Started by stands2p, Sep 27, 2006, 12:02 PM
On the other hand, it is very useful to have a backup profession, it could be bakery, carpentry, bricklaying, busdriving, photograpy... he chooses.
I can vividly remember the "I am woman/hear me roar" effect on Michigan State's campus.
I am considering an education plan for my son that some might find shocking. I don't think I will encourage him to go to college. My daughter is going, period. But as I look at the current state of affairs and the direction I see things going, I don't see college being a reasonable investment for my son. I consider his experiences so far in elementary school and I see that he is not being educated, he is being indoctrinated. He is being taught to be ashamed of things that have nothing to do with him. He is being taught how to be an insignificant cog in a bland world of beige carpeting and fluorescent lighting. I have plenty of doubt about sending my daughter into this world as well. But I think she will have options my son will never know. She will be able to pursue her dreams down many paths and change paths as often as she likes with no penalty. She is bright and confident and I will let the people who get in her way worry about her. College will be an excellent investment for her. I don't think it will benefit my son to spend four years of his life and six figures of borrowed money for a diploma that says he is just as good as several million other young men his age. Unless he has distinguished himself by being number one in his class, president of the student body or a star athlete, his diploma will say nothing about who he is. Corporate recruiters and graduate and professional school admissions boards will only see his gender and another obstacle to their "equal opportunity" quotas. Even if he were to achieve great success in one of the professions, he would always be at the mercy of the political whims of the gender police.Then there is the experience of college itself. The skills and habits that are being taught in today's colleges are a disaster for young men. Young women are relishing the independence and discovering "who they are." Young men on college campuses are living in a fool's paradise; a world of unbounded social opportunity and no consequences. They are emulating the college experience of the young emperors of several generations ago when college was the privilege of the very wealthy. They are learning none of the integrity and stoicism that the world, feminist or not, will expect of them the day after graduation. Most of them are being set up for a cruel fall.I think what I will do instead is to invest in a fund that my son can use to start a business once he finishes both high school and some carefully selected business courses. It will be entirely up to him what kind of business to start but I will make sure he understands that this will be his livelihood. I think he will realize quickly that with a few years of hard work, he will be able to afford all the college he wants and that he will value the experience more for having earned it.As hard as it is for any parent to admit, neither of my children is a prodigy. They are both smart but they will have to work hard to make their way in this world and enjoy the kind of life they have come to expect. I want to give them the tools they need to make their way and I don't think college will be the right tool for my son.