The problem today is that you have feminists saying in one breath that "everything has to be equal" - and no one dare deny that - but in the next breath, or even without taking a breath, they demand that men "man up" and "step up to the plate" and do their male duties.
In fact, you get this dichotomy from most women - I've found that "traditional women" are even worse in many cases. They just flat out want to be supported while they sit on their fat, useless asses, and they also just accept all of the "equality stuff".
Edited to add: I guess the only difference is the sequence. Feminist women demand exact equality of the sexes; after that, they know that they can get a man to pay for them (as they smirk about what suckers men are). Traditional women demand that men fulfill their traditional duties, mostly paying for them and taking over the heavy thinking about problems in life; after that, they know full well they can count on "equality" statements of their more radical sisters and men will just bow to it out of chilvarly.
The end result is the same. "Equality", except that men have to do their traditional duties.
Even men who have been used, exploited and hammered by women in life don't seem to see this. Really weird.