Again, you make good points, but I would add:
How would men act if they were given the opportunity to act like western women? ()i.e., if women, other men, the government, society as a whole, etc. allowed it without consequences)
How would men be "by nature", were it not for the fact that nature and evolutionary selection has forced men to NOT be immature, materialistic and selfish- ESPECIALLY when it comes to how they treat and deal with women?
In short, I think both men and women are, by nature, in part selfish, lazy, immature, materialistic little snots. The difference is that nature and evolutionary gender roles gave women quite a bit more wiggle room than it gave men; and men either had more important things to worry about, weren't around, or saw the positive side of giving more to women (and presumably, correspondingly to their children) without asking for more in return. So, we started out as more or lesse qually selfish, lazy, etc....but as time goes on and nature and evolution conditioned us, the survival of the clan or the species was bettered by the selflessness and hard work of men and the contributions and efforts made by men to women; whereas women's efforts and sacrifices were better spent on the children. ANd so the pattern goes for ages, until one day women's lives have been made so safe and easy through men's work and sacrifice, and the survival of society is a given, so women are free to break out of their formerly rigid roles; but women are still looking at the world through "me and the children"-colored glasses, and men are still in the habit of being providers and protectors, and of given women passes; thus, women now have the best of bth worlds, and are free to flip between "strong and independent" and "weak and helpless"; between "I can do alright thank you" and "you're job is to provide for me"; and can say "I want to be loved and appreciated for who I am" but because of their distorted viewpoint do not even consider that a man might appreciate the same; and men, meanwhille, habituated and evolved to "do what men do", allow things to go on and look the other way...
Anyway, getting back to the original topic, does anyone else see the sad irony in women acting in such selfish, sexist ways even as they are about to profess their "love" for a man?