Actually, this is an important conversation to have. Several higher profile MRAs have pandered to the mainstream, and labelled other longtime MRAs as 'extremist'. As has been pointed out here, several longtime MRAs have been 'ousted' from AVfM (myself included), because we are 'too extreme'. The question never answered is 'in comparison to what?'
The 'fear of looking bad' crowd is what drives this tendency, in my view. Those who still have not internalized that Government KNOWS all this shit, and has for years, and yet they still follow the Feminist line... Why is that, do you think? This is not a battle for polite reasoned debate. Ever read the Agent Orange files? DO you seriously think RadFems (and only these radfems) don't infest nearly every arm of Government? Do you think RadFems are the only Eugenicists in existence?
Ever notice how nicely the Village Busybody attitude of Feminism fits with a Totalitarian Police State? Ever think maybe Government is USING Feminism precisely to enact these measures, and restrict these freedoms? Even if they aren't, this whole battle is for the 'undecided vote'....those that haven't paid much attention.
We are most effective when we try and reach men that are unsatisfied, but haven't figured out why. We are LEAST effective when we try to appeal to women, to bring them on board. Men do not ...I repeat NOT....respect 'soft, sensitive men' any more than women do. Men love the lines Bad GUys get in the movies every bit as much as women do.
Feminists have been trying to label us 'extremists' for years, hoping to get us to curb our own effectiveness. They continue to mislead the public explicitly for the purpose of smearing us...aka, make us 'look bad' no matter what we actually are. And now we have a sizeable chunk of the MRM following their lead, and taking their advice. And 'self policing' some of the more effective (or vocal, or tenacious) MRAs right out of having any interest in continuing.
The label 'extremist' should be, on every BBS and Forum, a charge that MUST be backed up with a coherent point or argument, to the point that baseless accusations of being 'extremist' should be a bannable offense. Same goes for accusations of 'misogyny'...back them up, or you're gone.
The MRM has long been open to detractors, and counter argument. But we are shooting ourselves in the foot, in exactly the same manner wider society has, when we accomodate the hysterics, and try and walk on eggshells. The 'fear of looking bad' is the meme that has been used to utterly control the West since the mid '80-'s. Let's not continue the trend, seeing as how we view ourselves as the guys with some answers.