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Main / Embarrassed on Facebook
May 30, 2010, 11:19 AM
Be careful folks! Don't let this happen to you! By the way, I note that her Relationship Status is "Engaged". I certainly hope that was her fiancée she was talking to!

Main / Ain't Love Grand?
May 15, 2010, 09:08 PM
I am told that the chick - Jenna Bentley - is a model and that she appeared in Playboy at some point. She looks older than 21 to me though. Ahh, love is in the air!

Main / Sterling Institute - The Men's Weekend
May 15, 2010, 11:53 AM
A good friend of mine indicated that he will be attending this event. I've never heard of them but I have my doubts. This friend of mine is a pretty radical left-winger. He has been known to spout feminist rhetoric from time to time.

* Link to the Sterling Institute *

The Men's Weekend

To engage in the process of locating the source of your power and discovering and dissolving the barriers between you and manifesting that power so that you experience total freedom as only a man can and with that freedom be the man you always wanted to be.

The Sterling Men's Weekend reawakens and invigorates the masculine spirit through a rugged exploration of the heart, mind, and soul. Set against the backdrop of relationships with the opposite sex, the Weekend offers men a two day, directed journey through our new roles in society, family, and the workplace. It focuses a practical and uncompromising light on traditional and modern concepts of masculinity, femininity, sex, marriage, success, and lifestyle.

The Weekend clarifies the conflict between modern society's expectations and our ancient masculine biological and emotional foundation. Participants learn to integrate, rather than reject, their masculine instincts, resulting in success, power, and contentment. The Weekend has a profound and far-reaching effect on men of all ages and backgrounds. For many, it has been a defining moment in their lives.
Main / I made up rape story says girl, 8
May 15, 2010, 08:50 AM
Gee, I wonder where an 8 year-old gets this from. A child that young should have no concept of sex or rape.

* Link to MailOnline *

I made up rape story says girl, 8: She feared being told off for playing with boys
By Rebecca Camber
Last updated at 7:57 AM on 14th May 2010

A girl of eight yesterday said she had lied about being raped by two ten-year-olds.

The youngster told the Old Bailey she had wanted to play with the boys because she thought it would be 'fun'.

She said she made up the rape claim because she was worried she wouldn't get any sweets if her mother found out she had been 'a bit naughty'.

The boys, now aged ten and 11, are believed to be the youngest ever in Britain to face trial for rape.

They are alleged to have dragged the victim around a block of flats and bin sheds hunting for a secluded spot before they took turns to rape her in a playing field.

But yesterday, in an extraordinary twist, the girl said neither boy had raped her. She did however say one of the boys made her touch his penis as they played in a field.

In cross-examination by defence counsel, the girl admitted she had wanted to play with the boys and had pulled down her own underwear while the boys exposed themselves.

Linda Strudwick, defending one of the boys, asked her: 'You told her (your Mum) that it was the boys because you did not want your Mum to think you had been naughty, is that right?'

The girl, giving evidence via videolink, replied: 'Yeah.'

The judge, Mr Justice Saunders, asked what the girl had been worried about. She replied: 'No sweets if she found out I had been naughty.'

The jury heard the girl had been playing near her home in Hayes, West London during the school half term on October 27 last year when the alleged attack happened.

The girl told the jury she had 'been a tiny bit' naughty when she took down her knickers to show the boys several times.

Miss Strudwick asked her: 'You found it quite fun to play with the boys? No one dragged you to the bin sheds, no one held or forced you or pushed you in there?'

She added: 'You were all giggling, it was just silly wasn't it?' The girl replied: 'Yeah'.

In a series of questions, the girl was asked if any parts of her body had been penetrated by the boys. She replied each time: 'No.'

After she finished her evidence Mr Justice Saunders told her: 'No one is suggesting you have done anything wrong.

'I am the judge and I don't suggest you have done anything wrong. Remember that.'

When the group of children were found by their mothers minutes after the alleged attack, they all denied doing anything.

It was only when the girl got home she told her mother she had been raped.

She was later taken to hospital to be examined after complaining of stomach pains, where doctors found a number of scratches and grazes.

Earlier, the girl had agreed with Miss Strudwick that scratches she had on parts of her body may have been caused when the younger boy was trying to help her over a fence.

The boys, who cannot be identified for legal reasons, deny two charges of rape and two charges of attempted rape.

Yesterday the girl bit her fingers nervously as she was asked questions.

Sitting in an annexe to the court, she covered her face with her hands and tugged at her hair as she spoke about how she was 'naughty' with the boys.

Previously the court had been shown a video of her being interviewed by police about the alleged rape.

Tightly clutching a teddy to her chest, she told how the boys forced her to pull down her pants before taking it in turns to do something to her that made her bow her head and wipe her eyes.

She said the boys had 'showed me their willies' and demanded to see her ' minnie', flushing red with embarrassment as she was asked to point at what she meant.

The trial continues.
* link to lemondrop *

Why 'Skinny Jeans' Should Never Be The Reason A Rapist Walks

There are many reasons, both pro and con, when considering whether to wear The Skinny Jean.

Off the bat, I can call to mind their ability, when paired with heels, to make my 5-foot frame look deceivingly long and lean, but, admittedly, they are a disadvantage when attempting to execute a standing back tuck. What I have never considered when donning pants in the morning -- before today -- was whether the tightness of my jeans would prevent me from being raped. Or, if I were, whether they would prevent those charges from sticking.

Yeah, you heard me: Over the weekend, an Australian jury acquitted Nicholas Gonzales of rape, due to the fact that the female plaintiff had been wearing skinny jeans at the time.

The story goes that Gonzales, 23, invited said acquaintance, 24, up to his room to listen to some music, at which time he pushed her onto the bed, pinned her down with his torso, and stripped off her jeans, before sexually assaulting her. The defense attorney posited that it would be "difficult for skinny jeans to be taken off by someone else unless the wearer [was] assisting, collaborating, consenting."

The jury agreed. During the trial, they wanted to know more about "how exactly Nick took off her jeans" in order to make their decision.

"I doubt those kind of jeans can be removed without any sort of collaboration," read a juror's note.

Gone are the days of "If the glove don't fit, you must acquit." And so long, Twinkie Defense! A new bizarre (and, most notably, successful) "reasonable doubt" for all those unlucky rapists has arrived. And this is not the first time the words "skinny jeans" have made a cameo in a rape case, either.

Recently, a Korean court overturned the sentence of a man previously convicted of raping a skinny-jeans-clad woman, whereas an Italian court upheld a conviction despite the victim's skinny jeans. The official ruling from the Supreme Court of Appeals in Rome was that "jeans cannot be compared to any type of chastity belt," no matter how snug they may be.

Grazie, Italy! I have heard the "Oh, she was wearing a miniskirt with her thong hanging out -- she was asking for it" defense before, but I never thought I'd live to see the day where it would devolve to include this strange denim caveat.

Hear me loud and clear on this one, folks: I don't care if you're wearing nothing but DENTAL FLOSS, let alone a miniskirt or skinny jeans, no one and I mean NO ONE -- sex worker or librarian, man or woman -- should be expected to, pressured into, or downright forced to engage in any type of sexual activity, for any reason whatsoever, without their express consent.

That being said, I know there are some crazy women out there who poke holes in condoms to get pregnant and blackmail men for their own gain. I don't presume to know what it's like to be a man and, upon taking a woman home from a bar, wonder if she might slap you with a subpoena the next morning.

My main problem with this whole Skinny Jean Consent thing is that it completely misses the point: They're saying that because he could not possibly have removed her pants by himself (clearly it would take an astrophysicist, The Hulk, or 10 of his closest friends), she MUST have been on board for the alternative to "listening to music." But I say even if she DID help him take her pants off, it does not mean she was consenting to have sex with him. You can say "yes" to one thing but still express a resounding -- and completely admissible-in-court -- "no" to everything else.

"Hey, baby, do you want to listen to some music?"
"Why, yes, that sounds delightful!"
"You know, I think your skinny jeans are cutting off the circulation to your ears. You'll hear much better if you take off your pants."
"Oh, you are so smart and kind, you big smart man, you."

Seriously, did everyone else besides me miss the after-school special about rape? Just because I go "down under" on you doesn't mean I'm consenting for you to sleep with me afterward. Even if I've specifically said to you that I'm ready to go, I'm allowed -- at any point -- to change my mind and say a big fat N-O to you putting your shrimp on my barbie. Even if we're already back at your place, and I'm out of my skinny jeans and your didgeridoo is ready for action. (Yes, the insanity of this acquittal has reduced me to terrible Australian euphemisms.)

I will pull it back together to say this: Until (frighteningly) recently, rape cases hinged on whether or not the victim had physically fought back against his or her assailant. In the event that evidence of physical resistance was absent, it was usually ruled that the sexual act was consensual. In the last decade or so, prosecutors have finally been able to prove lack of consent by presenting the victim's verbal objections.

Bottom line: "No means no" isn't just something funny you say to your friends when they try to get you eat your own boogers; it is the crux of many women's cases. Ultimately, the reason Gonzales walked is because a room full of people felt that a woman's outfit was prohibitively difficult to remove. I call bullsh** and so does Veronica Wensing: The chairwoman of the National Association of Services Against Sexual Assault told the Sydney Morning Herald, simply, that a woman's outfit should not be an issue in alleged rapes.

As she so astutely put it, ''Any piece of clothing can be removed with force.''

Virginia Clarkson writes for It's Not Okay to Look, where she and her co-editor G. Cecile Cooper, dish on dating disasters, male fails and general romantic follies as experienced by two Brooklynites in search of Mr. Right.

How Your Son Could End Up on the Sex Offender List
by Lenore Skenazy
May 11th 2010 11:00AM

Let's say your son turns 18. He gets a job at the local carnival, running the ride where the kids lie face down and spin around till they shriek with delight (or puke). Before each ride he has to buckle the kids in so they don't fly out. But then -- tragedy strikes.

Oh, don't worry. Nobody goes flying. They're buckled just fine. But one girl does tell her mother, "He touched my bottom!"

The mom alerts the police.

The police come over and ask, "Is that true?" Your son replies, "Maybe. I have to lock the bar around their waists and between their legs. They squirm. It could have happened."

The next day the police take him in for questioning. They ask him the same thing, this time with the videotape running. He gives them the same answer.

It is considered his confession. He is convicted of "Indecent Assault and Battery on a Child." He goes to jail for nine months. He is put on the Sex Offender Registry -- for life.

Meantime, a few years later, your younger son is now 18. He's at the urinal in the school bathroom during a weekend service project. A girl too young to read bursts in and he yells, "Out out out! Get out!" She starts crying and leaves. Her mom is concerned. The police are called. Was he in the men's room with a girl?

Well, yes. Since everyone agrees the girl was not touched, he is convicted of "Visual Sexual Aggression Against a Child" -- the crime of having a child see his genitals. He does six months in jail. He's placed on the Sex Offender Registry for the next 10 years.

Let us remember this when we look up our local sex offender maps and see two convicts: One who ostensibly exposes himself to children and one who ostensibly assaults them.

We consult those maps because, as parents, we are hardwired to worry about our children. We worry about them getting hurt by strangers. But few of us worry about them getting hurt by strange laws that can put a young man behind bars for touching a child, even accidentally, on the bottom, in public, with everyone's clothes on. Or for having a child, even accidentally, glimpse his private parts.

I spoke to the actual mom of these two young men. She's a fishing net-maker in Maine and she put it pretty succinctly: "We're all just one accusation away from the sex offender registry."


Lmom 5-11-2010 @ 5:37PM

Silver Fang, I am the mother of the young men in this article.

Young man #1 was scared into a plea - Public Defender, and the prosecutor had in the meantime stirred up a real ruckus. He had gone to the local paper and several other children were questioned by their parents until they "admitted" that he might have touched them (on the buttocks through the clothing) as well. The prosecutor referred to the chat with the police as a confession, and stated he had 3 or 4 other children to whom the same thing had happened. Frightened that he could wind up in jail for decades (quite possible), he plead guilty to sexual assault of a minor.

Young man #2 has a speech problem. In talking to the police, he had a long pause in which he was trying to figure out how to express himself. Even he admits that it sounded like he was lying. Public Defender again. This one went to trial, but the tape was presented in evidence (should never have happened, he was not Mirandized) and without evidence (Public Defender, right?) that he has a speech problem, the verdict was almost a foregone conclusion. Guilty of Visual Sexual Aggression.
It happens. And, believe it or not, it could happen to you. Do you have a couple of tens of thousand dollars for defense? And even if you do, the assumption is in the system now that he would not have been accused if it had not happened, and certainly would not have been arrested if he was not guilty.

Many are on the registry who do not belong there. Indeed, the professionals who deal with sex offenders every day admit that the public nature of the registry does more harm than good.

There are only 2 possibilities. One is that the person is not a danger to commit another sex crime. In that case, you persecute someone unjustly. The second possibility is that the person IS at risk for repeat sex crimes - and then, you are destabilizing them by reducing the likelihood of stable employment and stable housing, which all experts agree makes it more likely that the offender in question will reoffend. Do we really want that? Think about all this the next time someone points out that there is a sex offender in your neighborhood. Don't just assume he did it. And even if he did, the likelihood of a repeat crime is low - and lower if he is not continually reminded and persecuted for it.

Judge orders Dwyane Wade's wife taken into custody

By DON BABWIN, Associated Press Writer

A judge in Chicago ordered sheriff's deputies to take Miami Heat star Dwyane Wade's estranged wife into custody after she failed to show up for a Monday divorce hearing.

Siohvaughn Wade will have to post $10,000 bond to be released, Cook County Circuit Judge Marya Nega said. The sheriff's department couldn't immediately say when the order would be carried out.

Nega said she was tired of what she called a pattern of behavior by Siohvaughn Wade throughout her contentious divorce from the basketball player and Chicago native.

"When things don't go according to Mrs. Wade's way all of a sudden the phone's turned off," said Nega, clearly exasperated when Siohvaughn Wade's attorney explained she had not been able to reach her client.

Dwyane Wade's attorney had planned to ask Monday that his client be given physical custody of the couple's two boys, ages 8 and 2.

The judge said Siohvaughn Wade had refused to comply with other orders. For example, Nega said, Siohvaughn Wade has not followed an order to make sure the couple's two children talk to their father every day. Nega also noted the children were not at their Chicago school last week to be picked up by Dwyane Wade's sister as the judge had ordered.

The judge said her main concern was what the couple's ongoing divorce was doing to the children and suggested she may order custody be given to Dwyane Wade.

"Maybe it's time for the kids to go live with Dad for a month or two," the judge said.

Last week, Siohvaughn Wade filed a lawsuit in Chicago contending Wade's relationship with actress Gabrielle Union was causing the couple's sons emotional distress, alleging, for example, that Wade and Union "engaged in sexual foreplay" in front of the boys.

Dwyane Wade has called the lawsuit "baseless and meritless." After Monday's hearing, his attorney, James Pritikin, said he wants the judge to order a psychiatric evaluation for Siohvaughn Wade.

Pritikin told the judge Siohvaughn Wade has repeatedly thwarted Dwyane Wade's efforts to visit his children or talk with them on the phone. Pritikin said she even once called police when Dwyane Wade showed up at the couple's Miami home to pick them up, falsely telling officers there was a warrant out for the basketball player's arrest.

Pritikin requested that the judge ask the state's attorney's office to launch a criminal investigation. In court documents, his office said Siohvaughn Wade is "unstable, dishonest, and unbalanced," and that more time with her "would seriously endanger the minor children's physical, mental, moral and emotional health."

Siohvaughn Wade's attorney, Marsha Fisher, tried to take some blame for her client's failure to appear Monday. Fisher said Wade had learned Fisher had been in a car accident and apparently thought she did not have to show up in court.

"The fact that you had a car accident does not excuse Mrs. Wade not being here," the judge said.

Nega said she likely would schedule a custody hearing for the summer, then deal with the rest of the case later.

Dwyane Wade said little during the hearing and declined to talk to reporters when it was over.

Grandmother facing battery charges after slapping granddaughter for mouthing off
Laura Kadechka

Largo, Florida -- It seems the grandmother accused of domestic battery after slapping her mouthy teenage granddaughter won't face charges after all.

Theresa Collier's daughter, Diane Collier, tells 10 Connects, while they haven't seen the paperwork, an attorney working with shock jock Bubba the Love Sponge has pushed the case forward within the State Attorney's Office and the domestic battery charge lodged against the 73-year-old grandmother was dropped.

Theresa Collier says she's never been in trouble her entire life, but this week, the grandmother found herself behind bars in the Pinellas County Jail after slapping her granddaughter for swearing at her.

"My heart's going like this. I just thought I was going to die. I wanted to crawl in a hole," Collier told 10 Connects, as she broke down in tears.

Collier says she invited her 18-year-old granddaughter, Felicia Collier, to her house so she could use her computer to do homework.

Felicia is finishing her senior year online after getting kicked out of Catholic school in Massachusetts, Collier explained.

"She said F-off to a nun! I would just crawl into a hole," said Collier.

On Tuesday, the newly turned 18-year-old did not want to obey her commands to complete her assignments.

"She kept repeating the F-word to me, about the whole family. She just went on and on and I just got so upset, I got up and slapped her across the face," she told 10 Connects, "She grabbed my wrists and I couldn't get out of it and she let one go and she punched me in the cheek here."

Felicia then called police to her grandmother's home, but even the teenager couldn't have imagined what happened next.

"The two officers came to each side of me and before I know it, they have my arms and they said, 'You're under arrest,' and they cuff me," Collier said tearfully.

Despite Felicia Collier's attempts to convince police not to arrest her grandmother, the officers took the woman into custody.

Theresa Collier describes the next 24 hours in jail as the worst hours of her life.

"I went to medical, they take my blood pressure, it was sky high and he says, my God! And I said, 'Can you blame my blood pressure?' " said Collier.

"My wife of 52 years went to Catholic Parochial school, went to church, she's a good strong Catholic and raised four kids and no one ever spoke to her like that," said her husband, Walter Collier.

While Collier's arrest seems out of line, under the law, a battery was committed.

"Legally she's 18-years-old, so while I understand the difference between corporal punishment on a child, disciplining your child for using poor language, this is an 18-year-old child," said Lt. Mike Loux, with the Largo Police Department.

Lt. Loux says his department has a mandatory arrest policy when it comes to domestic violence calls, so someone had to go to jail.

"If an officer on scene finds probable cause to arrest a person, because they've committed domestic battery, then our policy is a mandatory arrest of that person," said Lt. Loux, "The discretion does not come because the victim does not want to prosecute. It doesn't come because the victim has remorse for calling police."

Felicia Collier was in court on Wednesday for her grandmother's first appearance and signed a form to not only not prosecute, but allow contact with her grandmother.

"I think it's ridiculous. We're hurt so bad, I'm so scared she's going to have a heart attack or a stroke over this. She doesn't sleep, she bursts into tears and I'm almost doing it now," said Walter Collier.

They haven't spoken to their granddaughter since the incident.

Further complicating things, the couple only lives in Largo part-time. They have plane tickets to head home to New Hampshire next week and are not unsure if it's a good idea they return since Collier has yet to have her next day in court set.

"What are they going to do? Send me back in?" said Collier, pointing toward the jail.
Main / How To Train Your Man
May 03, 2010, 09:57 AM

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Main / Girls win right to play on boys' teams
Apr 30, 2010, 08:40 AM

* Link to The Hamilton Spectator *

Girls win right to play on boys' teams
High schools must let females try out for teams

Scott Radley
The Hamilton Spectator

(Apr 28, 2010)

With few exceptions, girls who have wanted to play high school sports in Ontario over the years have had to do so on girls' teams, if one was available.

No more.

As of last week, girls now have carte blanche to play on boys' teams if they can make it. Even when a girls' team is available.

The decision stems from the case of a Waterloo high school student who filed a human rights complaint recently after her demand to play on the boys' soccer team was denied. As the process rolled on, Ontario Federation of School Athletic Associations lawyers decided they were going to lose the fight, so the organization relented before legal precedent was set. A negotiated settlement allowed it to write its own policy rather than being force-fed the wording.

"Absolutely I see this as a good thing," says the girl's lawyer, Grace Vaccarelli. "I don't think a woman should be told she can't play on a team because of her gender."

While others will join her in seeing this as a tremendous victory for women, not everyone's celebrating.

OFSAA's executive director Doug Gellatly says the new policy -- which he was against -- raises a number of issues.

Start with the obvious question before it's even asked: No, Gellatly says, if a girl takes a boys' spot on a team, a boy can't try out for a girls' squad in return.

If he requests the chance and is denied, he'd almost certainly be wasting his time launching a human rights case of his own.

"My understanding is that's never been supported," Gellatly says.

Go ahead and debate the fairness and equity of that. But that's a red herring, really.

Gellatly says the bigger issues here are more subtle.

Those celebrating this as a great victory for women may be missing the point of how damaging it actually could be because of what it says about the value -- or more appropriately, the lack of value -- of girls' sports. If talented girls are arguing that to get real competition they have to play with the boys, what they're really saying is the female game is weak and not worth playing.

That isn't much of an endorsement. Nor is it fair.

Hamilton public board athletic convenor Chris Newman shares that concern, fearing it lessens the profile of girls' sports and removes role models who could help build up the games and athletes who aren't quite as talented.

Then there's the grenade in the foxhole.

A similar human rights case in Manitoba a couple years ago is said to be responsible for the folding of several girls' teams after a number of top athletes left their teams.

"I anticipate there will be more repercussions," says Manitoba High Schools Athletic Association executive director Morris Glimcher, who dealt with that situation.

"More teams will fold."

Vaccarelli dismisses all of it. She says she has seen no evidence of teams folding and she doesn't buy the idea that girls playing with the boys diminishes female sports.

To the contrary, she points to the women who've done well -- regardless where that happens -- as the role models who'll strengthen interest in female sports. Most of all, this new freedom allows talented girls to play at a higher level to better themselves.

While Hamilton's Catholic board athletics department said it has no comment on the change, Newman says the public board has allowed girls to try out for boys' teams a couple times before in the past 15 years, once for baseball and once for hockey.

But the issue hasn't come up recently. If it did, the boards technically wouldn't have to give the OK to the girls, Gellatly says. Each is an autonomous body that can develop its own rules, regardless of OFSAA regulations.

However, the first time a girl asks to play on a boys' team, is told she can't and files a complaint with the Human Rights Tribunal, the outcome is bound to be the same.

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Main / Really Depressing CNN Article
Apr 12, 2010, 08:47 PM
Make sure you check out the comments at the bottom of the page under "soundoff".

Ex-teacher pleads guilty to sex with teens
By Grace Wong, In Session Producer
April 12, 2010 10:42 p.m. EDT

Tampa, Florida (CNN) --
Former middle school math teacher Stephanie Ragusa was teary-eyed Monday as she pleaded guilty to having sex with two underage students.

Ragusa, 31, faces up to 10 years in prison when she is sentenced on June 15.

She pleaded guilty to three counts of lewd and lascivious battery in a March 2008 case involving a 14-year-old boy.

She also pleaded guilty to two counts of having unlawful sex with a minor in an April 2008 case involving a 16-year-old student.

Prosecutor Rita Peters said Ragusa had intercourse with the 14-year-old on three occasions between October 2006 and May 2007. Evidence in that case included a phone conversation police recorded with the teen's consent. During the phone call, Ragusa could be heard urging him to keep their encounters secret, Peters said.

Peters said the encounters with the other teen began when he was 15. They ended when she was arrested in April 2008 as she was leaving his home. Evidence in the case included DNA matches, several amorous letters Ragusa wrote and gifts she gave him, the prosecutor added. The gifts included a key chain with her initials on it.

Peters said investigators also found a will in Ragusa's handwriting that named the teen as executor.

Shackled and dressed in an orange jumpsuit, Ragusa entered her guilty pleas just before a jury was to be picked at her trial.

Ragusa repeatedly glanced at her father, Ricardo Ragusa, as details of the charges were read aloud in court. Tears welled in her eyes, and she shrugged her shoulders, ducked her head and hid her face beneath a veil of long, dark brown hair.

Peters said outside the courtroom that she had spoken with the victims and their families, and they were "in full support of the resolution in these cases."

"They were prepared to testify," Peters added.

Ragusa has been in jail since her arrest, and defense attorney Robert Herce said she has spent more time behind bars than several other teachers in Hillsborough County, Florida, who have faced similar charges.
Main / Afghan women: Don't exclude our men
Apr 08, 2010, 07:41 AM


Afghan women: Don't exclude our men

In a place where women have few rights, it seems improbable women would plead for men's advancement too. But, it's happening in Afghanistan.

Not for the reasons you might think, but because many Afghan women realize without the support of fathers, brothers and uncles, they will remain second-class citizens.

For years, the United States has developed and funded special "women's only" programs to help women start their own small businesses.

And while those efforts have been greatly appreciated, some global women's groups wonder if these programs are as effective as they could be when it comes to achieving equality in a patriarchal society.

More disturbingly, some other women's groups say these efforts, if not done well, may actually endanger women.

"Women are put at greater risk of violence when they must return home to frustrated, unemployed husbands who don't understand why their wives are getting training and credit and they are not," says Ritu Sharma, president of Women Thrive Worldwide.

It's time, says Sharma, to look at helping Afghan women in a more inclusive way - and that means including brothers and husbands - as well as sisters and wives.

"Gender is about looking at the different roles ... that men and women have in their families ... and then designing projects that meet everyone's needs."

For example, instead of targeting only the woman in an Afghan family for, let's say, a "micro-loan," or a small loan, to start a family business, it might be wise to include her husband. In today's Afghanistan, the traditional family unit is all-important, and, like it or not, the husband is still the head of the family. He's not used to seeing his wife make decisions, let alone seeing her run her own business. But, if he is on-board with his wife's project, it might mean a gradual acceptance of his wife's new role in the family.

World Vision International, an organization committed to community development around the world, says "inclusiveness" works.

It's launched a project in Afghanistan, funded by the United States, to train midwives to curb the staggering infant mortality rate in the country.

Instead of concentrating only on training women to care for pregnant mothers, World Vision works hard to include their male relatives in the education process.

Christine Beasley is World Vision's country program manager for Afghanistan. She says developing trust within the family is the only way the program can work, since women cannot travel without male chaperones in more conservative areas of Afghanistan.

"Fathers were afraid for their daughters to travel to the hospitals for training because they feared they'd be harmed or converted to Christianity or taken away from the home for good," says Beasley.

But once the fathers traveled with their daughters they realized their temporary absence, "didn't destroy the fabric of their society," and actually "fulfilled community needs," since women in need of medical care cannot be treated by male doctors.

Male family members are often so impressed by what their wives and daughters can do, they now agree to travel with them to help other women in need in nearby villages.

Elizabeth Walumbe, who trains young women to be midwives says, "This is a chance to educate men [too] ... once they know the benefit, they become so supportive."

Walumbe has witnessed the transformation herself. She often invites the male chaperones into class or into her office to witness what she is teaching their wives or daughters.

"By the time they [leave] the office, all could see how empowered both the midwife students and their male chaperone had become just from the way they carried themselves. Their gait proved to us that we were indeed seeing transformation taking place in front of us, just by the fact that we involved the men in our activities with the students."

Sharma, whose organization advocates for women, takes the idea one step farther. She says it's time the United States and other countries consider including women in every project, not just women's projects. And, conversely, including men in every project, regardless of whether it's female-centric.

That doesn't mean Sharma isn't aware of how far behind women are in terms of skills and education - there is no doubt about that. "But," she says, "Afghan women are not satisfied with only women's projects. They also want to be part of the discussions on security, the drug trade and reconciliation. We have to be very careful that giving special attention to women doesn't mean leaving them out of everything else."

Sharma and others are urging U.S. Secretary of State Hillary Clinton to integrate genders across all of the United States' assistance programs and foreign policy, in addition to promoting women's empowerment programs in places where women need a special focus.

It's the only way, she says, that Secretary Clinton's own words will ring solidly true, "... human rights are women's rights ... and women's rights are human rights."

Post by: CNN correspondent Carol Costello
Filed under: Women's issues
* Link to The Huffington Post *

Angelina Jolie & Brad Pitt Sleep In Separate Bedrooms: Former Bodyguard

In an exclusive interview with In Touch, Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt's former bodyguard describes what he claims to be a woman whose erratic behavior, yelling fits and unreasonable demands deeply hurt not only staff members -- but especially Brad and their six children. "Angelina has a public and a private persona," claims the former bodyguard, who for security reasons chooses only to be identified by his first name, Bill. "In my opinion, the real Angelina is self-centered and a control freak. She has no patience at all. She doesn't do things out of the kindness of her heart. And she's totally psycho." While Brad is laid-back and patient with his kids' often wild behavior, Angelina is anything but. "She screams and yells a lot, then walks away," Bill says, explaining that Angelina would often "disappear into her suite for hours," leaving staffers -- and Brad -- to deal with her children. "She would punish them with silence," says Bill, adding, "I think she could be abusive at times in a mental way." If the children were to get upset by her withholding behavior, he says, Angelina didn't seem to care. "She is not moved by tears," he explains. Still more disturbing, he recalls, Angelina has a "quirky habit" of "giggling when one of her kids would start crying."

The bodyguard, who was working for Brad and Angelina at the start of their relationship, remembers "a lot of laughing and fun" and "spontaneous sex" back then. Now, though, the couple often sleeps in separate bedrooms, and that honeymoon phase seems to be ancient history. Even when they aren't actively arguing, Bill says, Angelina "nitpicks" Brad -- criticizing him constantly. "She says things like, 'Are you going to wear that shirt again today?' and tells him he's like another one of the kids." According to Bill, Brad has come to dread Angelina's phone calls. "She'll call him from the set to interrogate him," Bill explains. "His face goes white, and he just stares at his feet." When Angelina's yelling gets to be too much, Brad will "put her on speaker and walk away from the phone," Bill reveals. "Angelina will hang up and continue calling until one of the staff picks up."
Main / Divorced, Never Separated
Apr 02, 2010, 09:08 AM
God, what an ungrateful c_nt! Just add up all the money that passed through her hands over the years and tell me what a bad ex-husband this guy was. She mismanaged a small fortune and now expects him to clean it up and chip in more - long after their divorce. Can we just stone her to death please?


For some reason, this article really hit a nerve with me. Give me 1/10 of what this harpy got and I could live comfortably for the rest of my life. Why do we let this sort of shit go on?

Where's Galt when you need him?  LOL.
Main / DAMMIT!!!
Mar 31, 2010, 12:29 PM

I was looking forward to meeting/hooking up with a high school classmate of mine (GORGEOUS AND SINGLE) until I saw this on her Facebook profile . . .

Grad Schools:
* Loyola College in Maryland '97
* Masters Degree, Education
* University of Maryland at Baltimore '04
* Masters Degree, Social Work

*University of Maryland School of Social Work

Now I am not so enthused about her. Too bad. She sounded nice on the telephone too! I guess I should have know it was too good to be true. No kids, good looking, and still single at age 37. Yeah right . . .
Main / More Fun - Best of Craigslist
Mar 30, 2010, 05:21 PM


Looking for an average guy for average sex
Date: 2009-10-29, 4:57PM EDT

Keep your supersized genitalia, washboard abs and hyperactive stamina away.
Don't even send me a pic of your penis.
I'm a pretty enough woman, a little extra padding now bikini season is over. I'm not waxed like a barbie doll or some deep throating goddess so move on if that's what you're looking for.

Let's just do it like an old married couple alright (however if you're married or in a committed relationship of any sort, don't bother me. If you've ever experimented with men, I'm also not interested). I lie there maybe watch the tube. You stick it in, suck my nipples and get your rocks off. Then we both fall asleep without talking and maybe do it again in the morning... maybe. Could be a regular thing.

If this interests you and you're between the ages of 35-50, send me a message that doesn't make you seem like some sex crazed horndog, mentally retarded, or both.

* Location: NDG
* it's NOT ok to contact this poster with services or other commercial interests

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Main / Girls get bored. Man up!
Mar 29, 2010, 08:47 AM

Are you not entertained?!!

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OK, first read the article . . .

Now look what I found in the comments . . .

prochoiceinbaltimore at 3:55 PM March 15, 2010

This is what happens when women are not allowed or not able to make choices about their body. Women should be allowed to choose and have it be provided for to make choices about when to have children. Just because a woman is a mother doesn't mean she is ready to have children. I don't don't the circumstances here but clearly she did not want the baby. More education and less demonizing by the people who seek to take away the right of women to choose what they want for their body - not their baby - sorry but the mother has this right. It is not easy for her either but we must support her. People who say she should get the "chair" and also not allow her the right to have an abortion are mixed up, this is confused logic.
Mar 14, 2010, 08:24 AM
I have no words. This is just insane. Ice-T's wife Nicole "Coco" Austin . . .

Evidently, she's been taking half-naked pictures of herself and posting them on Twitter for months now. Who knew?