Okay Typhon let's break this down and make it easy. Two questions:
Do the men in your examples provide the women with clothing, food, shelter and the other necessities of living? Yes or no?
Do the men in your examples protect the women from rape, murder, or some other intrustion from outside sources that might injure them in some way? Yes or no.
If you answer yes to both then these men provide and protect.
The upper class women get the benefit of oil money, just like the men. The lower class women provide materially for the family _with_ men.
I suppose in the upper classes you could say the men are 'providing' because they allow women to benefit from oil money, but they don't do a stich of labor or put any effort into it.
Coupling that with what I know of their attitudes towards women, if they _had_ to make an effort to support a woman living in greater luxury to themselves, they _wouldn't_. So, no.
As for the rape. There isn't any protections against rape. The women are compelled to take responsibility for protecting themselves from rape by modifying their dress and behavior. And when women are raped, they are usually blamed for having been raped and punished as adulterers.
Again, no.
It's really hard to explain the depth of how little they care about women unless you've lived there. There is no 'provider or chivalrous pride', women are valued only for what they give to men and any sense that a woman is living for herself--instead of accomodating men--is usually punished rather swiftly.
Even something as basic as escaping from a burning building without wearing sufficently modest clothing. Women are expected to burn to death before they assault male eyes with their _very_ minimal nudity.
