NOW says, No rights for fathers until they can b responsible

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http://www.nownys.org/fathers_resp.html
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Fathers' Responsibilities Before Fathers' Rights
July 29, 2006

By Irene Weiser and Marcia Pappas
   

In their July 27 opinion piece, fathers' rights proponents Mike McCormick and Glenn Sacks promote mandatory joint custody saying "children love, want and need their fathers" and therefore should have equal time with them. But their cookie cutter solution disregards the individual decisions and needs of separating families while tying judges' hands, endangering battered women, and placing the father's interests above the best interest of the children.

We agree that joint custody can work in financially secure families when the parents live near each other, have flexible work schedules, and neither has remarried. But when parents are forced into a custody arrangement they don't agree to, and when parents don't get along - as is often the case when relationships end - studies show joint custody can be disastrous for the children.

Under current law, any separating couple in NY State can choose joint custody if they think that is best for their family, and both the National Organization for Women (NOW) - New York State and StopFamilyViolence.org support their right to do so.

Nevertheless, most parents do not voluntarily choose joint custody for a variety of reasons based on their individual circumstances. The vast majority choose to leave the children in the custody of the historical primary caregiver - most often the mother - with visitation by the non-custodial parent.

Moreover, 95% of separating parents reach agreement on custody arrangements without courtroom battles or judicial intervention. Mandatory joint custody laws would override these parents' careful decisions about what is best for themselves and their children.

Of the five percent of custody cases that do involve courtroom battles, at least three quarters of them involve domestic violence. Abusers often use ongoing, costly litigation - seeking joint or sole custody - as a tactic to continue the abuse and to punish the mother for leaving.

We all know that abusers don't make good role models or good parents and Sacks and McCormick agree that mandatory joint custody should not apply in these cases. That means they are promoting mandatory arrangements that will hamstring the choices of almost all separating families in order to benefit, at most, only 1.25% of them.

But even in cases without abuse, judges still need the flexibility to protect the safety and best interests of the children when a parent is alcoholic, a drug abuser, a hardened criminal, or when children are the product of one-night stands, rape or incest. Neither NOW - NYS nor StopFamilyViolence.org support legislation that would tie judges' hands in these or other difficult family situations.

The people who advocate most strongly for mandatory joint custody laws are parents who do not want to pay child support. Child support payments are paid by the non-custodial parent to the custodial one. Under mandatory joint custody laws, regardless of which parent actually ends up supervising and raising the children, there would be no non-custodial parent and neither parent would be required to pay child support. This outcome is certainly not in the best interests of the children.

McCormick and Sacks accuse NOW of using scare tactics in cautioning about the dangers of mandatory joint custody legislation for battered women and their children. Considering how often we read of courts ignoring signs of domestic violence and then later read headlines of the woman or children's murder, NOW's caution doesn't seem overstated at all.

Ironically, it is members of the so called "father's rights" groups that have engaged in scare tactics. After the mandatory joint custody legislation, A330, was defeated in the New York legislature, NY State Assembly Leader Sheldon Silver received a threat from the co-director of the father's rights group of NY State, an affiliate of McCormick's national organization, implying there could be violence if joint custody legislation is not passed.

It's time for Sacks and McCormick to come clean about their true agenda and to stop bullying New Yorkers into misguided legislation that will usurp the choices of most separating parents, endanger women, tie the hands of judges, and substitute "father's rights" for something we all support - father's responsibility.

Weiser is the executive director of StopFamilyViolence.org. Pappas is the President of the National Organization for Women (NOW) - New York State, Inc.
Even a whole village can't replace dad, children need both parents.

neonsamurai

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It's time for Sacks and McCormick to come clean about their true agenda and to stop bullying New Yorkers into misguided legislation that will usurp the choices of most separating parents, endanger women, tie the hands of judges, and substitute "father's rights" for something we all support - father's responsibility.


I always kind of thought that 'women have rights, men have responsibilities' was something of a witty pop reference, but here's somebody from NOW practically parroting that statement.

Guys, please can you all roll over and accept defeat. The feminists don't like it when we stand up for our 'rights' (because believe it or not, we do have rights). Sure, we might only represent a few hundred fathers a year, so I guess that it means they're not worth bothering about.

And don't forget to accept responsibility like a man, something NOW seems to avoid like the plague.
Dr. Kathleen Dixon, the Director of Women's Studies: "We forbid any course that says we restrict free speech!"

scarbo

And since when do we give credibility to an organization of women on whether or not fathers have rights, and on what those rights are or aren't?

The Biscuit Queen

I LOVE how they claim joint custody to be cookie cutter, when the current method is just to give mother custody-certainly as cookie cutter as the other.

And I love how they assume the only batters are men, and the only victims are womenandchildren, when we have just seen in the news several mothers who abused their husbands,  got custody, then killed their own kids and themselves. Oh, I guess that was still womenandchildren hurt, and we can always blame the dad.

You know, these articles seem so repetitive.
he Biscuit Queen
www.thebiscuitqueen.blogspot.com

There are always two extremes....the truth lies in the middle.

Commander_Riker

There is no question now about the intentions of the feminazi's. They want dad out of the lives children, he is to be nothing more than a wallet and a sperm donor. Marxism!

kjm

The research tells them that only 5% of divorced fathers want custody of their children. And that at least 3/4 of the 5% are abusers, and they only want custody so that they do not have to pay child support.

If only 5% of divorces fathers want custody of their children why is NOW spending so much energy fighting this issue.

The next thing they will say is that they are representing 95% of divorced fathers who do not want custody.

Men's Rights Activist

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"Considering how often we read of courts ignoring signs of domestic violence and then later read headlines of the woman or children's murder, NOW's caution doesn't seem overstated at all.

Ironically, it is members of the so called "father's rights" groups that have engaged in scare tactics."

"It's time for Sacks and McCormick to come clean about their true agenda and to stop bullying New Yorkers into misguided legislation that will usurp the choices of most separating parents, endanger women, tie the hands of judges, and substitute "father's rights" for something we all support - father's responsibility."


It's time NOW automatons stopped lying about child abuse and started advocating for action against the real threat to child safety in America.  The reality of MURDERING MOTHERS is overlooked, ignored, covered up, etc., etc., etc.:

We already vilify innocent men for even the slightest accusation, no matter how obviously false.  We excoriate innocent men for the slightest hint of malfeasance.  I say:

HANG THE MURDERING MOTHERS :?

Life, Liberty, & Pursuit of Happiness are fundamental rights for all (including males), & not contingent on gender feminist approval or denial. Consider my "Independence" from all tyrannical gender feminist ideology "Declared" - Here & Now!

woof

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In their July 27 opinion piece, fathers' rights proponents Mike McCormick and Glenn Sacks promote mandatory joint custody saying "children love, want and need their fathers" and therefore should have equal time with them.
..........lier, lier......pants on fire!
.......this should read presumed joint custody.......I presume that this was done intentionaly because of NOW's cookie cutter approach to fathers and custody.  :wink:
Even a whole village can't replace dad, children need both parents.

The Gonzman

I notice that women's property rights to children are just taken as a given.
Yea, though I walk through the valley of the Shadow of death, I shall fear no evil, for I am the MEANEST son-of-a-bitch in the valley.

Somebody else

Did NOW cows ever demand or promote mothers' responsibilities before mothers' rights?

Never!

What hypocrites.

NOW cows - "Men, you have to jump through endless hoops before we will consider giving you any rights. Women, go right to the head of the line, no proof of responsibility necessary."
ust because you're paranoid, doesn't mean they AREN'T out to get you.

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