Dating in Modern times

[neonsamurai]

This is a link to advice by Doc Love.

I've got a lot of time for his advice as it put me back on the right tracks a few years ago after some horrific dating disasters and failed relationships.

Here's the link:

http://askmen.com/dating/doclove_250/252_relationship_expert.html

The Doc's never been a fan of 'Feministas' as he'd like to call them and is one of the reasons I've become interested in Men's Rights. Here he's letting rip at what's wrong with society, and how men are treated:

"1- Men are expected to cheat and it's their fault. This is part of the brainwashing our society -- especially the men -- is subjected to. Turn on Oprah if you don't believe me. She's the queen of the victims and she perpetuates this myth. Look at what she peddles. Check out the newspapers and magazines. All you see are stories about husbands murdering wives. They forget to tell you that one-third of the women who off their husbands don't go to jail! What about that side of the story? What about the men who are being raped in prison? Nothing, not a word do you hear! Why? Because the woman is the victim in America, and all men are bad by nature. The Feministas run things! Don't you guys get it?"

"So dude, you think the whole thing isn't fair. Tell me about it! Here's something to think about. If it weren't for the Internet, you wouldn't even be able to send me your questions. My columns have been turned down by every major men's magazine in the country and by every newspaper in the five western states because the powers that be don't want to hear what I'm saying."

If you get a chance check out his other articles

[LST]

I wonder how many men read his articles. I think that he is doing a good job educating them. But the number of readers is probably pretty small... the average guy doesn't read relationship advice articles. 8--(

[Gerard Velthuis]

at least it's a start

[neonsamurai]

I know that before I read his articles I was very depressed and confused about dating and women. I'd recieve an article like that '26 things a Perfect Boyfriend Would do' and try to put them into practice, only to get dumped so fast I didn't know what'd hit me.

If I'd read one of his articles in FHM, GQ, Esquire or Loaded back in 1995 my life would have been a whole lot better. I'm not just saying that. The fact that I now 'get' the whole dating scene has really changed my life.

I'd stumbled onto his articles after getting dumped via the internet (ahhh a woman of integrity) and went into a fit of depression, with massive amounts of self loathing and 'what if' questions:

"What if I'd held her hand more?"

"What if I'd taken her out more?"

"What if I'd shared my feelings with her more?"

It'd be interesting to see how many men commit suicide because of problems having relationships with women.

[RLA]

If I'd read one of his articles in FHM, GQ, Esquire or Loaded back in 1995 my life would have been a whole lot better. I'm not just saying that. The fact that I now 'get' the whole dating scene has really changed my life.

What do you mean by "get" the dating scene? What is your attitude now compared to before?

Nosy is my middle name!

[neonsamurai]

Nosy is your middle name? I thought your middle name began with 'L'

When I say 'get' I refer to the laws of attraction, because there definitely are laws.

If a woman isn't interested in you then cross her off the list, because she isn't worth wasting time on. This whole thing about being able to romance or 'chase' a woman is a bunch of BS. If you're not getting buying signals from a gal then don't bother pursuing her, as it won't work. Otherwise Brittany would have married one of her stalkers by now.

There are lots of pieces of advice that the Doc gives, but the core of what he says is 'be a man' and (maybe more importantly) never, ever apologise for doing so. As soon as I started doing that my whole life improved.

I really can't praise his advice enough, it's definately worth checking out, even if you're a regular 'player'.

[RLA]

I see. I agree with that.

I have a mate who was down about a girl he really liked, but who didn't want to know. He said "She's seen the best of me, and she said no thanks".

I said that successful relationships are about compatibility, not qualifications. If the mutual "thing" isn't happening then you could have a nobel prize hanging from you pocket and it wouldn't happen (though I didn't say "even if you were a millionaire she wouldnt" cos there are many women that would, and he still wouldn't "have" her in the way he wanted).

He eventually came around to thinking similarly.

[daksdaddy]

You need to learn to genuinelly not give a fuck about pussy. It's a hard thing to do because most North American men have been conditioned and pussified to do exactly the opposite. All the "get laid fast" tricks will be useless until you learn how not to give a fuck. And once you do, you will not really need any tricks.

It is never worth it to jump through hoops and to put a lot of effort into getting or keeping pussy if all you want is sex. Pussy is NEVER worth a lot of effort. Just do what you want to do with your time. If pussy wants to come along, great. If not, just tell her to get lost. If you can get pussy with very little effort, then great. But if not, pass on her and wait for another woman to come along. Sex is just a commodity. Spend your time and energy on making money, starting a business, or travel.

This is on the frontpage of my website
http://beatdeaddaddy.freewebtools.com/