Started by Gabriel, Mar 13, 2005, 03:29 PM
The differences continue as children grow. Girls hear better...Teen-age boys have much more trouble discussing their feelings.
Sax said he became interested in the subject of gender differences because as a family physician he began to see "a parade of second- and third-grade boys" being marched into his office by frantic parents, concerned that their sons suffered from attention-deficit disorder. He felt that the boys generally were just acting like boys and needed understanding not the medication that their teachers and often their parents wanted prescribed. Because boys' normal behavior is often considered problematic, Sax is concerned that boys these days are increasingly alienated from school. "Today's boy is much more likely to be struggling with school than his father was," he notes. "Recent investigations have shown a dramatic drop over the last 20 years in boys' academic performance." As a result, Sax has become an advocate of single-sex education, which he thinks would benefit boys -- and girls as well. This extremely readable book also includes shrewd advice on discipline, and on helping youngsters avoid drugs and early sexual activity. Sax's findings, insights and provocative point-of-view should be of interest and help to many parents.
Did any of you bother to read the rest of the article?
You guys are starting to react just as a mirror opposite of a feminist. READ the whole thing. THINK about the whole thing. This was an excellent article.
You guys are starting to react just as a mirror opposite of a feminist. READ the whole thing. THINK about the whole thing.
Wow. I just had a flashback to when I recently lived with a woman.
Teen-age boys have much more trouble discussing their feelings.
Boys are continually being short-changed in western educational systems by being denied access to curricula that contain much that is of interest to them. They are also being forced daily to deal with their school work through a feminine and feminist perspective.But it surely makes no sense at all to disadvantage educationally the very group of people - males - upon whom virtually the entire progress of the human race has depended, and upon whom, clearly, it will continue to depend.Here is the outline of a conversation that I had with a bright and keen ten-year old boy only a few days ago."How's school going, George?"" It's OK.""Are you getting on well?""Yep: I'm in the top group for everything.""That's great. Well done. What's your favourite subject?""Maths.""Are you good at Maths?""Yes. Quite good.""And what about the language work - the English?""Mmm. It's OK.""Do you like it?""No. Not really.""Why not?""We have to write stories.""Don't you like writing stories?""Nah.""But surely you can write whatever you like - most of the time?""No, we can't. We have to keep writing about people's feelings."And the following is a true anecdote concerning a young fellow who was being taught by the missus about 4 years ago.This was one of the brightest children that she had ever come across.He ended up being offered scholarships in all the top London schools to which he had later applied.At age 10.5 his Maths performance levels were about the same as those of an average 16 year old. His reasoning ability was easily in the top 0.5% of children his age.He was also a very hard worker.And do you know what he did whenever he had to write a story?He cried. And he cried. And he cried.And, without any exaggeration, it could take him an hour just to write four sentences of 'a story', so upset, so resentful and so helpless did he feel at having to do what, for him, was virtually an impossible task.Well. How many boys are going to end up making a living writing stories in which they have to describe people's feelings?Hardly any.So, what is the point in forcing all of our boys to spend so much of their precious educational time (starting usually at about age 7.00) doing such things?Where is the benefit? - given that it has such a negative affect on the attitudes of boys toward education.And if there are, indeed, any good reasons why boys should be given some insight into the art of writing stories that require the analyses of 'feelings', then why can this aspect of the curriculum not be delayed until the boys are about 13 or 14?And if teachers think that they really must get boys at a very early age to think about 'feelings' during their lessons, well, that's fine.That is not the problem!The problem is that they are forcing boys at an early age to spend hundreds of educational hours devoted to something that, by and large, has an extremely negative affect on all of their education and, for the vast majority of boys, there does not seem to be any benefit to be gained from doing this.Indeed, there is no valid objective research yet carried out to demonstrate that getting young boys to write about their feelings or anybody else's feelings is of any value at all!And if it was natural for boys to want to write about feelings whenever they create their stories then, presumably, they would happily do so!It is also worth noting that our politically-corrected teaching profession has for some time been advocating strongly that children should not have their spellings or their punctuation corrected (especially with red pens!) in their creative writing because it might discourage them from being creative.At the same time, however, the fact that boys are hugely discouraged from the whole subject area by having to attend to 'feelings' both in their writing and in their reading does not seem to trouble the teaching profession at all!Spelling and punctuation are out; feelings are in; no matter how much boys are put off by this.It is hardy surprising, therefore, that the UK currently has 7 million functionally-illiterate adults in its midst - mostly male - that it has a fair percentage even of graduates who seem remarkably unable to read or write decently - mostly male - and that it has far too many people - mostly female - forever demanding that their own feelings should be better catered for - even in the law - than the feelings of everybody else!
Did any of you bother to read the rest of the article?