Hmmm....miscommunication. I meant what I said, Q
Quite possible; again mea culpa. Probably different standards of sarcasm.
[She looses] Control over her own body.
How so? This would be rape, not sex. Your position is equivilent to saying that if a wife persuades a husband to buy her something, he's lost control of his financies.
This is not the case. He might have been persuaded, but in the final analysis, he had a veto. If this was used or not matters little; he has the final choice. In the same way, the women in our scenario has a final choice. She could say no, and mean/implement it.
Whether men have a right to use women's bodies for their own pleasure whether we like it or not.
Hmmm. No, this is not what we were talking about, as I understood it. The scenario we were discussing was the more or less consensual sex currently in vogue (as we seemed to have moved off strict rape some posts ago). This is the case where women agree to have sex, or are persuaded to have sex.
Your statement would allow me, if true, to knock on the next door along, and force myself on the girl living there. This would be rape, no question.
If she hints, looks worried, tries to get up, says no but is ignored
Phebe, please. Believe it or now, pretty much every female past the age of 16 I've met since since I became remotely interested in the sex has had the capability of make her desires perfectly clear in a very cutting manner, with words alone.
I've seen it (and suffered it) enough times to know this. To say that "she hints, looks worried..." is equivilent to a single "No" is like saying that bondage is tying someone up with spiderwebs. It's just not strong enough.
Rape is not rape, very simply, if the female in question is in the postion to say "No" (within some limits, see below) and does not do so.
Seems harsh, hmm? Well, untill until society (and women) in general accept equal responsiblity for sex and women drop the act of "All women are virgins and don't want sex" men will have to use some form of verbal persuasion.
They will have to ignore minor "no" signals in some situations. It's impossible to tell if she means them, or if she enjoys the attention and just wants you to try harder!
Anything short of a firn "No" or something as clear, anything that would require serious interpretation is not enough.
"But we've an exam tomorrow" could mean "I don't want to have sex" or "Make me forget about it...please!" or "And after this, we can revise together" or......
Is overpersuade a word? From........
So it would appear that it's an American word, not and English one. Fair enough. However, it would appear to be a synonym of persuade; indeed, from the dictionary entries on dictionary.com, the two mean the same thing.
Would you be willing to use persuade, not overpersuade?
In which case....
it may be "overpersuasion" rather than rape, but she has still lost control of what happens
becomes "it may be 'persuasion' rather than rape, but she has still lost control of what happens".
Which makes no sense. If your persuaded, you (eventualy) choose to say yes. Which would make her mad.....why?