I remember when my attorney said something to me about "visitation". I gave him the "LOOK", and said "I don't visit my children, I raise them". After that he understood where I stood. I have completely equal custody, and the kids see us both about 70/70, if you include Boy Scouts, Little League etc. We trade every Sunday night, keep them for seven days. We live about 3/4 of a mile apart. I do not like my ex at all, total bitch. But she is a good mom, and the kids adore her, as it should be. I never let on my feelings around the kids, and I encourage them to love her. I hope all of the men here can find a way to have something like this, but shared parenting has a fight ahead of it.