I am not so sure counseling is always naturally biased towards the woman.
Here's the problem I have with it -
If they fix you (assuming they can...) then they stop getting paid.
This is why I intuitively know prenuptial agreements are almost always worthless. Would a lawyer draft a legal document that would prevent him from making himself more money later?
There is no incentive to "fix anything" in the counseling business. I hear alot about "making progress", but I rarely hear about a counselor who fixes you up then kicks you out.
The very nature of the business means it is more profitable to not help you even if they could. So I believe they just can't really help you period. In my mind, counseling becomes worthless. The framework of counseling is et up so they probably don't want to help you deep down, not to the point where you'd leave and go be happy, so counseling becomes worthless there too.
I don't think counseling attacks men because it's a systematic agenda to destroy men. I just think it stretches out the program the longest for the most profit.
"Ok Sally, you are a fucking raging bitch. You don't work and you nag Bob all the time. Cook him a steak once in a while and give him a blowjob once in a while and be thankful he provided you with a safe home and roses on Valentines Day"
Sally shuts up. Bob is ok with that because Bob just wants to get fed, get laid and have as little bullshit as possible to get those things.
"Ok Bob, you have some serious intimacy issues, we need to work on that, but you don't like to talk, so let's hear what Sally has to say"
Sally won't shut up. Bob won't talk much because guys don't talk much, Sally gets to keep talking and the counselor gets to keep billing.
Counselors side with women because most women can't shut the fuck up. Counselors don't side with men because men are staring at the clock and want to see results for their dollar.
This is just about money. Just like divorce. If you have a dirt poor man and rich woman together, I assure you, the rich woman is going to get hosed. It just happens so rarely that no one notices it because most rich women won't marry a dirt poor man. But some women, a rare few, get hosed just as badly as men in divorces. The system's greed knows no gender, it only hammers men so often because men tend to be the ones with most money in most divorces.