Try to understand that I wasn't trying to downplay anything.
It looked that way and it is common for the media to downplay or simply not report mens issues. Look at the headline....Even though mothers are abused less...they are mentioned FIRST and are also mentioned first in the article. Could it be because society as a whole cares more about abuse towards women than it does about abuse towards men?
If the numbers were higher for women it would still put mothers ahead of fathers..wouldn't it? In virtually every aspect mothers are put above fathers. So many in this society see fathers as worthless to the development of a child, apparently the courts do as well. This is a problem and it start with acknowledging that men are abused by women too....especially pregnant women having mood swings. There is literally no excuse for a man to hit a woman but a woman does not need a reason to do it and pregnancy just makes it even more "ok".
But when the numbers are as lopsided as they are and the movement refuses to hold men that do abuse to a standard but instead make excuses for the behavior; then they should not be shocked to get the same treatment in return.
The stats that Dr de is it? posted clearly show that men are most commonly assaulted by other men. Refusal to deal with that glaring fact does nothing to curtail abuse in any direction.
Men do hold men accountable for abuse...those male lawmakers, those male police officers, those male judges...need I go on? Mandatory arrest laws that usually put men in jail even if THEY are the victim and especially if they defended themselves. Raising your voice is a form of domestic violence so to put it in perspective...a woman can (and they do) beat the shit out of a man and he cannot raise his arm to block her attack nor can he even raise his voice. He can leave but if he takes the children the police will be called and it is likely he will go to jail and he may even be charged with kidnapping. His choices are to sit and take it or leave without the kids. Either way, he loses. You must see this in your own experiences.
As for men abusing other men, you bet and most of the time it is probably over a female. That doesn't mean SHE put the man up to it but surely you won't deny that women can and do manipulate men to turn against each other. I have had it happen to me. I calmly explained to the man that she was just trying to use him to get back at me but that doesn't always work. Men have always defended women which is why it is so easy for women to manipulate men. Female manipulation combined with all the power women have these days is a disastorous.
When you hear and read statements made by men cheering on another man that has beaten a woman senseless while supplying them with excuses why do you think females will cheer also?
Men do not cheer when other men kill women or mutilate women and very seldom when men beat up women. Women though, do say "you go girl" when a man is mutilated or killed cause for women...self defense always works as an excuse.
Someone actually asked me in this thread if someone had to die for abuse to be taken seriously. He failed to see that people do die as a result of domestic violence. The majority of those dying are women and children. That doesn't seem important though; they are just women and children.
I asked that actually. Men also die in DV situations and usually because women use the excuse "he is bigger so I can use a weapon". It's just that when that happens other women (and men) cheer and say he deserved it.
Abuse should not be tolerated or cheered. It doesn't matter what the gender of the victim or the perpetrator. Abuse is wrong.
Agreed
For generations the pendulum was swinging in favor of men's rights. Women's rights were an afterthought at best. Now it has swung in the opposite direction. It needs to be centered.
But it's not going to happen as long as everyone holds on to this us and them mentality.
Since it was men who helped feminism take control....I think the ball is in your court to help us now that you see it has gone too far. The "us and them" mentality is why feminism works so talk to the feminists abou that...they force us to fight the battle this way.