Started by Graboid, Jun 25, 2005, 07:17 AM
QuoteWhen , if ever, will they see men who are falsely accused of this crime ever going to be seen as victims? Sadly, I fear that will never happen. Attitudes are cavalier at best, but usually downright hurtful, uncaring and ignorant toward proven victims of false accusations. Dropped charges? Found not guilty in a court of law? Makes no difference to too many persons. It seems to be human nature to only remember that someone was charged, not that he or she was cleared. I hold the media highly culpable in this regard as well. We are still waiting for all the articles about how T's case never went to trial. Ain't gonna happen. I was managing a store other than my own the other day, and the IDIOT pharm tech told me, right in front of customers, that he knew my fiance was the man who was in jail years ago. He even used his last name.Funny, you think no one remembers and then out of the blue....I had to go outside to hide a full-blown panic attack. Sure, maybe everyone with whom I normally work KNOWS who T is, but they are not idiot enough to tell me to my face - IN FRONT OF CUSTOMERS. After I finished crying, I went back in, pulled the shit-for-brains cretin in the stock room, and let him have it and told him if he EVER did anything like that again, I would see to it that he would be out of work for the rest of his sorry life and I'd sue the store and company for breach of HIPPA policy, since T. is a former customer of that particular store. I think I used the word fucktard a few times as well. It was all I could do to keep from beating the crap out of him. (Yes, women definitely can be as violent as men.)All in all, I handled it very badly, to say the least. Fortunately, I think I scared him so badly he isn't going to mention it to my boss. Since no one will hire T due to the charges, and our businesses aren't making any money, I really need this crappy job. I should have kept my mouth shut, but it just hurt too damned much. T is the finest man I have ever met, and I cannot deal with the calumnization and demonizing of such a wonderful man.But that's not what is important here. T has lived with this every day of his life for years now. It breaks my heart. But he is so brave.... Every day, reminders of what happened. Shunned by neighbors....If we could leave the area, we would, but the ex has his hands tied...it's a long, convuluted story. My heart goes out to any man (or woman) whose life has been ruined by false accusations.
When , if ever, will they see men who are falsely accused of this crime ever going to be seen as victims?
Conspiracy Theory, thank you so much. It's messages such as yours that help ameliorate the pain to some extent.I Do have a pre-paid legal plan...I got it because thought it might be useful to T. and myself. It only costs me $5.50 a month because I get it through my job.