To belabor the point about Paul's admonitions...
If a man must sacrifice to his wife as Christ sacrificed for the Church in order to be saved(by being one with Christ), and a wife must submit to her husband's sacrifice...
That's not what the Bible says. The husband is told to sacrifice HIMSELF for his wife, just as Christ sacrificed Himself for the church. The husband does not sacrifice TO his wife - big difference. Your paraphasing here twists the meaning. Paul doesn't put the wife in a godlike position over her husband for him to sacrifice to.
And the wife does not submit to her husband's SACRIFICE - she is to submit to him in general - to his authority as the one who is the head of her, as Christ is the head of the church. Again, big difference. And she has this obligation whether or not he fulfills his. Actually they both do.
The word "obey" is reserved for children and slaves.
There is a unique relationship in Christianity between husband and wife, and no, he doesn't serve her, or sacrifice to her. He is her head, but also her protector and nurturer, as when Paul admonishes women to keep silent in church and learn from their husbands at home. This isn't the slap in the face modern feminism has painted it to be. It's an acknowledgement that she looks up to her husband to guide her - that she should do so. The husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, in the Christian view.
Some of the most virulent anti-feminists are conservative Christians, for this reason. Feminism is the exact opposite of the Biblical view of marriage. Trying to twist what the Bible actually says, in an attempt to claim it elevates women over men, or wives over husbands, is a feminist line of argument.