Unless an able person makes a specific intent clear before the fact there is no rape.
There's no kinda-sorta. There's no "But that's not what I meant". There is no
non-pay/non-cuddle/day/week/month/ year later remorse. There are no "discovered by hypnosis" repressed memories.
In my world a marriage ceremony implies ongoing consent for procreation.
Sure, any woman that cares to may make her intent known to
refuse immidiate, or future sexual relations. This would, of course, immediately ANNUL outright
ALL other implied provisions of the union.
Sorry honey, I just didn't FEEL like generating resources today to maintain
the "lifestyle" you've NOW become accustomed to.
And NO, there's no "well what about someone who crosses the international dateline and becomes kidnapped by terrorists,, subjecting them to the Stockhlom...blah..blah..blah......crap. Please don't waste my time with ANY crap along those lines.
"But I have a lawer!" is certainly an acceptable consideration for every god damned petty non-issue buried with passive/aggressive revenge by proxy, when it's clearly understood that I chose to bury the real threats to my life with other means.
Of course, I'm always willing to entertain other opinions, but I certainly couldn't be bothered by much that the State cares to try to impose.