Started by BRIAN, Mar 10, 2010, 07:17 AM
Yes Brian I've been saying the same thing. Where's the condemnation of the women who KNEW he was married. But apparently its far more Ok for women to screw women over than for men to do it.
Quote from: Mr. X on Mar 10, 2010, 10:28 AMYes Brian I've been saying the same thing. Where's the condemnation of the women who KNEW he was married. But apparently its far more Ok for women to screw women over than for men to do it. Exactly! And this lies at the heart of things. As Moxon tells us, there is this thing called "cheater detection" which is biologically in our blood. Both men and women are on alert for men who are "cheating." This is due to the evolutionary setup where men compete for women and women have the choice of who wins the competition. The man's attempt to get the woman to say yes entails him jumping through hoops, buying gifts, listening for hours etc. If a man "wins" and is the woman's choice then he is congratulated by society but if he sneaks in without winning the competition it is like a line breaker. He is barging in and taking something that is not his. The woman otoh, since she is the one making the choice is under a different set of rules. She is not competing in the same was as the man and therefore is not seen as "breaking in line" if she chooses to be with any man. This is not unlike our discussion about the drunken woman who had sex with the drunken young man. In that scenario the assumption is that the man is the one who has "broken in line" while the woman is seen as blameless. It is this sort of unconscious and pervasive double standard that is handcuffing our men and most people don't even know that the double standard is a part of their default makeup.
I am listening to it right now. Apparently they all KNEW he was married. Makes you wonder why the RADFEMS never say anything about the "Other Woman" in affairs. I can't imagine knowing a woman was married and still having sex with her. Do I have an over developed sense of personal honor, or are there a lot of men out there who will have sex with a married woman? And how hypocritical are the RADFEMS to condemn men having afairs as abusive while giving women who know they are fucking maried men a pass.
some women say they prefer a married man, because he isnt as likely to be possessive etc