I haven't seen Hitch.
The transporter thing kind of hit home with me. I was accused of being indifferent to my children (absolutely untrue). That father didn't attend soccer practice apparently but that doesn't mean he didn't care for his son. He was all excited. He had just bought his son a baseball bat, etc. for his son's birthday. The mother was disgusted that he didn't know that his son really liked soccer better than baseball. Horrible father? She ruined the moment -- the kid's birthday. Even assuming he is imperfect, does that justify this kind of poisonous conduct (a relationship can only take so many moments like these). Yes, like you say, no man would be portrayed in a sympathetic light (as she definitely was) who attempted to cheat on his wife. That is far worse than not being completely up to date on his son's favorite sport. The transporter is a morally ambiguous figure. He in his first movie transported illegal items. There was suggestion that in the next movie he will again. However, he lives by strict rules. He declined to the invitation for an affair with another man's wife (the right thing to do) although he obviously found her attractive. In any event, it was a good action flick despite this wrong portrayal of a "sympathetic" yet actually abusive and immoral wife. Not a positive role model at all.
Another example of role reversal. If a man acted disgusted and destroyed an important day like birthday, anniversary, christmas, or even just a weekend based on some imperfect of his wife, he would be considered abusive. Suppose she bounced the checkbook or whatever. He would be expected to accept the imperfection graciously. He should do that. Anything other than intentional hurtful acts should be graciously tolerated -- after all we are all human. He was imperfect by not knowing his child's favorite sport -- but is hardly a major bad act. The man obviously had to be a diligent worker based on his obvious wealth. Is it small surprise that he cannot attend soccer practice. After all, where did the term "soccer mom" come from. Nobody is perfect.