I was browsing the askmen.com forum and this gem of a thread came up. Notice the responses start to get more and more blatant as to how this woman should use domestic violence and restraining orders to get all she can out of a divorce. Disgusting vile bitches. :evil:
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I asked my husband for a divorce. Told him I didn't love him and he said he loved me and was not leaving and wouldn't sign divorce papers.
He is a total pothead, works his ass off for no money, can't pay his bills ( I pay them) and would rather hang with his buddies than spend anytime with me.
Have I enabled him?
how do I unload this freeloader?
Jessie29
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(12/28/04 6:55 pm)
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ezSupporter
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Are you serious?
How about GET THE F*CK OUT YOU FREELOADER! Won't leave. That's priceless.
kaos1000
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(12/28/04 6:55 pm)
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Have you got a lawyer and filed?
kaos
The Punisher
also known as Frank Castle
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(12/28/04 7:02 pm)
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Start screwing around with one and get him to beat the @#%$ out of your husband.
bam73
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(12/28/04 7:03 pm)
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Hmm, seems to me that it only takes one to file? But then again, I've never had a divorce... maybe that varies from state to state?
Wandering Roman
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(12/28/04 7:09 pm)
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If you WANT a divorce here in the United States, guess what........you can get one anytime you want.
I actually question how much you really want a divorce. Sounds to me like you're just trying to get a reaction out of him.
bumper4409
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(12/28/04 7:14 pm)
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If you really want a divorce then just leave and file. If on the other hand you just wanted a reaction from him then I would not say you enabled him, but disabled him with your mind games. Start being real and maybe he will too.
ports85
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Posts: 418
(12/28/04 7:15 pm)
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Is him being a freeloader a good enough reason not to love him anymore?
I'm more or less a freeloader (going to school and barely working) and my parents still love me.
montanas
Mike's Property
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(12/28/04 7:17 pm)
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If she leaves, he has the bigger claim on the house.
You can STILL file for divorce even if he won't leave. You can have him served at work and include an order to vacate your home.
Wandering Roman
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(12/28/04 8:03 pm)
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"You can have him served at work and include an order to vacate your home."
Anticipated reply from the OP.
"But this would upset him and I don't really want to upset him."
CubsFan
Basal ganglia
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(12/28/04 9:14 pm)
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Get a lawyer, document the illegal drug use (take pictures), and file without him. Get a restraining order as you do it.
lilrichgirl
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(12/29/04 1:11 pm)
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You guys are so right. Thank you for your posts.
I do want a divorce though. I have contacted a few lawyers here to get information. I do know there is a 60 day waiting period after I file. Hubby said he wouldn't sign the papers and then says the till death do we part which scares the crap out of me. I just want to end it peacefully and am afraid of what he would do. I am seeing that there is no ending it peacefully.
I have been keeping the peace with him because he freaking intimidates me and I am scared of what he is capable of doing. He goes into these rages and then forgets about them the next day and won't believe me that he is acting like an ass.
I have him on tape doing drugs. plus a simple drug test can prove it as well.
thanks for your thoughts.
Jessie29
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Posts: 39
(12/29/04 1:13 pm)
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ezSupporter
Re: **slap**
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How about this, OP? Move out and get a f'ing restraining order. Why is this so @#%$ difficult?
BigSexy
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Posts: 957
(12/29/04 1:20 pm)
Reply listen closely
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When he is out of the house or working, pack up your bags, and call the police. Tell them that you need to get to a Women's Domestic Violence Shelter while your husband is gone becuase he has threatened to hurt you, and you are afraid to face him when he gets home.
Once they have referred you, GET OUT... If you end up at a shelter, the whereabouts are UNKNOWN, and he won't be able to find you if he tried. The counselors will help you with EVERYTHING, especially serving him with the divorce papers... And you will have a grounds for divorce (Domestic Abuse) which has resulted in your seeking to get out...Good luck girl
bumper4409
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(12/29/04 1:21 pm)
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lilrichgirl: You have to know he needs help. Drugs is a big thing. It messes up the mind contrary to what supporters would say. If you fear for your safety know that there are safehouses available for women. If children are in the home, all the more reason to get out immediately. If you have no idea whom to call start with the police. They will get you in touch with the appropriate agencies. Even if he has not slapped you around, his rages could be characterized as verbal abuse. Get it documented, and get out. I know this is a hard thing to consider right now, but you are not thinking clearly staying there. Get out so yo can take a step back and a deep breath. Good luck to you.
cktailhr
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(12/29/04 1:29 pm)
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From what my lawyer told me, for my state, once the spouse is served, they have 30 days to respond. If they do not respond in any way, shape or form, then whatever was requested in the divorce decree would be granted in the filers favor. It sounds like he is verbally threatening you, the question is, will he make good on the "death do us part". If you think he is and that he's just not bulldozing you, then run to the nearest womans shelter. You can always get another house but not another life.
Side question, you didn't know he was like this before you married him?
Ricardo
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(12/29/04 1:37 pm)
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"I have him on tape doing drugs. plus a simple drug test can prove it as well."
WTF is that supposed to mean ?
You planning on blackmailing him for a divorce ?
If you really are the breadwinner, just leave............
And take your dignity with you.
theroadlesstravelled
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Posts: 88
(12/29/04 1:58 pm)
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if he is a "freeloader" as you say, he wont be able to hire a lawyer to fight it, and the courts will grant it as uncontested....
There is no real thought process here, ....it's just do it time...
of course if that is what you REALLY want....
