Caught this over on the spearhead site:
http://www.cnn.com/2010/LIVING/11/03/o.raise.good.husband/index.html?hpt=SbinOprah.com article...
"I was describing in prodigious, enthusiastic detail the trip to Japan from which I'd just returned with my then 15-year-old son.
"And he's so much fun to travel with," I went on to my patient friend. "His observations were really interesting, and when we met new people, he was such a good listener, and he seemed willing to try almost anything," I said.
"Well, of course he's a fine companion," my friend said. "You raised him to be."
I felt a sharp urge to deny that, as if she'd accused me of something selfish. But I have raised a boy who's smart and observant, sensitive and kind, who listens well and is remarkably honest and articulate about the way he feels."