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Main / Nagging
Mar 22, 2005, 03:22 PM
yes Stally, that is the deal.... :?
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I think most women do have a sex drive...but it often seems that it is fueled by a need for affection, a need for affirmation, a need for approval, a need to prove herself attractive and sexual, a need to keep up with the "competition", and because it feels really good...not because her partner himself arouses her to a state of "I must have him". It seems more like a lot of women are either looking for their insecurities to be buffered, or have an attitude of "I like sex but I'll only have it with a man who will take care of me". My point was that for men, sexual attraction is based more on a tangible desire to "have" a particular women...for women it seems to be more of a desire for sex with a man who provides her with what she wants. I suppose it can be broken down into types of attraction...sexual, personality, compatability, and meeting of needs. For men I think the actual sexual attraction to a particular partner is a strong drive in and of itself, whereas for women I think it is often more of "I'll have sex with him if he meets the other 3 criteria." Which to me could be interpreted as women have less sexual attraction to men (or to a particualr man) than men...they have a desire for sex but it is not as linked to a sexual desire FOR someone, or that desire is linked more to what that someone does FOR them.

This is the whole reason "romance" is so hyped up...women need to have something done for them to respond sexually to a man....while men simply respond sexually to the woman and do not need her to do anything FOR him. Whether this is a relic of biology, or a conscious or unconscious social construct by which women "get" something in return for "giving" sex (and thereby maintain the upper hand) is an interesting question...

Of course, adding the standard disclaimer that this may not apply to ALL women or ALL men...
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Nice job Biscuit Queen, well said...
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Matt99, point taken although I respectfully disagree. I don't give a rats arse about fertility I only like big breasts because they're fun.  :shock: An analogy to what I said abotu women would be if I found a woman sexy because her breasts fed my child and she cooked my dinner. While I'd seek a woman who was capable of thsoe things and would do them, they would not from my basis for sexual attraction.

What I am really driving at is that modern women largely seem to be cut off from their primal desire for the male body...that of course assuming they ever had it? (if we think in terms of animals there is little need for female sexual attraction to males...the males only need be attracted to the females, and the females then appreciate (i.e., mate with) the males who can best provide for her and her offspring; while this may be true of human females, I'd like to think that we as humans with our highly developed brains and our abiloties to reason and to feel, are not still entirely goverened by this most pragmatic biological approach which would give women no reason to feel sexual attraction for men...and I don't think we are, seeing as modern women do not spend their days barefoot and pregnant attending children and picking berries and cooking while we men hunt wild animals...)
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Just realized an interesting parallel between how women seen to view relationships and how women seem to view men's bodies sexually. Seems like women like sex but "sexy" has more to do with what he does for her than her genuine sexual attraction to the reality of his physical being. Whereas a man (unless he's really desperate!) is attracted to the reality of a woman's physical being, not what she does for him. A man appreciates a woman's body sexually for what it is, and desires it for what it is...a woman appreciates a man's body in the same way a man appreciates a good work animal (maybe in today's world it's more like a dump truck than an animal?), and appreciates his body in a sexual sense primarily for the reaction his body can bring to her.
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OH YES... USE ME!!!! USE ME!!!! Oh yeah...oh yeah...god that felt good....


:roll:  :roll:  :roll:

Yeah, I like pu$$y as much as the next guy but I don't want any part of my anatomy in that close quarters  with someone who isn't even a decent human being...

If I acted like somebody I'm not, had enough money to pay for it (or more like, "had money to waste on it"), had nothing better to do with my time than troll for  bimbos, "dumbed" myself down a bit so that the average "hot" would find me "interesting" (LOL :roll: ...it's pathetic really), and felt my sexuality had no personal value whatsoever, I'm sure I could bed just as many chicks as those high-roller pretty boys...but I choose not to because I value myself, have standards, have integrity, have better uses for my time (such as "life"), don't like to waste money, don't like the thought of having a rash or something on my genitalia, and like to use my brain for pursuits which the average "hottie" does not find intriguing (as opposed to "interesting" things such as spending money on said hottie, taking said hottie on expensive tropical vacations, taking said hottie shopping, buying said hottie drinks, obeying said hottie's very command, worshipping said hottie's panties, listening to said hottie's friends talk about nothing, etc.).

I'm such a freakin loser... :lol:
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Stally,

I think there is truth in what you speak. For woman, she is often  in love with being in love, not with the man she "loves". Hence if man "makes her feel" in love, she "loves" him. If he doesn't continue to make her feel "in love" she leaves because she's "not in love" with him anymore...

I honestly think many men and women are incapable of real love...but I also think a man is, if he has been with one woman for a while, is on average more likely to "love" and a woman is more likely to "be in love with". I also think that for women this ofetn creates a self-destructive cycle...they want to keep feeling "in love", but when reality comes along they lose the "in love" feelings, and instead of loving they demand for him to keep her feeling "in love"...when her requests for more romance, more attention, etc. are not answered (and why should they be...likely her man has been loving her all along and not gotten much real love in return) she digs in...the complaints begin, when he reassures her of his love but refuses to cave on her every whim the complaints turn into nags, and she is now in fact  pushing her man away in her efforts to "bring him closer". Eventually he just tunes her out, at which point both sides have dug in for the long winter...

I realize this is generalizing but I think there is some truth to it...

Further supporting this viewpoint, many women seem to approach marriage as the goal and the man as the means of getting it, and seem to talk about "relationships" in the same manner as they talk about hobbies or jobs...not as intimate relationships with another human being...

Just my $0.03..
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One more comment for Sue...remember women and men both really like sex but who actually has to work to get it... :?
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"I still like sex a lot - but I have come across older married men who just kind of roll their eyes when their wife comes out with some fairly direct sexual remark. Ahh, the dream of every high-school boy. But things - and situations - change."


You forgot to mention the fact that their wives look like beached walruses who've spent too much time in the sun! :P

Ok, that was a little harsh :evil: , but still I think we need to account for the fact that some of these "older married men" have wives that time has not been, um, gentle with...so their lack of interest in that particular topic may have something to do with that. :wink:
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They don't complain because the only thing those guys care about is PU$$Y. If they are getting Pu$$Y they don't have much to complain about then do they? (and we've already established that women's vaginas are generally readily accessible if you can afford the cover charge). Whereas the guys here may or may not make huge bucks but they care about more than Pu$$Y.

No different that these rich b!tch wannabes trolling for rich guys- they don't complain about the "lack of available men". Meanwhile, little miss morally decent, average-looking, accepts-who-she-is complains because no "decent guys" ever hit on her.

Same sh1t different packaging...
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Sounds like a good book. I do question what he says about don't get married unless yo can acept that you'll have less sex. I question this because a.) I have seen statistics indicating that married folks have more sex than singles, and b.)Lord knows most single guys don't get much sex unless they're in an established relationship (if you belive the statistics the OPPOSITE is true for women, at least for young women). I think maybe he's playing into the stereotype of the sexless married couple a little too much here. Either that, or maybe the group of people that gets the most sex are the "unmarried but in an established relationship" category?

personally I would venture to guess that the people who get the most sex and the most satisfying sex are those few married couples who truly have a relationship that works. Granted, such couples are few and far between...
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Main / U.S. Drug Laws Harm Women
Mar 18, 2005, 07:35 AM
:lol:  :lol:  :lol:  :P
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Main / U.S. Drug Laws Harm Women
Mar 17, 2005, 04:00 PM
"Their huge tits,"

-what about the small-chested ones? Is there a study to show a correlation between breast size and gravitational pull?
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Main / U.S. Drug Laws Harm Women
Mar 17, 2005, 02:29 PM
Hey, where I can I sign up to be economically dependent? It would do wonders for my blood pressure not to have any job or financial stress, and think of how much cool stuff I could do since I wouldn't have to work to make money anymore...


I think I'll demand equal justice for all genders, men should be able to ecomnomically dependent just like women. Stupid women oppressing us men with their matriarchy! :lol:
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"Treating women as irresponsible children that society will bail out with laws and options when they screw up, but men as responsible people who have to uphold the responsibilities put upon them when they make a mistake ... what a loss of human rights for women."


Galt, you hit it right on the head with this one. I have long held the same position, that so much of feminism just makes women into helpless incompetent victims...talk about irony...

I think it would do society a lot of good if this irony could start creeping into the mainstream awareness... it would be kind of like David hitting the Goliath of feminism right between the eyes...women only buy into feminist sexist misadndric bullsh*t because they are bombarded with it everywhere and nobody tells them any different. They NEED to start hearing "different".