growing up poor in the inner city is a trip, and if you are white, its an even stranger trip. I know because I grew up in SOuth Oak Cliff, one of the toughest ghettos in the southern united states, also the home of Stevie Ray Vaughn, Lee Harvey Oswald, and Clyde Barrow. the high school I went too had over 2,000 students, the most that were white was 7. Although I was fairly popular and "cool"(stunts like making weed pipes in wood shop and selling them at lunch and stealing the biology teacher's car stereo helped establish my "coolness") I was still to an extent an "outsider" in my own mind. I think High school was the inception of my interest in men's issues. Also I learned that alot of the sterotypes and myths about life in inner city america were so far off base.
after finding the Men's movement all these years later(and after a move to the suburbs); I ponder on the lessons that were shown to me from ages 11-27(when I moved out of the cliff permanantly)
1. boys arent doing badly in school because they are stuped, no. I went to school and dcropped out with my "crew"; all of us were in remedial classes etc, "stupid" by the teachers definition. So why is it thatall these "stupid" boys once they drop out, within months have their own car, own apartment , cash etc........
?? say what you want about the moral depravity of young criminals, but the fact remains , if these boys were "stupid" they would not even be able to sell 5 sacks without getting busted or robbed much less engage inan organized criminal conspiracy
2. living in the cliff, I saw my share of abusive mothers and violent women. so I never really bought into the "fairer sex" myths
I still visit oak cliff from time to time, still a few friends there and many memories