Earl Silverman has passed away

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It is with great sadness that I report on the suicide of the founder of Canada's only safehouse for men.


antimisandry.com http://antimisandry.com/great-men-their-historical-accomplishments/earl-silverman-has-passed-away-51416.html#ixzz2RgzkXmgU

Iron John

I was shocked to discover that Earl had killed himself yesterday.  I did not know him personally, but still hearing that he had hung himself was just horrific.  I wish we could have stopped him and given him something, no matter how small, that was worth living for. 


outdoors

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Apr 28, 2013, 02:00 AM Last Edit: Apr 28, 2013, 02:13 AM by outdoors
 Earl was the first man I talked to after my seperation years ago.

I looked everywhere for help, I was a wreck and he listened.

I actually wanted to open a men's shelter just like he did with the 4077.

When I attempted to do this in my home town and seen how hated I became because I dared to open my mouth,this is when I became a true mra.

The outright denial of male services and the attempt's to open a shelter were viciously contested in this feminist shithole I call home.


http://beaconnews.ca/calgary/2011/07/female-violence-societys-dirty-little-secret-especially-in-alberta/

I know exactly the obstacles this man faced and how overwhelming they can be.

outdoors

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Apr 28, 2013, 02:10 AM Last Edit: Apr 28, 2013, 02:22 AM by outdoors
 Earl was responsible for my letter writing and getting the following article in the local newspaper.

Was a while back;




" RESIDENT concerned with lack of resources for battered men"

While our social agencies and legal system place great importance on helping victims of domestic violence,one local man says the system is failing men who are abused by their partners.

Wishing to keep his identity secret,the area resident says local programs and resources associated with domestic violence don't take men seriously and don't recognise that women can find themselves in the abusers roll.

 "Men that need help,need a way to do it with dignity and not in hand-cuffs",he said."even when men phone the police it is the men that are more likely arrested !I am not suggesting that violence against women be treated any less seriously.I'm suggesting that men are victims too."

 He also says the areas new Partner Abuse Response(P.A.R.) progam up holds the notion that men must claim all responsibility in a domestic abuse situation -admit to being an abuser or fail the program.

Detective ann Tkachyk has worked domestic cases in the Dryden area for over a decade.While she says cases of battered men in intimate relationships no doubt exist,They pale in comparison to occurances of abuse against women.both statistically and in her anecdotal experiance."

 'Research has shown that in fact the overwhelming majority of family violence is men perpetrating violence against women.And they are a lot of reasons for that"said tkachyk"but there are men who are victims of domestic violence-it is recognized.The statistics on that may not be clear because men often don't report that they have been abused or assaulted in an intimate relationship."Tkachyk points out that there are services available to victims of domestic violence regardless of their sex.

Anyone may access councilling at the Dryden regioal Health center through mental health and addictions service with-out a refferal.

 The community's Crisis response Serivices phineline is 866-888-8988.

The victim /witness assistance service is an arm of the crown attorney's office that helps the the victims of violence within the court system.

But the concerned resident says a lack of compassion,or a trusting ear with in the existing social and legal agencies that deal with domestic violence,is exactly why men don't report.He says a prevailing culture of assuming a males guilt in any domestic incident isolates and alienates men who legitimately need help,but will not seek help for fear of the system itself.

If they could phone a mens help-line.they would probably would report",he said.Where as ,if they phone the dryden hospital,they mostly deal with women."I don't think most men would phone there".

 He'd like to see more government funds spent on programs taylored specifically to men who suffer from partner abuse and women who abuse.

 Tkachyk says these kind of support programs do exist in larger centres,though their recent efforts to obtain a companion to the PAR progam,geared towards women who perpetuate domestic violence.were sidelined by a simple lack of numbers.

 "All these services are based on government funding",said Tachyk.While we have the numbers to support the male group.we don't have the statistics locally to support that group of females who perpetrate violence".
Hoshizaki House director Bernice Connel says while the demand may not be there to recieve funding from the government.there no reason why men could not organize support and sevices for male victims of abuse in a grassroots initiative.

 And thats what the concerned resident plans to do.He hopes to start an initiative similar to Calgary'y MASH(mens alternative safe house)program, a shelter for men and their children who are escaping abuse.
"It gives men a chance to get out of a bad situation before the fists start flying",he said.They can phone and get help on how to get out of there with dignity,instead of phoning the police where chances are they'll get arrested".

   Looking at the numberes, a 2004 report from statsistics canada found in data over five years,show 654,000 incidents of violence against women,versus 546,000incidents of violence against men.Women were two and ahalf times more likely to report the most serious forms of violence.

 In 41% of spousal homocides against men, police data from 91-04 determined male victims were the first to use or threaten physical force or violence in the incident(only 5 %among spousal killings of women) Police also found a history of violence between the victim and accused in 70% of spousal homocides against men(59%in homocides against women).



dr e

Damned shame.  Bless his heart.  I can understand though.  Outdoors touched on the intolerance of anyone seeking services for men and I bet this guy faced a ton.  We are living in a culture that is so drenched with feminist hate that no one even notices and they think they are humanitarians.  The fact is our ship has been taking on water due to feminist pork and hate for over forty years and at this point we are nearly waterlogged.  Slowly we have been taking on water a bit at a time and at this point the ship is so weighed down that water is now coming in over the gunwales and everyone thinks things are fine.  It is difficult living in a culture that is so bigoted and sees themselves as angels.  The depraved are now the exalted and those who have worked hard to create things are seen as evil.  Alice couldn't have been more confused with wonderland then a conscious and loving person would be confused in today's hate filled mess.  Go figure.

May God bless Earl. 
Contact dr e  Lifeboats for the ladies and children, icy waters for the men.  Women have rights and men have responsibilties.

outdoors

Wait 'till tommorrow when I go visit my m.p. and m.p.p. with this news.

I hold them partly responsible for this man's death.

He fought to get help for everyone else,while obviously ignoring his own need's.

Didn't he just close the door's to the m.a.s.h. because of the lack of funding?

Tigerman


Wait 'till tommorrow when I go visit my m.p. and m.p.p. with this news.

I hold them partly responsible for this man's death.

He fought to get help for everyone else,while obviously ignoring his own need's.

Didn't he just close the door's to the m.a.s.h. because of the lack of funding?


First of all Outdoors I know you and I have crossed swords as of late but credit where credit is due - that letter you wrote was excellent work.  :thumbsup:

As for closing m.a.s.h. yes he did - there has just been an article about his death in the National Post entitled "Man who ran Canada's only shelter dedicated solely to male victims of domestic abuse dies in apparent suicide" ' Here is a short quote from the article:
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The man who created Canada's only shelter dedicated solely to male victims of domestic violence died on Friday of an apparent suicide.
The day after he packed up his recently sold home -- also the site of the Men's Alternative Safe House -- Earl Silverman was found hanging in his garage.
Mr. Silverman closed his shelter last month, saying he could no longer afford its upkeep. He long sought funding from provincial and federal governments to help run his hybrid shelter and home, but believed he was always refused because the space was dedicated to helping male victims and their children. He said he was unable to pay for heat and grocery bills.

Please visit the link to read the rest of the article - they deserve the traffic for being one of the very few media outlets to report on his death and favourably about his work at that. 

outdoors

Couple of more article's;

Earl Silverman lived for nothing, died for something

Christopher Walsh | April 28, 2013

Earl Silverman committed suicide Friday in Calgary

http://beaconnews.ca/calgary/2013/04/earl-silverman-lived-for-nothing-died-for-something/


Earl Silverman, men's rights advocate dies
Christopher Walsh | April 28, 2013

Earl Silverman operated only safe house for men in Canada

http://beaconnews.ca/calgary/2013/04/earl-silverman-mens-rights-advocate-dies/

outdoors

 And another;


Calgarian who founded shelter for male victims of domestic abuse mourned




Earl Silverman founded shelter for male victims of domestic violence



Read more: http://www.calgaryherald.com/news/Calgarian+founded+shelter+male+victims+domestic+abuse+mourned/8307690/story.html#ixzz2Rr7sBD27

outdoors

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Apr 29, 2013, 05:59 AM Last Edit: Apr 29, 2013, 06:01 AM by outdoors
 The comment from here;

http://www.calgaryherald.com/news/rights+supporters+mourn+loss+advocate/8307690/story.html


Murray Pearson

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Earl Silverman will not have died in vain. His suicide has galvanized the worldwide community.

We are establishing the Earl Silverman Centres for Men, to create a unified and consistent operating manual for abuse shelters (without sexist policies), and to coordinate these around the world.

The coordination is important: we were all under the impression that Earl's shelter had been the only one of its kind in Canada, but yesterday we discovered (to our astonishment) Maison Oxygčne in Montreal. http://www.maisonoxygene.com/ If a place like this can spring up, it should certainly not pass unnoticed!

Earl, my friend, my ally, my inspiration -- we will not forget you or your struggle.

And as for you, Alison Redford and the band of psychopaths running the "government" and "justice" systems -- rest assured, you will soon pay the piper.



Gives me some hope.

Tigerman

On saturday AVFM did a radio show dedicated to the memory of Earl Silverman and his selfless work for battered men in Canada.
In the show a fundraising intiative to create a battered men's shelter in Earl's name was announced - the fundraiser has already received over 4,860 dollars in the first 11 hours but much more is needed towards the $10, 000 dollar target.
Let's do what we can to honour his memory and bring some justice to his cause.
Details of the radio show here.
Fundraising page here.

outdoors

 Why the fuck should anyone have to collect even one dollar?

600 MILLION of GOVERNMENT $$$ for women's shelter's and not a dime for men?

The government needs to step up and do the funding,not the individual.

I certainly hope that avfm doesn't turn this into some type of gravedancing in order to promote the egocentricism of avfm.

They are already acting like they are the only ones that count in all of this.


Tigerman


Why the fuck should anyone have to collect even one dollar?

600 MILLION of GOVERNMENT $$$ for women's shelter's and not a dime for men?

The government needs to step up and do the funding,not the individual.

I certainly hope that avfm doesn't turn this into some type of gravedancing in order to promote the egocentricism of avfm.

They are already acting like they are the only ones that count in all of this.




We already knew they didn't give a shit otherwise Earl's Shelter would have been fully funded along with many others and very likely Earl would still be alive.
As for your "gravedancing" remark Paul stuck in $250 of his own money and another single donor dropped in Four fucking grand in order to help others and honour his memory.
You just stooped to a new low but I doubt you have the fucking decency to ever admit it.

outdoors

Men rights activist Earl Silverman found dead

April 30, 2013 18:59

http://www.sunnewsnetwork.ca/video/featured/prime-time/867432237001/men-rights-activist-earl-silverman-found-dead/2341721399001

Rick Goodwin of The Men's Project speaks with Michael Coren about men's issues and the death of Earl Silverman.

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