Feminism has been spreading the glorification of the victim, to the point where today - not only can women use being a victim to get away with crimes, take their husbands to the cleaners in divorces, use as a revenge tool, or as an excuse for something (staying out late), but where it has became cool to be a victim.
Tori Amos is a perfect illustration of this phenomenon. Back in high school, before I learned the truth, I was friends with an older girl that was bi. She took me to a Tori Amos concert. Before I went, I talked with some females in my class who were going as well to learn something about it. They told me she was raped and their eyes were big in awe and jealousy. They talked about in a high excited tone with smiles on their faces, like I would talk about a great football play.
At the concert, all the girls swooned over Tori and when she sang her trademark song about getting raped, there were murmurs of excitment in the crowd - "Is she singing it?"
"Yeah, this is it." And the girls cried and some tossed flowers at the stage. Many rushed to the stage, their eys wide in awe of this victim.
She sang it as the last song and leaving there was feeling the crowd of "Wow, I want to be raped too" , "Wow, I wish I'd been raped", or "Wow, I want to be a victim too."
It is cool to be a victim and cool to be a lesbian, both of the aspect of being cool center on rejecting men and men have done me wrong.