CEDAW mothers can move any place they choose.  The United States Suprem Court has referenced United Nations treaties (The Rights of the Child) in some of their rulings: below is the part of CEDAW allowing mothers to move.

The Convention is the only human rights treaty which affirms the reproductive rights of women and targets culture and tradition as influential forces shaping gender roles and family relations.  It affirms women's rights to acquire, change or retain their nationality and the nationality of their children.  States parties also agree to take appropriate measures against all forms of traffic in women and exploitation of women.
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Main / Sperm Donor Must Pay Child Support
May 10, 2007, 06:49 AM
from Fox News:

Pennsylvania Court Orders Sperm Donor to Lesbian Couple to Pay Child Support
Wednesday, May 09, 2007

E-MAIL STORY PRINTER FRIENDLY VERSION
HARRISBURG, Pennsylvania  --  A sperm donor who helped a lesbian couple conceive two children is liable for child support under a state appellate court ruling that a legal expert believes might be the first of its kind in the U.S.

A Superior Court panel last week ordered a Dauphin County judge to establish how much Carl L. Frampton Jr. would have to pay to the birth mother of the 8-year-old boy and 7-year-old girl.

"I'm unaware of any other state appellate court that has found that a child has, simultaneously, three adults who are financially obligated to the child's support and are also entitled to visitation," said New York Law School professor Arthur S. Leonard, an expert on sexuality and the law.

But Frampton, 60, of Indiana, Pennsylvania, died suddenly of a stroke in March, leaving lawyers involved in the case with different theories about how his death may affect the precedent-setting case.

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The 50 million dollars for the fatherhood programs comes under the federal budget for Child Support Enforcement Programs. One aspect of it is to assist low income men with job training so they can pay child support.
We are told over and over that responsible fatherhood means that you pay your child support. But perhaps they are only interested in the 50 million taxpayer dollars.
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Main / Re: Domestic Violence in Decline
Dec 30, 2006, 01:02 PM
Prnewswire.com/usnewswire/   Date: Dec28,2006

Original Press Release contains the full report about the decline. It also includes this statement.

"Non-fatal intimate partner violence for white males increased from
0.5 to 1.1 victimizations per 1,000 males age 12 and older."

The original press release is the only place where I have seen men mentioned as victims.

Florida released the year end report on deaths of children from abuse and neglect. There were 97 children who died from abuse/neglect this year.


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Main / Women made the difference: Stay tuned
Nov 11, 2006, 06:15 AM
Nancy P has promised to work on guarentted retirement:

Contact: Jill Van Dierendonck of the U.S. Women's Chamber of Commerce, 888-41-USWCC, 888 418-7922

News Advisory

Event: Press Conference, Wednesday, Nov. 15 from 9:30 a.m. to 10:30 a.m. at the National Press Club, Zenger Room, Washington, D.C.

Organizer and host: U.S. Women's Chamber of Commerce

The U.S. Women's Chamber of Commerce(tm) (USWCC) -- http://www.uswcc.org -- is joining forces with organizations and leaders from across the U.S. to advance economic opportunities for women through the foundation of the USWCC, National Congress on the Economic Advancement of Women. On Nov. 15, organizations and leaders from across the U.S. will meet as a virtual congress using the internet and teleconference to facilitate a new economic direction for women.

The National Congress on the Economic Advancement of Women was established by the USWCC to bring women leaders together toward a clear objective of economic advancement. After decades of hard work, women are still struggling for economic opportunity and advancement. Women have moved from the home to the workforce, to business, boardrooms and elected office. But the statistics show women are still not reaching appropriate levels of economic opportunity.

"Change is in the air in Washington and around the United States," sites Margot Dorfman, CEO of the USWCC. "Women are ready to push past the rhetoric about economic opportunity to secure real progress. The status quo must go -- we seek real advancement."

"Recent reports provide disturbing insights into the economic status of women," adds Dorfman. "The Society of Actuaries reports that millions of women may run out of retirement savings. Legal Momentum reports that a woman in America is 45 percent more likely to be poor than a man. Catalyst reports that projected trends show it could take 40 years for women to achieve parity with men in corporate officer ranks. A National Academies report reveals that women are being filtered out of high-level science, math, and engineering jobs in the U.S. And the U.S. Census shows that, even though the number of (majority-owned) women-owned firms grew 42.3 percent between 1997 and 2006, their combined annual sales grew only 4.4 percent resulting in a drop of 37 percent in average revenues. "

Dozens of regional and national organizations have come together for the National Congress. Key leaders include: USWCC, Business and Professional Women/USA and the BPW/USA Foundation, American Association of University Women, Institute for Women's Policy Research, National Women's Political Caucus, National Association of Women's Commissions, Women's Institute for a Secure Retirement, Asian Women in Business, and Women Work! the National Network for Women's Employment.

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The U.S. Women's Chamber of Commerce(tm) is the leading advocate for women on economic and leadership issues. The USWCC is a not-for-profit 501(c)6 organization founded in 2001; its headquarters offices are located in Washington, D.C.
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Main / Women made the difference: Stay tuned
Nov 11, 2006, 04:22 AM
WHAT: Press Conference to release a new Ms. magazine/Women Donors Network exit poll by Lake Research Partners and an analysis of the 2006 elections on women as voters, candidates and agenda-setters

WHEN: Monday, Nov. 13 at noon

WHERE: National Press Club, Murrow Room, 529 14th St. NW, 13th Floor, Washington, D.C.

BACKGROUND: Women made the difference in the 2006 elections with aggressive get-out-the-vote campaigns, a record number of female candidates and a new agenda for change. Their votes helped usher new top leadership into both houses of Congress, including Nancy Pelosi, soon to be the first woman speaker of the House. The new agenda for the First 100 Hours includes policies that will have an enormous impact on women from raising the minimum wage (women are paid 77 cents to a man's $1) to preserving social security and initiating a new direction for the war in Iraq.

What part did women, as voters, candidates and agenda setters play in the success stories of the 2006 midterm elections? What happened with the gender gap? How will the new leadership impact women's rights issues, in Congress and State Capitols? What do women want to see on the agenda for the 110th Congress? What impact will Speaker of the House Pelosi have on women's lives? Women's leaders and experts who were active in the 2006 elections will address these questions and more.

http://www.usnewswire.com/

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The official results are in-The womens vote is what turned this election.
More women than men voted. Did the republicans do anything to encourage men to vote for them? Did the republicans forget that men are just as important as women?

The republicans voted to extend the violence against women act.
Did Allen Spector, chairman of the Judiciary Committee allow any men to voice their opinions before congress or did he only allow womens groups to testify? Was he reluctant allow information in that 3-10% of the violence is committed by women? (their percentage)  Did he require that some of the money allocated be spent on shelters for men?

Did the republicans do anything about the violence committed against children?

Did the republicans buy into the "New American Family" discription?
Mother and child and whoever the mother chooses to live with.

Did the republicans do anything to help fathers get access to their children? Did they continue to use the term "Deadbeat Dads"?

Did the republicans do anything that helped men? They certainly bent over backwards to do everything that women wanted. Then the women turned on them and voted for the dems.  Equal juctice. Can you use the result of this election to help? You can let the republican party know that they failed men and because of that men failed to vote for them.
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Main / Elections
Nov 08, 2006, 09:37 AM
It will be interesting to watch the House Ways and Means Committiee to see where the money goes now that Nancy P is in charge. No doubt there will be more money for ALL of womens issues. Hold on to your wallets guys, the Man Tax may not be far away with Nancy running the house that holds the purse strings.
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Main / Does this act by congress explain?
Oct 20, 2006, 06:55 AM
Expressing the sense of the Congress that, for purposes of determining child custody, evidence of spousal abuse should create a statutory presumption that it is detrimental to the child... (Reported in House)

House Calendar No. 156


101st CONGRESS

2d Session

H. CON. RES. 172

[Report No. 101-737]

CONCURRENT RESOLUTION
Expressing the sense of the Congress that, for purposes of determining child custody, evidence of spousal abuse should create a statutory presumption that it is detrimental to the child to be placed in the custody of an abusive parent.


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September 21, 1990

Reported with amendments, referred to the House Calendar, and ordered to be printed
HCON 172 RH


House Calendar No. 156

101st CONGRESS

2d Session

H. CON. RES. 172

[Report No. 101-737]
Expressing the sense of the Congress that, for purposes of determining child custody, evidence of spousal abuse should create a statutory presumption that it is detrimental to the child to be placed in the custody of an abusive parent.


IN THE HOUSE OF REPRESENTATIVES

July 20, 1989
Mrs. MORELLA (for herself and Mr. MILLER of California) submitted the following concurrent resolution; which was referred to the Committee on the Judiciary


September 21, 1990
Additional sponsors: Mr. BEREUTER, Mr. WHEAT, Mr. STARK, Mr. WALSH, Mrs. BOXER, Mr. MCNULTY, Mr. MATSUI, Mr. FAUNTROY, Mr. RANGEL, Mr. OWENS of Utah, Mr. CAMPBELL of California, Mr. CAMPBELL of Colorado, Mr. CROCKETT, Ms. PELOSI, Mr. LEHMAN of Florida, Mr. DELAY, Mr. FAZIO, Mr. DWYER of New Jersey, Mrs. JOHNSON of Connecticut, Mr. PAYNE of New Jersey, Mr. PALLONE, Mr. DE LUGO, Mrs. MEYERS of Kansas, Mr. MCDERMOTT, Mr. KILDEE, Mr. SHAYS, Mr. JOHNSON of South Dakota, Mr. WYDEN, Mr. BONIOR, Ms. SLAUGHTER of New York, Mr. PRICE, Mr. SOLARZ, Mr. MORRISON of Connecticut, Mr. WEISS, Mr. COSTELLO, Mr. MACHTLEY, Mr. POSHARD, Mr. OBERSTAR, Mr. DURBIN, Ms. KAPTUR, Mr. FRANK, Mrs. COLLINS, Mr. LIPINSKI, Mr. HYDE, Mrs. LLOYD, Mr. ACKERMAN, Mrs. KENNELLY, Mr. BRUCE, Mr. ENGEL, Mr. FOGLIETTA, Mr. SIKORSKI, Mr. BERMAN, Mr. LEWIS of Georgia, Mr. FROST, Mr. LEWIS of California, Mr. WAXMAN, Mrs. VUCANOVICH, Mr. CARPER, Mr. CHAPMAN, Mr. KOLTER, Ms. SNOWE, Mr. RHODES, Mr. YATES, Mr. BROWN of California, Mrs. UNSOELD, Mr. OWENS of New York, Mr. MFUME, Mr. HOYER, Mr. MCMILLEN of Maryland, Mr. HORTON, Mr. JONTZ, Mr. BATES, Mr. DYSON, Ms. LONG, Mr. LEVINE of California, Mrs. SAIKI, Mr. ROE, Mrs. SCHROEDER, Mr. LEVIN of Michigan, Mr. HAYES of Illinois, Mr. DOUGLAS, and Mrs. Byron


September 21, 1990
Reported with amendments, referred to the House Calendar, and ordered to be printed


[Strike out all after the resolving clause and insert the part printed in italic]

[Strike out the preamble and insert the part printed in italic]

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CONCURRENT RESOLUTION
Expressing the sense of the Congress that, for purposes of determining child custody, evidence of spousal abuse should create a statutory presumption that it is detrimental to the child to be placed in the custody of an abusive parent.

[Struck out->] Whereas State courts have thus far not recognized the detrimental effects of the batterer as a custodial parent due to their failure to hear or weigh evidence of domestic violence in child custody litigation; [<-Struck out]

[Struck out->] Whereas there is an alarming bias against battered spouses in contemporary child custody trends such as joint custody and mandatory mediation; [<-Struck out]

[Struck out->] Whereas joint custody guarantees the batterer continued access and control over the battered spouse's life through their children; [<-Struck out]

[Struck out->] Whereas joint custody forced upon hostile parents can create a dangerous psychological environment for a child; [<-Struck out]

[Struck out->] Whereas a batterer's violence toward an estranged spouse often escalates during or after a divorce, placing both the abused spouse and children at risk through shared custody arrangements and unsupervised visitation; [<-Struck out]

[Struck out->] Whereas spouse abuse is relevant to child abuse in child custody disputes; [<-Struck out]

[Struck out->] Whereas the effects of spouse abuse on children include actual and potential emotional and physical harm, the negative effects of exposure to an inappropriate role model, and the potential for future harm where contact with the batterer continues; [<-Struck out]

[Struck out->] Whereas children are emotionally traumatized by witnessing physical abuse of a parent; [<-Struck out]

[Struck out->] Whereas children often become targets of physical abuse themselves or are injured when they attempt to intervene on behalf of a parent; [<-Struck out]

[Struck out->] Whereas even children who do not directly witness spousal abuse are affected by the climate of violence in their homes and experience shock, fear, guilt, long lasting impairment of self-esteem, and impairment of developmental and socialization skills; [<-Struck out]

[Struck out->] Whereas research into the intergenerational aspects of domestic violence reveals that violent tendencies may be passed on from one generation to the next; [<-Struck out]

[Struck out->] Whereas witnessing an aggressive parent as a role model may communicate to children that violence is an acceptable tool for resolving marital conflict; and [<-Struck out]

[Struck out->] Whereas few States have recognized the interrelated nature of child custody and battering and have enacted legislation that allows or requires courts to consider evidence of spouse abuse in child custody cases: Now, therefore, be it [<-Struck out]


[Struck out->] Resolved by the House of Representatives (the Senate concurring), [Struck out->] That it is the sense of the Congress that, for purposes of determining child custody, evidence of spousal abuse should create a statutory presumption that it is detrimental to the child to be placed in the custody of the abusive parent. [<-Struck out] [<-Struck out]
Whereas State courts have often failed to recognize the detrimental effects of having as a custodial parent an individual who physically abuses his or her spouse, insofar as the courts do not hear or weigh evidence of domestic violence in child custody litigation;

Whereas there is an alarming bias against battered spouses in contemporary child custody trends such as joint custody and mandatory mediation;

Whereas joint custody guarantees the batterer continued access and control over the battered spouse's life through their children;

Whereas joint custody forced upon hostile parents can create a dangerous psychological environment for a child;

Whereas a batterer's violence toward an estranged spouse often escalates during or after a divorce, placing both the abused spouse and children at risk through shared custody arrangements and unsupervised visitation;

Whereas physical abuse of a spouse is relevant to child abuse in child custody disputes;

Whereas the effects of physical abuse of a spouse on children include actual and potential emotional and physical harm, the negative effects of exposure to an inappropriate role model, and the potential for future harm where contact with the batterer continues;

Whereas children are emotionally traumatized by witnessing physical abuse of a parent;

Whereas children often become targets of physical abuse themselves or are injured when they attempt to intervene on behalf of a parent;

Whereas even children who do not directly witness spousal abuse are affected by the climate of violence in their homes and experience shock, fear, guilt, long lasting impairment of self-esteem, and impairment of developmental and socialization skills;

Whereas research into the intergenerational aspects of domestic violence reveals that violent tendencies may be passed on from one generation to the next;

Whereas witnessing an aggressive parent as a role model may communicate to children that violence is an acceptable tool for resolving marital conflict; and

Whereas few States have recognized the interrelated nature of child custody and battering and have enacted legislation that allows or requires courts to consider evidence of physical abuse of a spouse in child custody cases: Now, therefore, be it


Resolved by the House of Representatives (the Senate concurring),

SECTION 1. It is the sense of the Congress that, for purposes of determining child custody, credible evidence of physical abuse of a spouse should create a statutory presumption that it is detrimental to the child to be placed in the custody of the abusive spouse.

SEC. 2. This resolution is not intended to encourage States to prohibit supervised visitation.
Amend the title so as to read: `Concurrent resolution expressing the sense of the Congress that, for purposes of determining child custody, credible evidence of physical abuse of one's spouse should create a statutory presumption that it is detrimental to the child to be placed in the custody of the abusive spouse.'.
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The one woman owes $68,000



Newspaper Ad Highlights 'Deadbeat Dads'
One Woman Also Made List

POSTED: 9:05 am EDT October 19, 2006

WHITE PLAINS, N.Y. -- Deadbeat dads: Pay your child support, or wind up in a newspaper ad.

Web Site: Deadbeat Dads

Westchester County, N.Y., bought a quarter-page ad labeled "Deadbeat Dads" in the New York Post this week. The ad reads: "Do you know where these deadbeat dads are? Their children don't."

"We are turning up the pressure on these deadbeats," said County Executive Andy Spano. "We have many ways of making them pay -- suspending their driver's licenses, garnishing their pay, even arresting them -- but we hope that this latest method will shame them, and others who see the ad into doing the right thing."

The first ad in the paper features four deadbeat fathers who owe a total of $192,576 for their six children.

The county hopes the four major child support debtors are shamed into paying, or at least officials can find out where they are. It's the county's latest move in the crackdown on absent parents. Photos and information on them and eight other deadbeats, including a mother, can also be found on the county's Web site.

The county said the men owe between $34,000 and $63,000 each. The ex-wife of a man who owes $63,000 said he may have fled the country but she hopes his friends will see the ad and speak to him.

One of Westchester County's largest child support offenders is a woman -- she owes $68,000.

"Making sure that parents take financial responsibility for their children is a major issue because it not only affects the lives of these children, but society as a whole,'" said Spano. "When parents don't pay child support, families are forced to go on public assistance and the taxpayer ends up taking on that responsibility."

Westchester County Social Services Commissioner Kevin Mahon said that the Office of Child Support Enforcement currently has 16,872 open cases. About 40 percent of these families are on public assistance, and 60 percent are not.

The 12 people featured on the Web site owe a total of $412,840, but that is only a fraction of the amount actually owed. DSS estimates that if all the back payments that were owed were ultimately collected, it would total $144 million
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Newspaper Ad Highlights 'Deadbeat Dads'
One Woman Also Made List

POSTED: 9:05 am EDT October 19, 2006

WHITE PLAINS, N.Y. -- Deadbeat dads: Pay your child support, or wind up in a newspaper ad.

What woman, where is her picture, what is her name and address, how much money does she owe?
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Main / Is it DV or it it DA? You decide
Oct 18, 2006, 08:29 AM
What are the types of domestic abuse?
The types of domestic abuse are:

physical abuse (domestic violence)
verbal or nonverbal abuse (psychological abuse, mental abuse, emotional abuse)
sexual abuse
stalking or cyberstalking
economic abuse or financial abuse
spiritual abuse
The divisions between these types of domestic abuse are somewhat fluid, but there is a strong differentiation between the various forms of physical abuse and the various types of verbal or nonverbal abuse.

What is physical abuse of a spouse or intimate partner?
Physical abuse is the use of physical force against another person in a way that ends up injuring the person, or puts the person at risk of being injured. Physical abuse ranges from physical restraint to murder. When someone talks of domestic violence, they are often referring to physical abuse of a spouse or intimate partner.

Physical assault or physical battering is a crime, whether it occurs inside a family or outside the family. The police are empowered to protect you from physical attack.

Physical abuse includes:

pushing, throwing, kicking
slapping, grabbing, hitting, punching, beating, tripping, battering, bruising, choking, shaking
pinching, biting
holding, restraining, confinement
breaking bones
assault with a weapon such as a knife or gun
burning
murder
What is emotional abuse or verbal abuse of a spouse or intimate partner?
Mental, psychological, or emotional abuse can be verbal or nonverbal. Verbal or nonverbal abuse of a spouse or intimate partner consists of more subtle actions or behaviors than physical abuse. While physical abuse might seem worse, the scars of verbal and emotional abuse are deep. Studies show that verbal or nonverbal abuse can be much more emotionally damaging than physical abuse.

Verbal or nonverbal abuse of a spouse or intimate partner may include:

threatening or intimidating to gain compliance
destruction of the victim's personal property and possessions, or threats to do so
violence to an object (such as a wall or piece of furniture) or pet, in the presence of the intended victim, as a way of instilling fear of further violence
yelling or screaming
name-calling
constant harassment
embarrassing, making fun of, or mocking the victim, either alone within the household, in public, or in front of family or friends
criticizing or diminishing the victim's accomplishments or goals
not trusting the victim's decision-making
telling the victim that they are worthless on their own, without the abuser
excessive possessiveness, isolation from friends and family
excessive checking-up on the victim to make sure they are at home or where they said they would be
saying hurtful things while under the influence of drugs or alcohol, and using the substance as an excuse to say the hurtful things
blaming the victim for how the abuser acts or feels
making the victim remain on the premises after a fight, or leaving them somewhere else after a fight, just to "teach them a lesson"
making the victim feel that there is no way out of the relationship
What is sexual abuse or sexual exploitation of a spouse or intimate partner?
Sexual abuse includes:

sexual assault: forcing someone to participate in unwanted, unsafe, or degrading sexual activity
sexual harassment: ridiculing another person to try to limit their sexuality or reproductive choices
sexual exploitation (such as forcing someone to look at pornography, or forcing someone to participate in pornographic film-making)
Sexual abuse often is linked to physical abuse; they may occur together, or the sexual abuse may occur after a bout of physical abuse.

What is stalking?
Stalking is harassment of or threatening another person, especially in a way that haunts the person physically or emotionally in a repetitive and devious manner. Stalking of an intimate partner can take place during the relationship, with intense monitoring of the partner's activities. Or stalking can take place after a partner or spouse has left the relationship. The stalker may be trying to get their partner back, or they may wish to harm their partner as punishment for their departure. Regardless of the fine details, the victim fears for their safety.

Stalking can take place at or near the victim's home, near or in their workplace, on the way to the store or another destination, or on the Internet (cyberstalking). Stalking can be on the phone, in person, or online. Stalkers may never show their face, or they may be everywhere, in person.

Stalkers employ a number of threatening tactics:

repeated phone calls, sometimes with hang-ups
following, tracking (possibly even with a global positioning device)
finding the person through public records, online searching, or paid investigators
watching with hidden cameras
suddenly showing up where the victim is, at home, school, or work
sending emails; communicating in chat rooms or with instant messaging (cyberstalking: see below)
sending unwanted packages, cards, gifts, or letters
monitoring the victim's phone calls or computer-use
contacting the victim's friends, family, co-workers, or neighbors to find out about the victim
going through the victim's garbage
threatening to hurt the victim or their family, friends, or pets
damaging the victim's home, car, or other property
Stalking is unpredictable and should always be considered dangerous. If someone is

tracking you,
contacting you when you do not wish to have contact,
attempting to control you, or
frightening you,
then seek help immediately.

What is cyberstalking?
Cyberstalking is the use of telecommunication technologies such as the Internet or email to stalk another person. Cyberstalking may be an additional form of stalking, or it may be the only method the abuser employs. Cyberstalking is deliberate, persistent, and personal.

Spamming with unsolicited email is different from cyberstalking. Spam does not focus on the individual, as does cyberstalking. The cyberstalker methodically finds and contacts the victim. Much like spam of a sexual nature, a cyberstalker's message may be disturbing and inappropriate. Also like spam, you cannot stop the contact with a request. In fact, the more you protest or respond, the more rewarded the cyberstalker feels. The best response to cyberstalking is not to respond to the contact.

Cyberstalking falls in a grey area of law enforcement. Enforcement of most state and federal stalking laws requires that the victim be directly threatened with an act of violence. Very few law enforcement agencies can act if the threat is only implied.

Regardless of whether you can get stalking laws enforced against cyberstalking, you must treat cyberstalking seriously and protect yourself. Cyberstalking sometimes advances to real stalking and to physical violence.

How likely is it that stalking will turn into violence?
Stalking can end in violence whether or not the stalker threatens violence. And stalking can turn into violence even if the stalker has no history of violence.

Women stalkers are just as likely to become violent as are male stalkers.

Those around the stalking victim are also in danger of being hurt. For instance, a parent, spouse, or bodyguard who makes the stalking victim unattainable may be hurt or killed as the stalker pursues the stalking victim.

What is economic or financial abuse of a spouse or domestic partner?
Economic or financial abuse includes:

withholding economic resources such as money or credit cards
stealing from or defrauding a partner of money or assets
exploiting the intimate partner's resources for personal gain
withholding physical resources such as food, clothes, necessary medications, or shelter from a partner
preventing the spouse or intimate partner from working or choosing an occupation
What is spiritual abuse of a spouse or intimate partner?
Spiritual abuse includes:

using the spouse's or intimate partner's religious or spiritual beliefs to manipulate them
preventing the partner from practicing their religious or spiritual beliefs
ridiculing the other person's religious or spiritual beliefs
forcing the children to be reared in a faith that the partner has not agreed to