A man giving up his seat to a woman who he knows is equally capable of standing on her own is different. It's a gesture that doesn't (as some feminist suggest) imply women are weak. It's a simple show of respect.
Change the genders in this snippet. I would not advocate holding breath waiting for a woman to 'show some respect' and offer her seat to a man.
Gentlemanly conduct isn't about women at all. It's about men and their sense of themselves
True. It is about men valuing themselves, upholding good conduct, and expecting such from others. What on earth has defering to women and offering a seat to them to do with it? It is the women's demand, that's what. So let them demand away and get short shrift as a response. A gentleman does not measure his worth against a female yardstick.
It's a simple show of respect. Respect not just for the woman, but also for himself. It shows that this man believes himself to be a gentleman and holds himself to high standards.
When women show the same high gentlemanly standards, then they may sit. Until then they can stand or walk behind along with the men of low standard.
The author has adopted the feminist attitude that for women to be equal with men, they must also be the same
There is no such 'feminist' attitude shown. Women do not have to be the same as men, just show the same standard of decent self-sufficient and considerate behaviour.
The writer just doesn't get it, either from ignorance, sheer bloody mindedness or entitlement, take your pick.