I'm sorry to have missed most of this discussion but I'd like to toss this in for your consideration:
Feminism seems to me to be a top to bottom rejection of everything Christianity or any other religion has to offer. Religion is the idea that there is a higher purpose to life than what we see around us; that there is a reason to behave decently other than the hope that others will treat us decently in return. Feminism is the romantic and materialist* idea that women have been enslaved by something they call the patriarchy and that they must tear down all of society's institutions to achieve dominance (not equality.)
Organized religion, especially of Judeo-Christian derivation, tops the feminist list of institutions for destruction. Feminists understand that religion is among the most powerful of societal institutions, even in this secular age. Religion is unearthly revelation and accumulated wisdom about those revelations. Even people who say they do not believe do so with a gravity they reserve for matters of life and death. Those who scoff at religion expect to be saluted for their bravery, implying a deeply held belief in what they deny. Religion is important, more important than the stock exchange or the interstate highway system or public television or the internet and feminists know it.
Christians and Jews get most of the feminists' attention not because they are especially harsh with regards to women but because they are closely intertwined with those Western economic and political developments that, having spawned feminism, are now identified by feminists as the enemy, the patriarchy. Feminist are silent about the misogyny endemic to Islam for two reasons. The first is that Islam is their co-antagonist in the fight to destroy Judeo-Christianity. The second is the stoning and beheading of rebellious women, time tested deterrents to free-speech. I will submit that the pantheistic, polytheistic, animist and pagan faiths practiced by a sizable majority of the world's population fall below the feminist radar largely because feminism is a western political and economic phenomenon. The dysfunctional child seeks to kill its own parents, not its neighbor's.
I get great comfort from my faith. I seek to lead my family with the authority vested in me by my Creator. My wife would be appalled by the suggestion that she submits to me but she truly does in those things that really matter and to the extent that she sees God's hand in my decisions. I am not besotted with pride but rather humbled by my responsibility as a husband and father.
Organized religion is a human construction and, as such, is as flawed and fragile as any machine. LL Nash is credited with saying church is "a hospital for sinners, not a museum for saints." When I walk into my church, I find much that is amiss but I also find great healing. I do what I can to make things better and hope that, as I grow in my faith, I can do more to make my church closer to what it is meant to be. I also take earthly comfort in knowing that churches are plentiful enough that I could find a new "hospital" if I had to part ways with my current spiritual home.
At the end of the day, feminism will fail just as socialism will fail. Both are petty and comical attempts by weak and deluded people to steal what they claim has no value. Peace be with you.
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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Romanticismhttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Materialism