Whats the context of marriage?

[woof]

I have been thinking about marriage, not for myself......but looking at it, and wondering why a man would marry today.
I have been married and divorced so I have a certain vantage point. The question I have pondered is"would I ever marry again", and the answer is no.
What I see is that, from a societal, and a governmental point of view the context of marriage is "Women and Children". That is to say marriage is for the care of, and the benefit of women and children.
I am curious to hear from men who have been through a divorce, and than married again,  :shock: and the wise, or lucky men who have never been married.

[zarby]

A second marriage can be less risky especially if it is with a woman who is past child bearing age. Children are a large risk in a marriage.

It is not the only risk though by any means. I see many older couples divorcing. These older women act just like the younger ones. The feel entitled to the larger half and in some instances their "half" approaches the whole. Also, these older women can be just as verbally abusive and demeaning and insulting to their men as the younger women.

My model for retirement is now a man I never even spoke to. I observed him, though. I was at a national park. He had a small pickup parked in a parking lot. It was pulling a very small RV Trailer. I assume he had no woman because the trailer was so small. He was up at the break of dawn. He jumped on his bike and off he went. He was thin and fit and obviously had a passion for life. I am guessing he was in his 60s.

Now, look at the advantages. He can get by with so much less because he has no woman with him. If he had a woman, he would need an RV many times larger. He doesn't worry about being nagged, etc. He can travel the country on a shoe string. It just doesn't seem to be a bad model. Of course, he has no worry about having to disrput his travels by a divorce.

[damnbiker]

33, Never married, never will.  It's funny, many of my friends have recently gotten married and some already agree with me, never getting married is probably a good idea.

I can do my own cooking and cleaning, don't want any more children and have many interests that keep me quite occupied and very busy.  How will having a woman living in my house improve my life?  What can a wife give me that I don't already have or can't already get?  For me to sign a contract at this point saying that half of everything I have belongs to someone else is completely insane.  That doesn't even begin to touch on the less appealing aspects of living with a woman.

[NobleTry]

Isn't sex part of the context of marriage?

[Q]

Isn't sex part of the context of marriage?

In theory, yes.

In practice....try enforcing it.

[no2fembots]

33, Never married, never will.  It's funny, many of my friends have recently gotten married and some already agree with me, never getting married is probably a good idea.

I can do my own cooking and cleaning, don't want any more children and have many interests that keep me quite occupied and very busy.  How will having a woman living in my house improve my life?  What can a wife give me that I don't already have or can't already get?  For me to sign a contract at this point saying that half of everything I have belongs to someone else is completely insane.  That doesn't even begin to touch on the less appealing aspects of living with a woman.

Well said, DB!

I have had two marriages and will not go for a third.  As you state above, I find little appealing and no pressing need in having a woman live with me.  A part-time GF would be OK, but no live in and absolutely no commitments!

BTW, I am 48 years old and a brittle cantankerous man to boot!  So set in my ways, I don't even see another's POV sometimes!  No freaking WAY I could see my way clear to accommodate another adult in my home, let alone a woman I'm intimate with!

[no2fembots]

33, Never married, never will.  It's funny, many of my friends have recently gotten married and some already agree with me, never getting married is probably a good idea.

I can do my own cooking and cleaning, don't want any more children and have many interests that keep me quite occupied and very busy.  How will having a woman living in my house improve my life?  What can a wife give me that I don't already have or can't already get?  For me to sign a contract at this point saying that half of everything I have belongs to someone else is completely insane.  That doesn't even begin to touch on the less appealing aspects of living with a woman.

Well said, DB!

I have had two marriages and will not go for a third.  As you state above, I find little appealing and no pressing need in having a woman live with me.  A part-time GF would be OK, but no live in and absolutely no commitments!

BTW, I am 48 years old and a brittle cantankerous man to boot!  So set in my ways, I don't even see another's POV sometimes!  No freaking WAY I could see my way clear to accommodate another adult in my home, let alone a woman I'm intimate with!

That last post had my post counter at the Mark of the Beast!  Pretty cool!!!