Much is made on what men want. Frankly, it's over analyzed.
We men are generally fairly straightforward creatures, and prone to being all business when it comes to the details of life (Which are no fun) and that gives us more time to devote to the business of living life.
So, here's "The Care and Feeding of your Male."
1) He doesn't like to play bullshit emotional games. The male feels something, he feels it. He accepts and deals. It's pointless to analyze a gut reaction. He prefers to think about how he reacts to it, not the deep and hidden meanings, which usually are neither anyway.
2) It's been said that men think about sex 7 times per minute. That's bunk. A male thinks about sex only once in his life. That thought occurs at the onset of puberty, and rarely ends. Yes, this means that all of your male "friends" have at one time or another thought about getting you in the sack. Probably many times. In fact, if you haven't been the object of at least one masturbatory fantasy, you're probably either physically repulsive, or an unspeakable bitch. Yes, he is looking at your tits and checking out your ass
3) No, men don't want "Hero Worship" because the pedestal is just as uncomfortable for them. He wants to be useful and wanted. Both. If he's wanted without being useful he feels like a kept man, and arm candy. If he's useful without being wanted, he feels used and taken for granted. Either way, count on him boinking your best friend.
4) Your man is a problem solver. To him, a person who talks about their problems and doesn't want to solve them is just a whiner.
5) Your man will not wish, upon his dying day, that he had done a better job of picking up his socks off the bedroom floor. With that in mind, he will not give it a second thought while he lives. Consider this carefully ladies - know any neat-freak men who aren't either control freaks or gay?
6) Make life a chore and soon the "relationship" will be a chore too.
7) Since men are better able to detatch and compartmentalize parts of ther life due to their brain structure, it often takes them a bit of time to shut one part of the grey matter off and start another one up. This is referred to in the vernacular as "unwinding." Respect it.
No, you're not being ignored. Thousands of years of evolution and adaptation have turned your hunter male into a creature able to shut out all other external stimuli and concentrate on one thing to the exclusion of all else. To the hunter after the deer, the birds flying overhead are registered as "not deer" and dismissed and forgotton without even conscious volition. You will have to accept that you have to get his attention first. Those thousands of yeaars of evolution will not be undone because Oprah and Dr. Phil say it should be in the latter half on the 20th century.
9) Your male has to compete with other males, and is totally disinterested in competing with you in the slightest. He doesn't even want to play tic-tac-toe with you. If you force him to compete with you, he will regard you as one of the guys, because he plays to win, and you aren't supposed to "beat up" on girls. He can only play, then, if he regards you as "not-girl."
10) Your male regards crying as emotional extortion. Abuse it and expect to be regarded and treated as a criminal.
11) If you use sex as a medium of exchange to get what you want, you will be regarded as a prostitute
12) Humans are hunter-gatherers. The male is the hunter half of this equation. This makes him a predator. This is a profound truth.
13) Laugh at male-bonding all you want. By bonding with other males, he makes them part of his tribe, and he can then kick the competition instinct down. This means he has to have time with them, without the presence of the female.
14) Males possess a strong fight or flight instinct. If he moves to leave, let him. He is leaving because he is stomping his "fight" instinct into the ground. If you don't let him retreat, you are inviting him to fight. And as politically incorrect as it is, it does mean you are asking for it.
15) Words are cheap to a man, just sounds, just tools. Things like saying "I love you" or "I'm sorry" don't impress him to utter or hear uttered. Any schmuck can say words. Show him and let him show you.
16) And finally, it is the nature of competition that one uses all of his opponent's weaknesses against him. This means that your male cannot fathom at all why you would ever confess your weaknesses to your girlfriends. This is why men keep certain parts of their lives from even their close friends - IT'S NONE OF THEIR BUSINESS. He won't appreciate you sharing his secrets with your girlfriends, your mother, your sister, or the hens at the coffee klatch. If he shares with you it is because he feels safe. There are fewer betrayals to a man more unforgivable than to use what he shares with you as a weapon later, or if he finds out you've betrayed the husband-wife confidence. At best, he will just clam up on you from that point on.
