Started by Matt, Dec 04, 2003, 10:59 PM
That was all excellent Galt.With one exception, the truth is that the alpha person will more often then not take advantage of those beneath them regardless of age or sex. It's just human nature.The trick is not to stop falling in love, but to fall in love with your equal. The problem is that both men and women are attracted to those that are not really availble to them. It sucks to look at someone with doe eyes and just be used by that person for both sexes, don't kid yourselves into thinking it doesn't happen to young attractive women too. We have a lineup of "one nighter bimbos" of that variety coming to visit my broke little studly boss at work weekly wishing they were something more then the joke of the day, but they're not.
Here are a couple more thoughts while I'm thinking about this:1) Think twice and then three times if you think you are really lucking out if you get an extremely beautiful girlfriend. There is a downside to them, and it is natural because they have men chasing after them left and right. They seem to become very self-centered and demanding. If there are exceptions, then there are - but don't rationalize. That was my experience with the one ultra-babe I went out with. And seeing other relationships like that.2) Don't chase; maybe a bit in the beginning because men have to do that to get a relationship going. But believe it or not, if she really has some interest in you, things will work out better (more equally) if you don't chase her. If she drifts on, so what (see my comment about not taking things as seriously above), but you may be surprised - sometimes THEY chase. The way to think about it is that they want someone they think is worth it - and sometimes chasing will make them think that it is unequal (i.e. that you aren't worthy of them in a sense).So maybe I have to refine the way I am presenting these points - but take them as a rough draft.
*I can accept the prospect of being alone for the rest of my life.*Make that the hallmark of your being and you will have provided yourself with an entirely new perspective on life. You will have brought rational thought to your romantic endeavors, and will be able to evaluate whether the probable benefits of being with a person will outweigh the certain costs of courting them. You will have achieved the level of maturity and emotional stability required to make sound choices in love and, more importantly, in every other aspect of your life.
1) Young men usually don't have what women find attractive in a lot of cases (money, experience with the world, stable career etc.), but young women are at the peak of their attraction in their 20s (i.e. their bodies and looks are the best they will ever be).