Coach, 40, Weds 16-Year-Old Student

[Mr. X]

40?  16?

It may be legal, but it's sick no matter the genders.

I agree 100%.

[typhonblue]

You can argue for increasing the age of consent laws. Fine. But don't argue that this is a double standard.

I think that teenage males are more vulnerable in these sorts of situations then teenage girls. They don't have the same protections, social and legal, and they are expected to step up to adult responsiblities. Not so with teenage girls.

If it was equal, same responsibilites, same protections... and people were still saying that 16 year old boy-40 year old woman was worse than 16 year old girl-40 year old man. Then the "double standard" people would have a point.

[Cordell Walker]

You can argue for increasing the age of consent laws. Fine. But don't argue that this is a double standard.

I think that teenage males are more vulnerable in these sorts of situations then teenage girls. They don't have the same protections, social and legal, and they are expected to step up to adult responsiblities. Not so with teenage girls.

If it was equal, same responsibilites, same protections... and people were still saying that 16 year old boy-40 year old woman was worse than 16 year old girl-40 year old man. Then the "double standard" people would have a point.

tha actual age doenst really matter its the context TB...................if he met her at a club, took her howme and knocked her off and then found out her age, fine. BUT he violated his trust as a teacher by having a reltionship with a very young student

[typhonblue]

tha actual age doenst really matter its the context TB...................if he met her at a club, took her howme and knocked her off and then found out her age, fine. BUT he violated his trust as a teacher by having a reltionship with a very young student

I suppose so.

But what should be proposed to stop a relationship like that? It took place off campus, he ended contact on the behest of the school board. And then he resigned after marrying her. Is there an indication that their relationship was sexual prior to marriage?

In the case where it's not covered by law-- the student is old enough to consent--and there is no physical sex happening--what should be done?

I'm trying to fathom the girl's logic in all this as well. When I was her age I found all my teachers repulsive.

[Cordell Walker]

what should be done.........................her dad needs to grow a pair and whip that coaches ass

[Cordell Walker]

and besides, do you ever wonder how many other 14-16 year old girls this R Kelly wannabe knocked off

[typhonblue]

and besides, do you ever wonder how many other 14-16 year old girls this R Kelly wannabe knocked off

To be honest, I think when a man marries he's assuming responsibilities to his wife. Not so when a woman marries. I can't think of one legally or socially enforced responsibility a wife has to her husband.

Therefore when this guy married the girl, he assumed a bunch of responsibilities which he will now have to uphold.

Whereas when an older woman marries a boy, she's getting the _boy_ to assume a whole bunch of responsibilities _to her_.

There are different attitudes behind each of those actions.

[RockyMountainMan]

Anyone else that thinks that this is somehow "different" are wrong (IMO) .  Messing with a 16 year old of either sex at the age of 40 plus is just sicko.  period.

A child, yes child of that age is incapable of processing the dynamics of a sexual relationship healthily.

TMOTS

My first thoughts as well.  40 year old guy must be an emotionally stunted manipulative s.o.b.

but then you read the article about how the kid threw a hissy fit and manipulated her weak-ass parents and got them to sign a consent form.  It makes you wonder who the master manipulator is here.

Sorry, but no, I don't feel sorry for her.  She's no victim.

[shard43]

Messing with a 16 year old of either sex at the age of 40 plus is just sicko.  period.

A child, yes child of that age is incapable of processing the dynamics of a sexual relationship healthily.

I think there's quite a few states in the US where 16 is the age of consent. 16 is young, but its not THAT young. Let's leave the pedo talk to the MSM and the uninformed public, shall we?

[TheManOnTheStreet]

Messing with a 16 year old of either sex at the age of 40 plus is just sicko.  period.

A child, yes child of that age is incapable of processing the dynamics of a sexual relationship healthily.

I think there's quite a few states in the US where 16 is the age of consent. 16 is young, but its not THAT young. Let's leave the pedo talk to the MSM and the uninformed public, shall we?

No, lets not.  First, I never said Peadophiles... Secondly, "Uninformed"?  I consider myself pretty informed there pally.  And I am pretty sure that a 16 year old is not emotionally mature enough to handle the dynamics of a sexual/married/ADULT relationship.  Ever hear a 16 year old girl (or boy for that matter) on the phone after a fight with their BF/GF??  How about after breaking up with said BF/GF?  I have.  I have a 21 year old boy and a 20 year old girl.  So, yes... I DO consider myself "informed"...

TMOTS

[woof]

A 40 year old coach, a person in a position of power, manipulated a 16 year old student who was under the coach's care into a sexual relationship.
It is wrong when no gender is assigned. It is wrong when it is a woman and a boy. And it is wrong when it is a man and a girl.

Please tell me I am not the only one here who knows this besides Devia.

Jen,

You are right, absolutely right, this is totally wrong. I would be up in arms if it was the other way around too.

[Cordell Walker]

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I gotta do it, as it seems  devia the devils advocate is absent this evening, read this thread and the one about the woman from the soviet socialist republic of mexifornia who moved to austrailia

[gwallan]

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I gotta do it, as it seems  devia the devils advocate is absent this evening, read this thread and the one about the woman from the soviet socialist republic of mexifornia who moved to austrailia

Same story Tony. Adults should not engage kids in sexual relationships.

I just posted this in the other thread:-

One of the major reasons for these laws is that putting a kid in an adult relationship locks aspects of their development in place. Subsequently they can have great difficulty maintaining functional adult relationships. Also it's typical for the adult to become a surrogate parent as well as lover which is understandably problematic. The case in point is a prime example. They lived together from when he was sixteen putting her in a parental position regarding anything he couldn't do because he is still a minor.

Sometimes rape IS all about power and control.

TB asserted in this thread that it's arguably more problematic for boys. She is right. Boys are typically a couple of years behind girls in maturity at this age. Many men could not be considered "complete" adults until their early twenties.

Oh, and a girl will never be forced to become a parent nor on the hook for child support.

[gwallan]

oops

[Cordell Walker]

dont disagree with nothin you said