Yes, but what does it *mean* to be the head of someone you sacrifice everything for?
It can mean many different things. A team is a unit that needs to work together to achieve, and teams benefit from leaders (as an example).
I am saying it is simplistic to view the christian theology through the lens of feministic paradigms, which you unwittingly seem to do.
I am not a christian, but I guarantee I have read more scripture than you care to.
My interpretation is that the scripture doesn't mean what you infer it to mean when you quote it in isolation.
A living work has a framework, and you can't pick and choose elements of that framework to make your case in isolation.
Equally, scripture shows that wives have little choice when a husband chooses an actionable course and follows it. Are we to infer that they were simply following the omnipotent commanding vagina of the day?
Perhaps they were so whipped they built golden vaginas and self-flagellated themselves before ordering their wives and children to do that which they commanded?