"IMO, a modest woman has a lot more power than a sold-out-slut. You can't share yourself with that many people and still have that 'something' about you; it's like a glow that gets worn off from whorish behavior. No, not a virgin-mary-glow, kinda more like a new product shine, straight out the packet and undamaged. I suppose they'd call it virtue back in the day, although I don't actually see this virtue per se. Personally I think being a whore is damaging for both genders, with the almost-amusing symptom of addled brains. Ever talked to a true slut of either gender? There's nothing upstairs."
I guess it all depend son the individual and the cirumstance. If we're talking about raw desire to mate, it doesn't much matter. If we're talking about having a relationship... how can the sexual aspect of a relationship ever be special or ever be a "bond" when it has been spread around and shared so much?
as for what's "upstairs", my take is just that it takes a certain depth, awareness, and consciousness to override the "urge". Those who have this can differentiate, see consequences, and make conscious decisions that go against the raw instinctual urges; those who do not process "actions- feelings-consequences", or are nopt very good at evaulating these things, are much more likely to "shoot first, ask questions later".