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Hello Amber.. my name is XXX.. and I've been reading your thoughts on feminism and what it stands for , what its been doing ., etc etc.. and I must say that I couldnt agree with you more. As someone who loves women, and loves family, and the greater potential of society as a working unit, I see feminism and all that it purports as a direct threat to that. I've actually dated feminist women in the past and of course it never worked out, they say I'm too bullheaded and didnt go for any of their mess. I think what put me on to understanding what they really stand for is the first time I've gone out with these women, they either try hurting me; or starting denigrating men in a very nasty way. They try to rid themselves of the softness that women have, giving them a hardedge feel. But I think above all they couldnt be civil, they wanted me to hurt, or they tried something to make me notice their dislike of masculinity. (I'm actually getting to a point.) One particular woman, however was caught between two ideals. You see, she had a great relationship with her father. Her father was nurturing to her, and complemented her on her FEMININITY. Her love for her father didnt allow her to fall completely into the abyss of feminism. Though she was abused at an early age by another man, she loved her father dearly. Her father was her hero. In the end she told me I was more man than anyone she's met.
I found that very interesting. I've done research on many classic feminist thinkers, betty friedan, simone de beavoir, gloria steinem, etc etc etc.. and they all have two very important things in common. One, their childhood was reprehensible, they all had either tyrannical mothers or fathers, a childhood they was described as stifling, hellish, and consistently degrading. And so they felt a horrible vulnerability to pain that they didnt like. And two, they all reacted to their negative childhood's .. negatively. They took a negative childhood and reacted to it negatively. A childhood , mind you, where the fathers were not heroes. So, what do they do? They either hate daddy, and subsequenty hate men, or they try to become masuline themselves. All which lead to a negative predicament, because neither will bring a them to happiness and fulfillment as a woman. And now finally my point. You brought up an excellent point in your essay about 'bees and the swarm,' in saying that 'christianity' or a true spiritual base will bring about healing, because it promotes love. I think we both agree that love will certainly help these women, only they are not interested in love, they are interested in holding on to pain, and nurturing it, and how will that ever allow growth? So, I think, for these women, a positive response to their negative situation would be love, or christianity, or islam, or whatever your professs, because it points to the potential, the higher potential of every human being, thereby forcing growth. You are very interesting, and I admire your strength in combatting what is almost wholly detrimental to society. And I ,
on my end will do what I must to turn the tide. Bold, italics mine
