Just enjoy doing what the hell you want to do. Bang some strange, get a motorcycle or sportscar and go touring. Be your own man and realize you don't need a female or females approval to be happy.
I think that's what I'm going to enjoy the most and the deprivation that's made me the most miserable. I'd like to be able to socialise and enjoy life without permission, accusation or condemnation.
Hahaha that's my biggest question, how to "bang some strange"!?
Never been a pick-up artist or even capable of approaching women with one intent in mind and met all past partners through friends or after being friends for a while.
You don't need to have a girlfriend at all times. Make some male friends.
Trying that as well. Been looking for male friends as well as female ones. Found one guy near me that seems like a good guy.
Go through a quantity until you find some quality.
Hehehehe sounds like fun, but to avoid danger, I do plan to take my time and find some quality.
What Paul said. I once found myself at the end of a nine year relationship, most of which was spent living together. I had gotten so used to the idea of "us" that I didn't even think in terms of "me" anymore. It took me a couple of years to figure out who I was -without- her. Take some time to figure out what you've learned from the relationship, then take some time to figure out who are you without her. Get your own shit striaght, then worry about a girlfriend.
Very true. This has been a long time on the cards, so I've had a little while to get used to the idea and sort my head out, so while the whole shit-storm happens, I can remain quite calm about it all. Lol she really doesn't like the fact that I have come to peace with the situation so much! When telling people, which is awkward at times; she says "Stop smiling and laughing, this isn't funny!"
but that just makes me giggle more.
I know that feeling of not even thinking as an individual. Did you ever find yourself, stopping mid sentence and realising that even on your own speaking to a friend, you're still saying "we", even after quite a while?!
I don't plan to leap in to a committed relationship at all, for quite a while! But would enjoy female company in some form. Looking at modern socialisation, where everyone has lop sided TV-reality haircuts and find narcissism and rudeness the norm, I don't know where to start, well beyond trying to find social groups/networks to join with?