Scary Girl

blackmanx · Apr 12, 2005, 04:08 PM

Ok. Something worries me. At my school, there's this girl named
Kristen. She's a weirdo. We never really met. I just saw her around. I never introduced myself to her or anything.

Yet I became the focus of her unwanted attention. A few months ago, she started following me places. It got to the point that I felt threatened and my family felt uncomfortable. I told Wendy (my gf) who advised me to tell school officials. I told my school advisor that I had good reason to believe this girl might be stalking me. My advisor and some other school officials had a chat with her and she backed off. I felt like I could finally breathe. Most men think that having a female stalker is cool but it's not. I actually felt scared !!!! Lately, she's been giving me dirty looks. I dont like staying anywhere alone with her and always make sure that there is someone else around, usually one of my friends. This girl terrifies me. I can sense that something inside her head is screwed up and other people at school can too.

What to do ?

LSBeene · Apr 12, 2005, 04:13 PM

Document, document, document. And ask friends: "hey, see that girl?" so that they remember seeing her and her actions.

Then REPORT it.

Dude, women don't fight fair, she's pissed and gonna "get you back" for HER STALKING your and you daring to REPORT IT.

Trust me, I've been there too.

Steven

blackmanx · Apr 12, 2005, 04:16 PM

Thanks, dude. OK, here goes. My buddies Kev and his bro Russ have seen her and heard me talk about how weird she is. They also know that she stalked me. Also, my advisor Jay ( a really nice guy) knows it too. He's the dude I originally went to in order to report it. I can feel that she might be trying to get back at me. I've been seeing her coming into open computer rooms where I am at. Usually, there are other people there so I am not worried she might try something. But with women, one never can tell. What do you think I should do ?

Assault · Apr 12, 2005, 04:21 PM

I would even go further and make a report to the local police. Just for the record, so you have it in case she tries the old domestic violence trick on you to screw your life up.

I would point this out to every sort of official I could find, just to be safe. And keep copies of the reports!

LSBeene · Apr 12, 2005, 04:31 PM

Definately listen to Assault's advice too.

But make sure you involve others, and that you document (time, date, brief blurb of event etc).

I know this sux, but this is the state of affairs today bro.

Steven

blackmanx · Apr 12, 2005, 06:02 PM

I just told my aunt. She's gonna tell my uncle. Naturally, being typical of their ignorant selves, they hit the panic button. It's a really messed-up situation. I also told the other kids in the house.
Welcome to my life.

LSBeene · Apr 12, 2005, 07:36 PM

No, welcome to the aftermath of the PC 90's.

It's not you. You're not alone. Sure we're all "just" connected by PC, but consider: you are no longer alone. You now have people who have been dealing with this, dealing effectively and getting things done about it, for years. You now have a WEALTH of information to guide you and protect you.

We can't be there in our physical form, but we can make sure you are not unarmed nor ignorant of what you face.

That's armor worth it's weight in gold.

Steven

blackmanx · Apr 13, 2005, 03:14 AM

Thanks. Here's what I am going to do. I am gonna talk to my advisor about this, again. I am also gonna change the way I move around, make my movements and schedule less predictable to make things harder for a certain female member of crazed stalkers anonymous. Also, I am gonna tell all my friends and acquaintances at school so that people know about it. I might have to go to court and get a restraining order, according to the lady at the Domestic Abuse Helpline For Men, which I called last night. I am also gonna stick close to exits and places with a lot of people. Stalkers are dangerous and sometimes armed. I've got no way of knowing if the stalker is armed or not but I'm not taking the chance. I'm gonna do this and emerge victorious, because I GOTTA !

Also, today, I'm gonna give a speech about Female Serial Killeers in one of my classes. It's strangely...fitting. I know my topic is unusual and bound to shock many. That's the way I like it. Yeah !!!!

Thanks, folks.

As usual, [email protected] is there for questions and comments.

Quasimodo · Apr 13, 2005, 04:31 AM

Beware. If you're alone with this broad for even a short while, I wouldn't put it past her to try the old ripped blouse, attempted rape gambit. Now, that's scary.

blackmanx · Apr 13, 2005, 05:49 PM

I've been thinking about that. I talked to my school advisor about her again this morning. I made sure to tell several friends of mine who knew of the psycho girlie. I never stayed alone even for a minute. I was always surrounded with people. After I told my advisor, he told me that the case was on file at the school and
I can access it anytime if I want. It's an official case file regarding the complaint I filed against the psycho girlie from the first time she started to stalk me. I didn't see her today. I don't know if that's a good thing or bad. My advisor tells me to relax. I will keep my guard up. I've only got 3 weeks of school left, including exams. I
hope the psycho girlie will leave me alone. If she doesn't, I will be forced to take legal action. I'll go to the police station and report it if she threatens me. I've got a case on file with the school. I've
got documented writings on the case and I've also got people who've seen her following me around. Hopefully, worse won't come to worst. My whole family knows now, by the way. For once, they are behind me on this.

LSBeene · Apr 13, 2005, 07:10 PM

Hey Bro,

Although we're only connected via some electrons, you may have noticed that many people have responded, offered suggestions, offered support, and are intensly (?sp) watching this thread.

We're here for ya. Just let us know if we can help.

Steven

Assault · Apr 14, 2005, 04:36 AM

Quote from: "blackmanx"

My advisor tells me to relax. I will keep my guard up. I've only got 3 weeks of school left, including exams. I
hope the psycho girlie will leave me alone.

Ok, I'd just like to add that I think you shouldn't let this chick possibly ruin your academic career. Try to stay focused on your work and don't let this psycho have so much power over you that you can't concentrate on what's most important....YOU.

Good luck with your exams.

LSBeene · Apr 14, 2005, 01:15 PM

Quote from: "Assault"

Quote from: "blackmanx"
My advisor tells me to relax. I will keep my guard up. I've only got 3 weeks of school left, including exams. I
hope the psycho girlie will leave me alone.

Ok, I'd just like to add that I think you shouldn't let this chick possibly ruin your academic career. Try to stay focused on your work and don't let this psycho have so much power over you that you can't concentrate on what's most important....YOU.

Good luck with your exams.

GOOD point. Well said.

Study hard and good luck on the exams.

Steven

blackmanx · Apr 15, 2005, 09:01 AM

Well, as I am typing this, I am in the computer room at school. The "Scary Girl" is there as well. There are a couple of other people there as well. I was typing up my homework when she walked in. I'm gonna go to class now. I'm done with my work. I don't know if it's coincidence that she walked in or not. I don't know. I can only hope for the best. I've told a few people about it. My advisor. The director of student affairs. Some acquaintances. A teacher. I really hope it might make a difference if worse comes to worst. I'm signing off. Wish me luck. Peace.

LSBeene · Apr 15, 2005, 11:26 AM

See? Good man, you evendocumented and date/time stamped her being there by posting it.

Don't become obsessive and let it distract you from your studies, but do keep informing people.

Steven