Seems like you're getting some sensible answers at least, which is rare for YA ..... Usually you get more idiotic people on there than in newspaper comments.
Jerks like this guy annoy me:
I say equal in valence. Suppose it's a "gang rape". Suppose you are beaten severely, whether you eventually submit or you tried to use your women's self-defense techniques and failed? Suppose you are stuck with an STD or an unwanted pregnancy?
I hate people that assume rape is just a crime against women. I've known quite a few male victims including one gang raped by the rest of his team mates on the rugby team. It doesn't help that a large sector of society, as one woman on the bbc news website commented, that "a man cant be raped".