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Main / Cantu Murderer's Ex-husband
Apr 16, 2009, 03:12 AM
It'll be interesting to see how and if this angle of the child murderer's story pans out.  I don't know anything about the guy, but it sounds like she put him through the ex-wife with a personality disorder playbook.

A short exerpt:

The pair moved south to Fontana, but the marriage quickly soured, with Melissa and her daughter moving out of their apartment by May 2004.

She took her daughter to her mother Judy Lawless' Cypress home and separated from Johnny Huckaby in August 2004, according to the divorce file.

On Jan. 19, 2005, after almost a year of living with her mother, Melissa Huckaby filed for divorce, citing irreconcilable differences, court records show.

On Sept. 9, 2005, an Orange County family court judge dissolved the couple's marriage, giving legal and physical custody to 24-year-old Melissa Huckaby. Her ex-husband received supervised visits once a month for a half-hour, according to court papers.

The judge ruled there was evidence that Johnny Huckaby's visits be supervised on allegations of: "abduction of child(ren)," domestic violence and alcohol abuse. The judge ordered Johnny Huckaby, who was unemployed, to pay $422 a month in child support.

Should be interesting to see if the family court system gets any criticism for this.  I'm surprised he hasn't been on the news yet.
Main / Inauguration Tomorrow
Jan 19, 2009, 05:36 AM
I'm 43 years old and I remember fairly clearly some of significant historic events of those years on TV:

-Moon landing in 1969
-Nixon's resignation
-End of the Vietnam War and the fall of Saigon
-Fall of the Soviet Union and the Berlin Wall

But for the first few, the reason I remember it is because my dad brought me into the room and said something like, "Make sure you pay attention to this, because you're seeing history right now."

So whether or not you agree with what's happening politically right now, you should still make sure to put your kids in front of the TV for that inauguration speech and let them know they're seeing history  in America's first black president.
I've seen this or something similar tossed around media articles all over the place and it instantly makes me suspicious.  it just has that factoid stink about it.

I mean, is this really true?  Is it even possible?  If women are doing all the work, are the men just sitting around in all these third world countries?

And related to that, anybody know anything about this idea that when the UN gives women money, they spend it on the family, but when they give it to men, the men spend it on themselves?

These seem like pretty ugly stereotypes to me.
Main / O/T Wish me luck
Apr 25, 2008, 12:16 PM
Well, just a few weeks shy of my 43rd birthday, I've decided to chuck my career in biotech and pharmaceuticals and start over.

This time I'm going to work in a developing nanotechnology industry here where I live.  I just gave notice at my job today.

You'd be surprised at how young it makes you feel to start out at the bottom of the ladder again.
Main / Media Bias Against Men is Soooo Bad
Apr 23, 2008, 11:13 AM
Sometimes I just can't believe how hard the media actually has to try to write articles that are biased against men.

This one in particular -- the writer had to put in considerable effort to shy away from the disparity in life expectancy between men and women in order to print a "women hit hardest" piece.

Life Expectancy Drops for Some U.S. Women
Historic Reversal, Found in 1,000 Counties, May Be Result of Smoking and Obesity

For the first time since the Spanish influenza of 1918, life expectancy is falling for a significant number of American women.

If you read it, there's not one place where they actually state what those life expectancies are!  Incredible.

If you look at the link to the actual study, you'll see that the reason is that men are still worse off.  An interesting stat in the study that was left out of the article is that men's expectancy in these places is declining mainly due to homicide and HIV.

Hm.  I thought AIDS and gun violence were hot topics in the media.  Couldn't they do a piece on how the women left behind by these dead guys have it worse than the dead guys?
Main / The Changing Definition of Matriarchy
Apr 13, 2008, 01:01 PM

ma·tri·ar·chy   Audio Help   /ˈmeɪtriˌɑrki/ Pronunciation Key - Show Spelled Pronunciation[mey-tree-ahr-kee] Pronunciation Key - Show IPA Pronunciation
-noun, plural -chies. 1. a family, society, community, or state governed by women. 
2. a form of social organization in which the mother is head of the family, and in which descent is reckoned in the female line, the children belonging to the mother's clan; matriarchal system. 


[Origin: 1880-85; matri- + -archy] Unabridged (v 1.1)
Based on the Random House Unabridged Dictionary, © Random House, Inc. 2006.

A hobby of mine is following how the definitions of words changes through time.   I have a few that I casually track, and it appears as of 2006 the definition of matriarchy has definitely changed.  The new parts are the reference to a society governed by women along with the references to lineage tracing through the female line.

Two years ago, the definition was simply "A cultural system wherein women are the head of the family."  That was it.  Now, as so many are observing that due to the family court system, etc, our society was actually beginning to meet that definition, they're changing it so that it can't be met, and therefore defined, as a matriarchy.

And actually, if you look at the second part -- the reference to lineage -- that's not even matriarchy.  That's matrilinearity, and in fact, patriarchal societies that are matrilineal are fairly common. 

I find this interesting in that it seems like they're upping the ante to obscure what's really happening.

But anyway, for anyone interested in making a note of it, 2006 was the year that men became so disempowered in their own families, that the dictionary had to be changed in order to hide the fact.
Main / Stupid but funny
Apr 02, 2008, 09:13 AM
I saw this as part of a post on another board about feminism.  They were talking about funding cuts to VAWA:

"Worse, bu$hit just cut Domestic Violence funding (VAWA) by something like 120% (can't remember the exact percentage now but it was one of the biggest cuts in domestic programs in his 2008-2009 budget). "

yeah, it was cut by 120%.  So where are they going to come up with the $20 million to pay the gov't?
Main / Pretty Funny
Mar 27, 2008, 07:56 AM
Here's a link from one of those crazy feminist boards talking about women and science.  Make note of the add in the upper right corner.

Edited to add:

they change up the ads every click apparently.  When I looked it was for -- a service that helps attractive women find rich men.
Main / Good Husband's Guide
Mar 26, 2008, 08:14 AM
Found this on the internets and thought you folks would like it.  She starts out with the good wife list and then begins below with comments on it and the husband's list.

I admit that when I first read this list I laughed. It is so hopelessly out of date now that I can hardly imagine any modern woman taking it seriously. I found it hard to believe that any person would seriously abdicate their right to question the actions of their spouse, or that any person would sincerely believe that their thoughts and concerns are of minimal importance next to those of their partner, but I know that situations like this were not at all uncommon in the 1950's. I'm sure that scores of earnest young housewives took this advice to heart back in 1955, never imagining that their daughters would grow up to laugh at it with so much disbelief. Women were each other's harshest critics back then, just as they are today, and it was common for the female-written magazines to preach obedience and servitude, orgasmic rapture over kitchen appliances, beauty, poise and above all silence, in the wide-eyed young readers who looked to them for advice.

But after reading it again, and after noting that whoever had sent this email had also taken the trouble to circle the last item - about knowing a wife's place - in red marker, I realized that this item was not intended to make me laugh. Neither was it intended to illustrate how much our society - men and women - has changed since that confusing decade after the second world war, a time when women thought it best to return to the only kind of femininity they knew after having done of the work of men in wartime factories. The article was intended to encourage in me an outraged gasp of shock, an indignant yelp of estrogen-based anger, a condemnation of men everywhere and a heartfelt wail of sorrow for all my lost sisters, doomed to a high-heeled life of slavery to the Frigidaire. I had been duped, like most people had, into reading more propaganda about how lousy it is to be a woman and what self-centred, socially and economically privileged pompous asses men have always been.

It's a lucrative business, this making men out to be the cause of all our woe. No one knows exactly how much public funding radical women's groups get, but it climbs easily into the multi-millions per year. A great many women owe their livelihood to the fact that male-bashing is not only condoned, it's fashionable and moral and considered turn about for all the centuries of "abuse" women have supposedly suffered; a great many paycheques and grants and bursaries would dry up completely if men weren't such an easy target, a ready-made devil figure to justify these expenditures and all that ink. One way to make sure that no one ever forgets that men are evil bastards - not even for a second, not even in a era when the society they live in no longer hinders women in any way - is to send little emails around and to put up little posters in university hallways and the like. If they have to go back fifty years to find a suitable example, so be it. Anything rather than presenting a more balanced and more accurate accounting of relations between the sexes.

How many feminists, for example, send out emails reminding us that in 1955, the average work week included Saturday and required 10-12 hour days, or that the financial burden of providing for home and family on one salary, without even the possibility of financial contribution from their spouse, placed men of that generation under enormous pressure? Besides which, how many feminists remind their faithful that in 1955, there was nothing to stop women from holding down jobs of their own and foregoing marriage altogether if they chose, or having a career while being a wife and mother too? Barbara Billingsly, the quintessential fifties super-mom-in-pearls whom most feminists see as an icon of repression and a prime example of everything that's wrong with domesticity, was herself a working mother, an actress with a full time job and a family at the same time.

We never hear about these things, of course, because it goes against the political agenda of those who would profit from painting women as long suffering and men as the agents of our grief. Neither do we ever hear about the opposite side of the issue, about the demands and expectations we place - and have always placed - on men.

So I came up with my own list, something that could have appeared in Housekeeping Monthly or some such similar advice magazine for men. It would have been based on the same premise that the Good Wife's Guide is built on - that the husband works at a job to provide for his family while his wife stays home to raise the kids and run the household. It would have been called "The Good Husband's Guide", and it would have gone something like this:

* Always make getting and keeping a full-time job with regular raises, benefits, bonuses and the potential for prestigious advancement your number one priority in life. Remember always that you have a wife and children who need your financial support, and that it is your responsibility to provide for them to the best of your ability.

* Always arrive home refreshed and happy - put your bad day or your confrontation with your boss, the traffic, the crowds or the physical exhaustion you might feel aside and try to arrive home as cheery and lighthearted as you possibly can. Your wife has been struggling with the children and the housework all day, she does not need to hear about how bad your day was.

* Be prepared to help with household chores when you get home - let your wife relax or talk on the phone since she has been dealing with these problems all day. Make supper for her often, and offer to clean up afterwards so that she may rest and feel appreciated.

* Do not bore your wife with stories of the troubles you faced at work today. Remember that you are lucky to have a job and that many other men would be happy to trade places with you. Remember that it is not masculine to complain or let worries trouble you. Your job is to provide, and whatever you must go through to achieve this is part of your lot in life. A good husband knows that he is lucky to have a wife at all, and that a woman wants a strong, silent man she can depend on.

* Never expect your wife to have contributed to the smooth operation of the household. She has had a busy day and cannot be expected to provide meals or clean clothes for you. Never insult her by asking her to do such things while you're out earning money. Be mindful always that your wife may think you are being sexist if you ask her to help make a home for your family as part of your partnership.

* Be prepared to account for your whereabouts every minute of the day, including an explanation as to why you were away from the phone when she tried to call or why you were unable to chat with her for twenty minutes when she did get through to you. You must always put her interests first, and be mindful of her natural suspicion about her husband's activities. A good husband knows that men can't be trusted, and that a wife has every reason to believe you will hurt and humiliate her.

* Do not grumble or gripe about handing over your paycheque to her - she is in control of your finances and knows better than you how to spend or invest your money. Never assume that the money you earn is yours to do with as you will - you have a family to think about now, and their needs must always come before your own.

* Listen avidly to your wife's complaints. She leads a hectic life and needs to feel listened to and appreciated. Never suggest ways in which she might solve whatever problem is vexing her. You need only listen; your suggestions are likely insensitive and unfeeling anyway. And do not counter with complaints of your own. She would love to have the chance to leave the house and work, she does not need to hear about how difficult your job is.

* Be prepared to give up your weeknights or weekends to whatever projects or socializing your wife has in mind. If she has determined that cleaning out the garage or painting the upstairs bathroom would be the best use of your time, never complain that you would like to relax or pursue personal interests instead. She has every right to expect that you will make repairs to the house or help her redecorate during your time off. Do not be so selfish as to ask for personal time. You are a family man now, you do not have the luxury of personal time.

* Always be prepared to take over in caring for the children when you get home from work. Your wife has been busy all day and deserves some quiet time. Allow her to watch television or chat with her friends on the phone, go shopping or simply relax. They are your children too, and it is unfair of you to expect to come home from a twelve hour day and simply put your feet up.

* Never grumble about having to support children you didn't want to have. If you were irresponsible enough to help her get pregnant, then it is your duty to pay for that child for the next eighteen years. If you decide to have sex, you must know that pregnancy may result and be fully prepared to take responsibility for it. This, of course, does not apply to her. She doesn't have to be responsible for her actions, and can abort a child she conceived any time she wants, whether this breaks your heart or not. Accept this stoically. She has the special privilege of being able to kill her unborn child, carry it to term and give it up for adoption, or have it and raise it all by herself if she wants, but you have the responsibility of simply living with whatever choice she makes and quite often paying for it, too. Remember, you have no right to be a parent and no right not to be a parent, you are just a man. A good husband knows his place.

There is one main difference between the Good Wife's Guide and the above. The first list is outdated and laughable in its attitudes towards women; the second list, however, could be printed today since every single sentiment expressed in it is practiced, believed and upheld by modern wives and by the culture at large.

Although the Good Husband's Guide is just as offensive, just as insulting, just as sexist, and just as accurate a picture of the plight of some modern husbands, it will never make the email rounds as a rallying cry for anything. No one so much as blinks at the way husbands are treated in this era, and never will as long as men are so thoroughly unappreciated and so completely abused, but proud enough, strong enough, and mature enough not to complain.

I know the flick's more than 10 years old, but I saw some of it for the first time yesterday in bits and pieces.  There were some women watching it and it drove home the depth of misandry in our culture to the point that I had a knot in my stomach.  It turns out that the highest expression of love a man can display for a woman is to drown in freezing seawater.  Any guy who doesn't do that is an a-hole, apparently.

But some of the depictions of the event really sickened me too.  Like, after the ship sinks, they show a boat with crrewmen rowing among the bodies looking for survivors.  If you watch, the dead women clearly outnumber the dead men, and of course, virtually all the bodies they turn over looking for signs of life are women.  Next, they cut to a scene of a boat completely full of men.

Overall, the death toll by gender on the Titanic was 9 men for every 1 woman.

So it was sort of funny in a sick way to listen to these women comment on the movie.  Like the "villain" picks up a little girl and uses her to get into a lifeboat.  The women sneered about what a coward he was to do that.  But, of course, if a woman picks up a stray child and uses her to get into the lifeboat, she's a hero!

The during the scene with the boat full of men, one woman sneered "the boats full of men -- typical."

I responded, "so was the water -- typical."

I don't think they like me anymore.
Main / Popularity Contest
Mar 21, 2008, 11:15 AM
Cast your vote for the popularity contest!

I intentionally left myself out, but you can write me in if you like.
Main / From another board
Mar 03, 2008, 02:03 PM
So just as an aside, on another (music related) board I frequent, there was a thread about Bill Monroe's Lloyd Loar mandolin that was once smashed with a fireplace poker and who did the act.  Along with that people offered stories about how their own instruments were severely damaged.

I'm sure you can see what's coming next.

In Monroe's case, and most of the others, the culprit is an angry woman.  Damn, domestic violence committed by women has to be at least twice as common as that committed by men.

Incidentally, in today's market, a Lloyd Loar mandolin is worth abou $200,000.
Main / Reading material
Dec 12, 2007, 11:50 AM
So this blog writer for my local paper who does a vapid feminist thing is looking for reading material for the holiday break.

I suggest we give her some.

Registration is required.
Main / Bloody Mary's First Interview
Sep 07, 2007, 05:40 AM
Just wanted to alert everyone that Bloody Mary Winkler will be the featured guest on Oprah, Wednesday next week. :puke:
Main / Interesting Letter to the Editor
Aug 22, 2007, 05:20 AM
This was in my local paper this morning.  I found it interesting in that, it appears that many MRA views are seeping into the mainstream -- albeit slowly.  Too bad the guy didn't leave an email or I'd invite him over here.

The letter struck me as somewhat Angry Harry-esque

Induce peace with female combat role mandate 


First published: Wednesday, August 22, 2007

Kathryn Jean Lopez's Aug. 17 argument against women in combat roles reflects an outdated vision of the world that is holding society back.
The Iraq war is opposed by the majority of the American people. Despite our disapproval, it goes on. The grief of mothers for their lost sons, like that of Cindy Sheehan, is still not enough to raise our collective will to say: No more.

Would President Bush, with no personal combat experience, have put more thought into avoiding the conflict or prepared a better plan for dealing with the aftermath if his daughters could have been on the front line? Young men's lives are 100 percent equal to young women's, no more, no less.

Yes, American women serving in the war in noncombat posts have died. But what equivalent sacrifices are American women making, compared to the 3,600-plus young men who have died for the American way of life? Protecting and maintaining the homes of service people away is an amazing sacrifice and a necessary support role, but it is not the same as putting it all on the line. Men should no longer be seen as expendable in a world of gender equality.

Maybe the collective will of fathers wanting to spare their daughters from war is the only thing that will give us a more peaceful world.

For these reasons, I think Ms. Lopez is wrong and I believe that mandating women in combat roles could be the greatest unintended guarantee of peace we as a society could come up with.



Here's the link:,9171,1647452,00.html/cnn=yes?cnn=yes

Interesting to note the timing of the article with the conference in D.C.

Main / Typical Misandry Incidents
Jun 26, 2007, 06:19 AM
A couple of typical misandry incidents I recently observed.

The first one took place in a neighbor's backyard and was fairly mild.  Two women, one an art teacher, were talking about men's and women's bodies and the aesthetic qualities of each.  The art teacher said she'd much rather draw and look at women's bodies since they're so much more attractive.  So much for the classical sculptures of the ancient world.

The second woman said something like, "Yeah, men are all funny looking with their clothes off."  Incidentally, her husband is in great shape and is at the gym 5 times a week.  He practically looks ready for fight club.  She, on the other hand, is about 40lbs overweight with an ass that looks like a bag of wet laundry.

The second incident of misandry I witnessed was an old friend of the family.  She dropped by my mother's house (who I was visiting for the weekend) and out of nowhere launched into some diatribe against men.

She went on and on about how intrinsically terrible a substance testosterone is and that if we'd just castrate all the men, we'd get rid of war, child molestors and a number of other evils too numerous to list.

Some background on this woman:  Her first husband built the house they lived in as well as the house next door which was a childhood home of mine.  Their second vacation home was a dump bought for a song that he completely renovated into a model home all by himself.  When they divorced -- because she was cheating on him -- he gave her both of the houses and left.  He's still friends with her to this day.

Her second husband was a WWII vet who lied about his age to join the Marines at 16.  He was shot by a sniper on Iwo Jima and lived for the rest of his life with one leg shorter than the other.  The resulting arthritis in his later years was painful, but he never complained.  When he died, she was left with his substantial retirement savings.  And she complains constantly about the discomforts of her old age -- discomforts resulting from drinking waaay too much and smoking heavily.

She wound up her diatribe with the declaration that women would be just fine without men and that we're not much needed.

I said something like, "Yeah, well you'd be having fun in your mud hut where Rome should've been with half the babies dying before they're five."

She abruptly ended the visit and left.

But how do these women arrive at this?  They have husbands and fathers who give so freely to them and indeed give them lives they wouldn't have otherwise had -- and sons who love them so unconditionally.

Yet, so full of misandry....?
As many of you may know, Ruth Graham, wife of evangelist, Billy Graham, recently passed away.

Here's a quick Google search looking for the story about how she once locked her son in the trunk of the car for bothering his sisters:

What's amazing is that not one person thinks that was anything but a great idea.