Thanks for the advice Aegis. Believe me, I will have high standards for myself, especially when I think about how the reason many of these kids are in the foster system is because they didn't have a male role model. My purpose would be to be the role model they maybe never had. Single parents by choice just need to look at the foster system to stop kidding themselves into thinking that fathers are optional.
Edited for P4's last post: Yes, that hypocrisy fits right in with what I just said. How can single moms claim that a kid doesn't need a dad but then when it comes to child support, a dad is absolutely necessary
Just for money of course. How do all these single parents by choice manage "just fine" without any child support? If they can do it, so can divorced moms (that initiate the divorce about 70% of the time). I think if the mother initiates the divorce for "irreconcilable differences" or some other such BS (not in a dangerous/truly abusive marraige), then if she initiates the divorce against the husbands wishes, she gets no child support. She needs to make a tough decision, just like men are expected to do. Like that'll ever happen.
Want a good (angry) laugh? Check out the top of the NJ state child support homepage. Their slogan is "New Jersey Child Support. It's more than just money." Riiiight. It's aaaaall about money.
The first paragraph on the homepage statets "It is the responsibility of each parent - both mother and father - to make sure their child has enough food to eat, clothes to wear and a safe place to live." Gee, sounds like thats all about money to me.
It really pisses me off how so much money and effort is spent on tracking every penny of income that the NCP has coming in, but the custodial parent doesn't have to account for a single dime they spend. Part of "making sure the child has..." is to make the custodial parent prove the money was actually spent on the kid, or so logic would dictate.