Much of what Femonazis and women in gerneral say are reflections of their own attitudes, projected on to others, particularly men. Much od what they say just cannot be trusted. So they will carry on about it being horrible to 'blame the victim' yet do precisely that when in a divorce situation. Blaming the victim is very familiar to most women. They do it all the time. It cannot be her fault after all.
A man, a victim?? Don't be silly. Its his fault.
A woman thinks about divorce for a long time. She does not communicate this to her husband ( 'We women are better communicators than men - why don't you talk to me') but surprises him with the decision. She knows she is breaking her vows, she knows she is wreaking huge damage to him and the children for her own selfish ends, and feels huge guilt. So she projects that guilt onto her husband, Its all his fault.
She has done wrong. She knows that and she knows that punishment is due. So she projects that on to him too. He must be punished in her place. She will find or invent any crime to convince herself that he is in the wrong. Even forgetting the anniversary day (and the exact time and the description of the dress she wor) of the first flower he bought for her, is a crime of epic consequence. Each addition 'misdemeanor' reinforces her view that he is baaaddd. He deserves what he gets. He is soooooo bad that it would be remiss of her to let her children anywhere near such a bad person, so she deliberately stops him whenever and by whatever means she can (for the children's sake).
She loves hiding behind the children - it reminds her of when, as a child, she used to hide behind her mom's skirts. Its her turn now.
As to the question of why do they say "I would never ....." etc, well, that may well be their feeling at the time, what would you expect her to say - until they change their mind ( a woman's perogative, not a man's mind you).
And they know their power because they have a mental shotgun that they carry around all the time. They are obliged by the various departments of state, organisations, television, women's magazines etc to be fully aware that they have a great responsibility (to the children of course) to keep it well oiled and within easy reach. Because, unlike her, he is 'potentially' a violent rapist who is no further up the chain than any other dumb animal. She loves animals by the way, - she is so nice. The Law is the barrel, lawyers the comfortable stock, Femonazi propaganda is the sights, no-fault divorce the trigger, children more often than not are the cartridges.
Men enter a marriage without a shotgun. If he had a shotgun like hers he would be aware of it all the time too.
Add to that the fact that men love women more than women love men. Much of their interaction has been a biologically driven dance of cognitive dissonance. She continually asks him to do things for her ( 700% more often than he askes of her) and each time he complies, he loves her more (read your corolleries to Cognitive Dissonance). He bonds closer in his heart to her while she remains at a distance. He continually pursues her. He does for her most of the time. The more a man does for a woman the more vulnerable he becomes. ( 'Men are not vulnerable enough, if only they would open up their hearts to women").
Add to that, that 'honour' is not something ones associated immediately with women. ("words mean everything to a woman').
