CNN: How do I raise a boy not to be a rapist?

Started by mens_issues, Mar 22, 2013, 06:59 PM

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mens_issues

CNN hits bottom in the title for this article by assuming that the default for boys is to grow up to be rapists.

http://www.cnn.com/2013/03/22/living/son-do-not-rape-steubenville/index.html

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'In the aftermath of the guilty verdict in Steubenville, Ohio, parents should be taking this opportunity to ask themselves this painful question. But what parent can even contemplate that a child they love could so callously disregard someone's basic human rights? At the same time, the media is filled with experts chastising parents for not being involved with their kids and wanting to be a friend instead of a parent.
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We must talk to our kids as possible perpetrators and bystanders. And our advice about what to say has got to go beyond, "How would you feel if this happened to your mother or sister?" First, no one has any idea what the perpetrator's relationship is like with those women in his life, but it's not a huge leap to think he doesn't hold a great deal of respect for them. Second, these boys have dehumanized their victim. In that moment, they don't care.'
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Eviltwin

The answer to the question is really quite simple. Most rapists were sexually abused as children, so all these women have to do is refrain from sexually abusing their children.
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We must talk to our kids as possible perpetrators and bystanders.


But, but, but... that would be patriarchal to put a damper on "children experimenting with sex", to tell the snowflakes that if they play with fire, they can get burnt. Better not cramp their exploratory style; they might suffer diminished self-esteem if they're thwarted in their quest for sexual self-actualization.
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dr e

Well the likelihood of a boy becoming a rapist is probably about the same as a girl becoming a crack whore.  Should fathers be after their daughters to be sure not to become a crack whore?     :icon_cyclops_ani:
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The answer to the question is really quite simple. Most rapists were sexually abused as children, so all these women have to do is refrain from sexually abusing their children.



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mens_issues

Oh, and I'm waiting for CNN to provide the other side of the story next. It should be called "How do I raise a girl not to make false accusations." Do I hear crickets chirping?

Time for some male positive media.
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mens_issues

I noticed that CNN changed the headline to "How do you talk to your son about rape?" Maybe they realized the first one was too inflammatory after reading the comments?

And yes, in a sense it is a good thing for parents to talk about, but the talk shouldn't assume that boys are out to be rapists by default. Avoiding situations where false accusations may occur should also be a topic, as well as avoiding situations where THEY may be victimized. Underage drinking at parties or elsewhere seems to be a prime example of such a situation to avoid, as well as keeping away from girls who are drunk.
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neoteny

Underage drinking at parties or elsewhere seems to be a prime example of such a situation to avoid, as well as keeping away from girls who are drunk.


Indeed; any parent -- father or mother -- who fails to teach that to their sons -- or daughters, for that matter -- are failing their children.
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Peter

How do I raise a child to respect truth, question the veracity of statements, investigate to recover further relevant information, discriminate (yes, the horror) between important and unimportant information, to seek out the important information and truthfully tell others what he has understood.

In other words, not to be a journalist, "public relations" person, political or commercial spokesman, copywriter, advertiser, re-eductor, or other professional or amateur liar.
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CaptDMO

Easy, simply redefine language, via. disingenuous "usage".

PaulGuelph

How do I raise a black child to not steal?
How do I raise a latino child to not be lazy?

There could be a whole series of bigoted articles.
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