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Main / Re: shitty news
Mar 20, 2008, 04:03 PM


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people in here seem to think that they know everything about everyone else's situations. i bet they would be pissed if i were to say this and that were fact about their situation like i was fucking there or something, right? right. i didn't say my friend was a saint. in fact, i don't talk to her about her personal habits like if she does drugs or not. we're not "that" kind of friends. i don't think she is some perfect angel and i never insinuated that, either. she has been with her husband since she was 15 and married for 4 years. they were probably each other's first love and i knew them when they were first dating. i'm 3 years older than she is. i don't know why she won't just separate with him, but it must be pretty bad that she would just divorce him. i don't know their conversations and neither do any of you arrogant fools.


We have people posting in here who also made bad choices in terms of who they hooked up with - the intelligent ones didn't blame the rest of the opposite sex for their own bad choices and looked at the situation for men and fathers in GENERAL and saw the double standards. Such women are to be respected and admired. (hint)


well, i'm not perfect and i'm going to need time to heal. i believe one day i will find a man i can trust. i'm not as hateful as i used to be. i used to loathe my ex with every fiber in my body. i feel the hatred dying more and more and just, well, really feel sorry for him because he's obviously looking for something in me that i can't and won't give him - love and attention.
he's needy and wants to be loved- goes back to his childhood....and his own parent's divorce. but, after seeing the way he behaved i began to open my eyes to how serious and widespread domestic violence is. i thought, if this can happen to me, i can't imagine what other bad things are happening. i have seen a lot of good come out of this fucking mess! it's changed me as a person.
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Main / Re: shitty news
Mar 20, 2008, 03:59 PM

As many false allegations of abuse and drug abuse and molestation I have seen it will be a cold day in HELL before I believe Jane Random Female about any claims.  I'd have to know and have reason to trust her before I believed it.  Jen TBQ, for example, I'd believe.

Sorry bout dat.  Your lying sisters and the enabling system broke that trust.


np. it's not like a expect ppl who don't know me to believe me. but, i think it's pretty shitty just because i'm not a MRA that you have to be believed. i believe men who say they've been abused - i can, AT LEAST, relate to them on some level even if i don't like them.
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Main / Re: shitty news
Mar 20, 2008, 02:51 PM



I guess I'm directing hostility, because I'm feeling hostility.  Simple as that. well then direct it where if fucking matters

Why?

From what I understand, FIB is a single mom and that she doesn't want any (or much) contact between dad and child because dad is bad and he's abusive and violent, right?

yes. he is a creepy stalker, harasses me, trespasses onto my property, looks in my windows, calls me non-stop, tells me how much he loves me and won't stop trying to get me back, he just sent me flowers and i told them to take them back, he calls my family members to get them to feel sorry for him, he calls my friends asking them questions about me, he has slandered me, made false accusations, lied in court, was violent towards me when i was pregnant and a few times post-partum, threatened to kill me, stuck a gun to my head when i was pregnant, oh but these are all stupid reasons to want to keep my child away from him. riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight. if i had known what i know NOW about him, i would never gotten involved. sometimes people don't show their true colors in the beginning because they WANT you. i thought he was a nice guy, bla bla bla, and he ended up being my worst nightmare. so don't put the blame on ME, when i had no idea he was such an evil fucked up person on the inside. he took advantage of me and my naivete. and he probably is on drugs, too, because that would sure explain a lot. either that, or serious mental disorder. if my ex were a normal, well-rounded guy who had my child's best intentions at heart, do you really think i would want to keep them separated?









And there wasn't a single sign that he was the sort of person who'd hold a gun to your head prior to getting having his child?

I find that hard to believe.




oh, well, i guess you live in a bubble because these things are so easy to detect. psychos don't let you know they're psychos until they have you in the palm of their hand. i thought this was a known thing. guess not.
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Main / Re: shitty news
Mar 20, 2008, 12:17 PM

I guess I'm directing hostility, because I'm feeling hostility.  Simple as that. well then direct it where if fucking matters

Why?

From what I understand, FIB is a single mom and that she doesn't want any (or much) contact between dad and child because dad is bad and he's abusive and violent, right?

yes. he is a creepy stalker, harasses me, trespasses onto my property, looks in my windows, calls me non-stop, tells me how much he loves me and won't stop trying to get me back, he just sent me flowers and i told them to take them back, he calls my family members to get them to feel sorry for him, he calls my friends asking them questions about me, he has slandered me, made false accusations, lied in court, was violent towards me when i was pregnant and a few times post-partum, threatened to kill me, stuck a gun to my head when i was pregnant, oh but these are all stupid reasons to want to keep my child away from him. riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight. if i had known what i know NOW about him, i would never gotten involved. sometimes people don't show their true colors in the beginning because they WANT you. i thought he was a nice guy, bla bla bla, and he ended up being my worst nightmare. so don't put the blame on ME, when i had no idea he was such an evil fucked up person on the inside. he took advantage of me and my naivete. and he probably is on drugs, too, because that would sure explain a lot. either that, or serious mental disorder. if my ex were a normal, well-rounded guy who had my child's best intentions at heart, do you really think i would want to keep them separated?






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Main / Re: shitty news
Mar 20, 2008, 11:54 AM
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people in here seem to think that they know everything about everyone else's situations. i bet they would be pissed if i were to say this and that were fact about their situation like i was fucking there or something, right? right. i didn't say my friend was a saint. in fact, i don't talk to her about her personal habits like if she does drugs or not. we're not "that" kind of friends. i don't think she is some perfect angel and i never insinuated that, either. she has been with her husband since she was 15 and married for 4 years. they were probably each other's first love and i knew them when they were first dating. i'm 3 years older than she is. i don't know why she won't just separate with him, but it must be pretty bad that she would just divorce him. i don't know their conversations and neither do any of you arrogant fools.
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Main / Re: shitty news
Mar 20, 2008, 11:34 AM

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i just found out my friend is or has divorced her husband because of his drug use. our kids are best friends and i've known her since i was 14. her mom used to be my kindergarten teacher. he already signed the house over to her, but not after he stole 3k from her parents and some from his own parents. drugs and alcohol are what really tear families a part. i'm just saddened and sickened by this news. i probably won't sleep well tonight so i'll be forced to read in my book now. ha.

Im sorry to hear that. My exwife went berserk on cocaine and then disappeared. Shes been missing now for 7 years. Thank God I have full custody of our daughter.


i'm glad your daughter is safe  :drunken_smilie:
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Main / shitty news
Mar 19, 2008, 09:25 PM
i just found out my friend is or has divorced her husband because of his drug use. our kids are best friends and i've known her since i was 14. her mom used to be my kindergarten teacher. he already signed the house over to her, but not after he stole 3k from her parents and some from his own parents. drugs and alcohol are what really tear families a part. i'm just saddened and sickened by this news. i probably won't sleep well tonight so i'll be forced to read in my book now. ha.
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i could do SO much good for my child and society with that kind of settlement money. undergrad, grad, and post-grad school for my child would be covered. tuition, books, rent, car, gas would also be paid for. not to mention i could donate a lot to worthy causes close to my heart... get a better car, and work on my house. oh and travel to europe and africa...
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Main / Re: Why can't boys wear pink?
Mar 19, 2008, 01:38 PM

The ultimate goal seems to be: Make boys into girls and girls into boys. What it boils down to is taking masculinity from males. So no, I do not condone boys wearing pink.




but that's not fair. colors shouldn't be gender assigned. i love blue
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LOL, yeah I have been busy lately too so am patient on the replies.


SWEET

you will not believe the fucking bullshit i just had to deal with just now. it involved cops, my kid , and spring break visitation. ghey as fuck!


Sounds like most any dealings I have involving my kids and ex-wife. The local police all are on a first name basis with me. Seems like I'm not alone in the world anymore when I hear ppl (male or female) saying they go through the same things. The cops that come to my house all know me, too. I was even on the other side of fucking town to wait for the bio dad at his house when my phone died right as I was telling him I will never get back with him, I don't love him, etc....because he kept trying to get me to come back to him. So, as I'm waiting for him two cops show up because he called them to have THEM tell me to go home b/c bio dad didn't want to get in a fight with me, according to his own words. Whatever. But, the point of the story is, I recognized one of the cops who has responded to MY calls on MY side of town. haha. He recognized me, too, and was really nice. He was all, "Is that guy still playing games?" YUP.

You haven't lived until you have had the police raid your house to crawl through your computers and files claiming you have child pornography according to your ex and they are going to find it. The detective became REALLY pissed when he said he would find it even if I deleted it and I just stated that as a military computer tech I deleted stuff so foreign governments couldn't get it so his little geeks didn't stand a chance either. Then when I pointed out that he would also have to do a time/date check on the files since my ex used that computer and I had found more than one piece of porn on it from HER then he better plan on arresting both of us. Suddenly he wasn't interested in charges or anything and just wanted me to gather my stuff and go home. I just don't get this. You can accuse people all you want of being perverted or whatever, but it seems like cops have better things to do than listen to people's accusations. I mean, they need proof to do these sorts of things. If I accused my child's bio dad of the above nothing would get done! They wouldn't care! IMO.



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LOL, yeah I have been busy lately too so am patient on the replies.


SWEET

you will not believe the fucking bullshit i just had to deal with just now. it involved cops, my kid , and spring break visitation. ghey as fuck!

wow............that sounds like aday you need to tell about to someone createve so they can make a  country and western song about it..............you will need to find a way to incoperate a tornado, your dog dyin and  a chuck norris movie into it though


damn wtf were you typing drunk? lmao.
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Main / Re: Massive amount of guilt
Mar 19, 2008, 01:17 PM
i'm sorry you are going through this
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LOL, yeah I have been busy lately too so am patient on the replies.


SWEET

you will not believe the fucking bullshit i just had to deal with just now. it involved cops, my kid , and spring break visitation. ghey as fuck!
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Main / Re: Why can't boys wear pink?
Mar 18, 2008, 05:41 PM
i'm against making boys feel like they can't play with girl toys. i went out on saturday night and saw a dude wearing a pink american eagle outfitters polo shirt. i like it
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wow it's been one day and now i'm running away? ever heard of a freakin life? i still can't respond because i'm busy as heck right now, but I WILL. love ya'll