Abused men feel alone, judged, experts sayhttp://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/calgary/story/2012/01/30/calgary-paxton-stay-ruling.htmlPaxton assault convictions shine light on domestic violence against men
Dustin Paxton guilty of aggravated and sexual assault
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http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/calgary/story/2012/02/07/calgary-paxton-abused-men-help.htmlOne day after a Calgary man was convicted for brutally beating his roommate over many months, agencies that work with victims of domestic violence say men who are abused can feel stigmatized and alone.
Dustin Paxton, 32,http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/calgary/story/2012/01/30/calgary-paxton-stay-ruling.html
was convicted Monday of beating and sexually assaulting his roommate over a period of 18 months in Calgary and Regina.
The victim, who cannot be named, never sought help. His ordeal finally ended when he was dropped off -- close to death -- at a Regina hospital in 2010.
There aren't any accurate statistics on how many men are abused in domestic situations because many victims simply won't admit it, said Aaron Korneychuk, who works at the Calgary Counselling Centre.
"There's a lot of silence around it. I think a lot of men don't come forward because of the social stigma about it," he said.
"As men we're supposed to be able to take care of ourselves. There's this idea we can't be abused because we can just walk away, but that doesn't necessarily happen," he said.
Earl Silverman, who runs a men's advocacy group in Calgary, said he finds men in such situations feel there is no help.
"People are conditioned that women are victims. People are not conditioned that men are victims of domestic violence," Silverman said.
Calgary Counselling Centre officials said there are support groups and services for men who are assaulted, as well as a shelter in Strathmore that accepts men in domestic crisis.
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